I want to stop daydreaming...

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i love day dreaming that when I Anticpate my day baseed what going on aroundfd i call awake yet dreaming ur aware but in ur own space at the sametime. i use really dreamy nonthmpy trance for a gooddaydream

I've had the same problem. What helps for me is looking around, looking at evrything that happens arond me and what people do. It helps me getting back ''on earth''. Focus on the world around you, and when you think, think than about actusl, real things from your daily life. Not that interesting, but it can help you to control your daydreaming.

My own theory on autism is that it's very much about focus. We have a level of focus that is higher than the majority of NTs, and I think we have problems widening that focus. Imagine if you had a flash light that could be adjusted to a wide angle so that the light could fill a room, but can also be adjusted down to a wide beam, and right down again so that all the light is concentrated into a point, almost like a laser pointer. I believe that our flashlight is stuck on that narrowest of beams, and it can be difficult for us to widen out the beam.

That's where I think our day dreaming comes from. If the environment around us doesn't stimulate our minds, it creates it's own stimulation, because it needs to be focusing on something.

Again, this is only my own personal theory, but I believe that if we can exercise ourselves to properly control and direct our focus, we can truely unlock the powerhouse that's inside us. I believe that this focus is what allows for savant abilities, but what if you could direct that same focus into other areas of your choosing?

There is of course another theory that we create our own reality, and if we can day dream it, it happened, just not in this realm of reality.

Is over the road truck driving a good job for an Aspie? I basically need to work on backing up. Then driving shouldn't be too much of a problem. I haven't used my CDL for quite a while.

Most of my time is actually spent daydreaming. Although sometimes I wish I would stop, it comes in handy most of the time. It gives me great ideas. And helps me keep cheered up.

What a lot of you are describing sounds like Maladaptive Daydreaming. It's a condition that causes excessive daydreaming. Some people with this problem will pace or do other stimming type behavior while daydreaming. Here is a website about it:

http://www.daydreamingdisorder.webs.com/

What you are all describing sounds like what I have, which is called Maladaptive Daydreaming. It's a condition that causes excessive daydreaming. The daydreaming is often elaborate and detailed, like a book or movie. Take a look at this website to learn more:


http://daydreamingdisorder.webs.com/

I loove truck driving! and I havn't had an accident I caused in over a million miles. I have had a couple that wern't my fault though so it a possability I could have avoided them had I not been daydreaming but on the other hand I actually have found myself slamming on the brakes and avoidance steering BEFORE I jerked out of the daydream sorta. The secret to driving safe is to be laid back, let everybody merge into your lane, stay back, keep up with traffic but in a laid back kinda way.

But on the main topic, I am concerned about not being present, like am I dreaming my life away? Being busy seems to help but in a busy social situation then the mental zonk will happen to me where I'm not present in any capacity so I don't know.

It sucks but I've joined a couple groups and I've been purposfully socialising for the first time in my life and it's becoming my assessment that we're all crazy but some people are better at coping with it than others. I don't know what that means either.

In 5 decades I have not found a way to stop the daydreams/fantasy world stuff from happening. I have gotten more control, but I was a complete space cadet in Elementary & Middle School (Junior High) in my childhood. roblem was my inner world was a lot more interesting than the class. And when it was not, I was reading books in class. Not texts, that is. Teachers tend to frown on this!
I still daydream or get lost in memories (more often this) all the bloody time. Though a good movie I will pay attention to. So Promethus better be worth my 6-9 bucks this weekend!

Sincerely,
Matt
PS. Finding something relating to a special interest seems the only remedy to this I ever found.

PS Ps..
I also tend to stim more when I daydream. REALLY bad during my youth & into puberty..