Has anyone ever told you how you really come across?

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I think so too ... sociopaths must see everything like a very superficial game, and when they see someone defying the rules and still being accepted, I think it makes them confused and angry. They can only conceive of things in terms of this game, that goes by certain rules. When there's a chance someone not playing the game might be accepted, I think it infuriates them because they don't want things to become genuine - they could not do well in that sort of environment and it probably scares them. Plus I think they see that not playing the game, and being accepted, is something they'll never be able to do.

On two occations two different people have told me I look angry. And all I did in those situations were that I tried to consentrate on the conversation. When I frown my eyebrows, that have been called my "angry look" by other people again, I guess I must do it more often than I intend.

I do appreciate the feedback, it gives me a chance to correct my behaviour.

Sometimes referred to as arrogant. Sometimes shy, sometimes aloof. Everyone is different. Mostly I ignore it. But the one criticism I dont ignore is when I am told I dont listen. I tend to ramble on and on. Now that I concentrate on listening, it has made things much better. That is why I listen more now, even though it goes against my natural inclination to dominate conversations.

"You make people nervous, thus they are uncomfortable around you. You stand aloof." Something that I didnt realize until counseled about it. This event centered around people approaching me and introducing themselves. I recall feeling the 'butterflies' in my gut, but I didnt read them that way....interesting.

I could go on about these all day long. " why is he so private," etc etc...........>>>>

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Yes, my dad tells it how it is.

NTs don't lie all the time, you know. My family are always honest with me because they want to help, because they know I suffer with anxieties and need the truth to overcome certain anxieties.

People only lie depending on the context, they don't lie about anything and everything. If they know you really need an honest opinion in desire to improve yourself, they will want to be honest with you, especially if they know you well enough and don't want you to stand out.

Anyway, how many Aspies and Auts here have been called ''weird'' to your face? Saying that to someone's face is being honest and unconsiderate of your feelings. I would of thought NTs would socially know better not to come out with that to someone and kept their honest opinion to themselves.....

About 3804 times from age 3 to 18, but I guess they eventually learned as they grew older and keep it to themselves.
(I hear it now and then still, but only from kids)

Being called "weird" never bothered me, it I don't know why but it makes me smile.

I've never had someone honestly tell me how I come across to them but I wish they would because it would probably help me to improve my social habits. Although I get called a "dork" a lot (in a nice way) because I do or say awkward things, and sometimes people will tell me that I look sad to them, especially when I was in school. At this point I would welcome someone to come over and critique me.

I was convinced that I was just like Ray Davies when I was in my early 20s. I compared myself to him many times a day and made up diets, so I could be super thin like him which was very hard for me to do. I prided myself as being the strong but AS type leader with that unusual accent that he has. I thought that if I ate less of this and more of that, I'd go from looking like Mick Avory to looking like Ray Davies. I even started to see Ray when I looked in the mirror because I wanted to be the thin, quick minded leader.

I became sick with Depression, Psychosis and Anxiety in 1998 and my mum was looking at me from the other side of the couch. She glared at me and said, "The darling, unworldly Mick Avory with hands like shovels, who wouldn't dare choose to hurt a soul. You came pretty close to Mick Avory, - than my first and last name - You came pretty close to Mick Avory." I was surprised to hear that, and she meant it. When a person says something twice in a row like that, they mean it.

This one is sooo very understood.

I get told quite often that I speak too loudly or too softly.

I have been told I am sarcastic or snarky. In real life people have thought I was being sarcastic when I wasn't. But sometimes I think you can be sarcastic unintentionally and snarky because you had no awareness of it when you said it.


I have been called weird and I took it as a compliment in my teens. AS a kid it was always an insult. That is because they meant it in a bad way. In high school, it was just a compliment and they weren't being critical of me when they said it. They liked me and enjoyed my company and so telling me I am weird all of a sudden, why turn on them and think they were fakes and insulting me all of a sudden? Even if some stranger said it to me and I didn't even know them well and I hardly ever interact with them, I wouldn't even let that word bother me. Someone once called my anxiety issues weird and I thought it was an insult, that is because he was not a nice person so I took it as such. It all depends on the person and how they treat me or what kind of people they are for me to interpret the word. I can take it as a compliment or as an insult and it depends on the person. Even if it was an insult, I still wouldn't let it get to me. Then other times I wouldn't know it's an insult or not if I don't know them well. I wouldn't know if they mean it in a bad way or good way. I would just ignore it and not let it bother me.

I've been told that I look unhappy when I'm not.

I was told yesterday "you either don't talk at all or you spit out a bunch of completely random stuff". This was after I had just finished a very long line of speech, completely off the top of my head, and then someone asked me if it was from a movie, or what it was from, and I just said "I made it up as I was saying it".

i get told im too serious, shy, humourless, a cold bit#^, behind my back some people describe me as "quiet but nice", i am too intense and i stare too much. all because i do not cry at funerals, do not laugh at every joke, dont talk to people, come off as asexual and tend to talk about the same thing a lot. i do not ordinarily get continuous feedback any more.