Women and asperger's

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Having close friends that you can count on one hand sounds good, assuming you mean more than zero. I have one female friend who I was really close with when we were adolescents, then we grew apart for about 10 years. She is going through a divorce now and as I am there to support her (or attempt to, as best an aspie can), I suppose we are close again. But I really don't think I have the same kind of close relationship that NT females have. I've never had a friend who would just call up randomly and want to "hang out", etc.

I have had more close male friends, but again, this could never be the sort of close relationship that two NT females could have.

As for work, I was a Data Analyst last year after studying psychology. I quit my job a couple of months ago due to AS issues (only recently confirmed), and now I am really struggling to find work. I'd like to set myself up as a proofreader, but as nobody cares about that stuff anymore I would find it hard to make enough money!

Story of my life! I've been a member of a meetup group for the 'socially inept' for about a year, but I always chicken out when it comes time for an event. I don't have any friends right now, but it's difficult to get motivated. I'm an electronics tech at a laser factory.

I have a few close female friends, most of them aspies. My best friend is my lover, she's like me in so many ways and yet different. I always feel a bit left out when my not so close female friends talk about make-up, or boyfriends or careers. It just feels so alien to me. Oh and I'm a university student, majoring in literature

I work behind the counter at a petrol station.

As for friendships, I definitely get along better with guys. My interests are more similar.

I'm part time self employed (working at making it full time). I also prefer male friends. My best friend (also my flatmate) is a male. It drives me crazy though when people see us out together and assume we're a couple... grrr Woman are too chatty for my liking and they get jealous easily. Had to deal with jealous female "friends" in the past... no thanks, never again. Don't need that.

I don't relate well to most other women either. I haven't worked since my daughter was born 6 years ago, but I don't have the expected lifestyle of a mum with a husband who earns enough to keep the family. I know a few others mums who do the regular coffee shop meetup and go shopping together. But, that's not my lifestyle at all and I don't tend to get asked anyway. As I'm friendly and chatty, I think others think I must have loads of friends and they're just an acquaintance to me. I don't think it would ever occur to most people that there's only one or two women in my life that I would feel comfortable approaching to arrange a coffee morning with. I speak with others in the playground and when I'm waiting for my daughter when she's at after school classes. Playground Mum is my best friend and athletics Mum is a very good friend. My daughter and I sometimes have playdates with my best friend and her 2 boys, but it's not every week. I don't go out shopping with other women, ever.

But, honestly, I don't mind. I like my own company and meeting with others now and again. I do my housework, go to Zumba (go on my own, but speak to others there), spend time on the internet and try to do a bit of art. Evening and weekends are spent with my daughter, husband and sometimes my parents or another couple and their kids. It's just right for me. I don't complain that others don't ask me out to coffee very often. If I really wanted to, I could ask them, couldn't I? Maybe not, but it doesn't tend to worry me these days. Perhaps when I was younger, I'd have felt left out, but I don't worry about that nowadays. But, I do have my family, so that's obviously a bonus.

Now, I'm starting to notice the women who have kids the same age as mine going back to work. I don't even know where to start looking. It won't be my old job, or anything like it, definitely not anything that involves a lot of speaking on the phone or supervising a team. I don't really want to be relying on child care, especially when we don't really need the money - my husband doesn't have a huge wage but we don't need more than we have. Working from home would be ideal. Where are those jobs?

i work in a office at an early intervention agency i also volenteer at some special needs programs i want to eventually get a paying job workig with kids

Hmm, it seems that the job question must have gone past me. I'm studying to be a mechanic. My last job was a security guard/bouncer and working at a club.
I also volunteer for the Red Cross and I've taken a few shifts at an homeless shelter.

I work in the medical field....and most of my friends are male as well. I can also count my female friends on one hand.

~Kate

Guys are easier to talk to, since my interests tend to be similar to theirs. They can be a burden. Most want a particular 'something' that I cannot provide. Now, I tend to avoid them. I do have one good buddy, who is the only person on this planet that I can relate to.

Often I wonder what it is like to have a real lady friend. I have nothing in common with most ladies I meet. Children, marriage, clothes, makeup etc.... don't interest me. I do have three female acquaintances all from the university I attend, where I am studying science.