Would You Prefer To Date an Aspie or an NT?

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I'm engaged to an Aspie with avoidant personality disorder. I like the fact that he doesn't want to socialize all the time either, although we usually have a good time if we do any socializing together. He has major executive function issues, I do too, but mine are mild. Usually I am the catalyst to get him doing something. For example if he has the day off and has promised to fix something around the house, he is pretty good about doing it. But there are times when I have to remind him because he gets caught up in video games or just generally sitting in front of his computer for hours, procrastinating about things that need doing.

How about "a nice person regardless of whether they are aspie or NT"?

Is executive function disorder a nice way of saying someone is lazy?

Neither. I am a hermit, and don't date anyone. I have gone to restaurants, movies, and a few other places on my own. That's okay with me. Being with others can be a problem, so I prefer to hang out by myself.

I voted I prefer to date an NT. I have been with an aspie before and it didn't work out. but I don't think it was the AS that ruined the relationship but it still made me prefer to stick with NTs. I would vote it depends but that option was not available so if I had to pick, I would go with NT.

Not quite. Though it may sometimes look like laziness to an outside observer. I think I've got a bit of it myself.

I'm able to put tons of energy into things I care about (and I'm not just talking about things I enjoy, I hate work but care about supporting myself so I actually work quite hard).

At the same time, there are certain necessary things that, for whatever reason, it just doesn't occur to me to do them. Like I'll get hungry, go to the fridge, and find it empty. But despite having plenty of spare time, and enough money, it just doesn't occur to me to go to the grocery store. It'll take me a day or two to drag myself away from whatever unimportant bs is occupying my mind to go take care of the whole eating thing.

Same deal with other stuff, like keeping my car gassed up. I can afford the gas, I can see the needle getting closer and closer to empty, I know I'm screwed if it runs out. But still, for some reason, I just don't think to pull into a gas station until I'm on fumes and can barely make it there.

I wouldn't put either of them as criteria.

Having dated one of each, I would have to say I would prefer an Aspie. My first relationship was with an NT, and she cheated throughout the relationship.

My second relationship was with an Aspie, and she didn't cheat. However, her hesitance to talk about sex (even three years into the relationship), and the fact that she was 1,200 miles away, doomed the relationship.

That said, I still prefer an Aspie, but she would have to be mild AS like me, with a rather high sex drive, and must like to travel.

Unless it's Mick Avory...

Does anyone get nightmares because of mds_02's avatar? My goodness! Just looking at it triggers a seizure!

It is so hard to find Aspies to date in my area. So if I meet an NT woman, and she likes and accepts me for who I am, and helps me enhance my social skills a little bit, then I will consider dating her.

I hate dating and I don't really feel the need to date to be honest, but I am curious what it would be like to date a real aspie guy. Not someone who pretends to have aspergers or thinks he has aspergers though. A real one.

Well. I can share an example. I am aspie, and so is my fiance. When we were first dating, he would come over my house and we would watch movies together. We would both sit there, both wondering if it would be alright to make a move. We were both afraid to do the wrong thing. This went on for weeks. Finally I volunteered to hold hands. Once that was accepted, we were able to move on to other things... But lacking the ability to read non verbal cues made it really hard.

I would rather date a NT they are better to be with.

Last edited by Quinntilda on 05 Jun 2012, 10:05 am, edited 2 times in total.

NT it has just worked out much better when ive done that