Do you love or hate touch?

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I've had some people get mad at it and hurt at it. But then, most of them never realise you can feel those things when they try touching you all the time. Found with a lot of people they seem to wanna take and never give despite there's something mentally not right in your brain which is making you not want to be touched. They never seem to understand we're not purposely trying to hurt/annoy them.

I didn't select any options because I don't love or hate it. It's just something that never bothers me, one way or another. I don't hate being touched, so I just say I don't mind it.

I do love it when my head or back gets touched. Ohhh yeeahh!

I have had people tell me that the only people who hate to be touched are those who have been molested as a child. Then he had fun running telling people I was molested as a kid. He began making a game of it where everyone was accused and were figuring out how they did it. He made the mistake of telling our union rep who was molested when he was little so he was not happy about. He got the guy fired only because it pissed him off not because he was harrassing me.

Yeah I have apparently hurt peoples feelings, and have had people get mad at me and question me...like what is wrong with me. I have also overreacted badly enough to unwelcomed touch to the extent of yelling at someone.

The guy acted like that as an adult in a workplace? o.O Pretty pathetic if so. Something I've noticed, most people are selfish and only get involved if/when it relates to them. Really sad world we live in.

I dont mind touch that I am familiar with, but hate touch I am unfamiliar with. e.g. I dont care whether or not someone from my family wants to hug me but if someone else hugs me I will freeze mentally and physically until they let go, if I see it coming I will move away, if I have some warning I can usually avoid freezing but still dislike it.

It took me 3mnths to get used to my current physios touch, when he had a student with him for a few weeks I hated the student touching me and had to ask for the student to not touch me.

I think it is partly sensitivity to touch, partly due to control and partly due to feeling like my personal space is being invaded.
Touch is ok if I am used to it from that person. I dont mind controlled hand touch that I am expecting, or if I am touching someone else with only my hands and am in control of the touch. At my work I sometimes need to touch people, I dont mind this because I am in control of the touch and it is repetitive focused movements. Someone surrounding me with their body is out of my control. I feel like when people touch me they are getting too close to me.

I dont't like getting touched unexpectedly; but I can tolerate touched if I expect them (for example in crowded trains).

I also really like deep pressure . I made a "sand bag" for this purpose - it weighs 110 lbs (50 kg) and for me it's very calming and relaxing to lie under it or having it on my lap .

"I'm female and dislike any touch".

the only physical contact I've ever been comfortable with, was when we had play fights or played rougher games like british bulldog as kids.

Actual touching... Yikes! It makes me tense and uncomfortable, always has. I don't like touching people either.


I like the deep touch, but I use things to be able to feel it

I am male and only if I initiate it.

I find touch uncomfortable and awkward. I'm not a fan of hugs.

I only lonesome touch. Aside from family who I can't eerily fight about touch there are about 2-3 people who I let touch me. I shake away and say stop to other people.

I dont really like touch except I like my hair played with...that is soothing, but when someone rubs my arm or something...my skin crawls. Deep hugs are comforting, but light touch gives me the heebee jeebees and makes my skin tingle. Also some parts of my body are more sensitive than others. Coming up behind me and hugging me without warning...is a good way to get a broken nose.
I gave my then boyfriend a black eye one morning when he decided to kiss me while I was sleeping. I totally did not remember that though, but he told me he bent down to kiss me good morning and I punched him in the eye. Never play sleeping beauty with an aspie.

Jojo

I hate hate hate hate hate touch. I have had so many meltdowns from people touching me. My mom my dad my brother friends strangers. I can't handle it. If I am in a hugely crowded area like 5 days ago in new York with people shoving and all the smells and the people who could have weapons and the germs. I got in to NYC and had 4 meltdowns 2 on the train one on the street and one in the m&m store. Have I mentioned how much I hate being touched?

Someone who was hugging me and kissing my face and hands periodically when I was volunteering somewhere several years ago didn't like it when I asked her not to do that. She said, "You know, some people might be offended by your telling them that." She was kind of getting drunk at that point, because everyone had taken a break to go out to eat. I just replied, "Yeah, but I'm glad you're okay with it," and hoped she'd be too embarrassed to deny that she was okay with being asked not to make that kind of contact with me. I thought she was creepy by then, and I was trying to make her see that she was being creepy. I think it worked, because she didn't object any further. It was one of those few times when I actually nailed a good handling of a situation like that. I usually get surprised by people touching me or trying to push me around, and I end up tolerating things I hate and trying to be polite about it. On that particular occasion, though, I'd been touched in a way I didn't like several times before by this woman, and I was talking about it with her at a separate time from those moments, bringing it up at the time of my choosing instead of in reaction to the contact having just happened. It made me kind of nervous to do it, but it gave me better control to pick that time.

I like touch when I know what to expect before hand. I like to both give and get hugs. But I prefer to sleep alone. I can't stand listening to someone breath next to me all night. I've been known to roll over and ask that person to stop breathing so I can sleep. I like to sleep in a pile of pillows, stuffed animals and blankets.

Lite touching and tickling makes my skin crawl also. I tell people to touch me harder. Men take that the wrong way and think I am talking about sex. My mother used to touch me lightly on purpose just to hear me scream " Don't touch me" then she would make fun of me.

I honestly don't care, unless I'm getting smothered or something.