Azereiah wrote:
The people in India seem to care by default, eh? Cultural differences are great.
Perhaps you could work on seeming like a happier person. Smile more, even if you don't like socializing.
I dont think it has to do with smiling. I mean Americans are the ones who smile a lot. In India it seems normal not to smile. I think it has more to do with some other things that make me look weird. Like in one case I spilled drink over my shirt so an Indian decided I must be a bum which means that I cant possibly have money for the laptop I was caring therefore it must have been stolen so that Indian, in fact, turned me into police station!
Then there was another time when some Indians decided I look similar to some photograph of someone missing from Australia. Indeed I do look very similar to the guy they have shown me. But still, the fact remains that I am not from Australia and I KNOW IT. Yet, they didnt believe me and insisted on taking my address in India to check with the parents of Australian guy to make sure I am not him.
Then there was another case when I went to a conference and I decided to stay a couple more days to explore the city. Conference organizers suggested to me that two hotel options to book. But whatever they wrote on piece of paper wasnt clear enough. So the rickshaw driver had to ask locals. The locals didnt understand english so in frustration i just gave them the phone of conference organizers so that they can ask THEM. Now it later turned out that conference organizers got calls from several ppl asking why is someone like that is ''allowed to go by himself''. And conference organizers agreed with that. They in fact passed on this question to the professor who brought me there asking him to supervise me while there because i remind them of their 5 year old son.
There were also few other ppl who randomly stopped and asked if I need some help. I havent had a chance to find out what it was, but judging by the above examples it probably had something to do with my being different due to asperger.
Azereiah wrote:
Just explain your situation and eventually the local community will get a better idea of who you are.
There are far too many ppl to really explain situation to anyone. I mean India is 10 times more overcrowded then anything you have ever seen in the West.
Thats precisely why it bothers me. I mean if it was some small community then OF COURSE they would want to find out about people living there. But here we have thousands and thousands of ppl yet they constantly picking out ME and ask me ''where i live'' the first time they approach me for no reason.