Do other Aspies annoy you?

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Some of them can be annoying though.

I've got to be the most annoying person on WP.

This.

I find that's true with my Aspie husband, it was true with my father whom I suspect was Aspie, and it's true a lot on this forum, where I see people discuss things without really reading others' posts - or at least not bothering to comprehend them. I'm sure I'm guilty of this too.

We're so focused in our own worlds that we often have no idea what the other is getting at - until a special interest is touched, and then attention is sparked. (Although sometimes that sends the person's attention off on another tangent.)

Most annoying to me is when my spouse really wants to share his interests with me and I politely listen, only to have him turn off the instant I mention an interest of mine or outright say it's boring. He doesn't even try to listen. This happens a lot, mainly because his interests are more practical and beneficial to us both, so I have a vested interest, while mine happen to be less immediately practical, or have less direct benefits to him.

I'd rather openly celebrate my special interests than walk around on eggshells, being careful not annoy anybody.

Sometimes other Asperger's can annoy me - Though, I can say the same thing about some NTs as well.

If this annoyance it recent I can think of two things that may be happening ---

One is just nature working - your age suggests that you are just arriving at the stage where you are starting move out on your own. It seems when humans reach such an age we become less amenable to our parents - as to make going our on your own more sure. This happens to everyone - NT and Asiperger's alike. Not to worry about this - in a few years it will pass.

Two, Your dad knows that you are both Asper so he is making less effort to act NT around you - If you are still making a full effort to fit in his lack of NT-ness may be rubbing you the wrong way. We do spend much of our live being pushed and pushed to conform.

Maybe both of these are at work at the same time.

I can tell you that times I find the company of "non-repentant" Asperger's that in turn allow me to drop the act - a great solace. But for this to work well all involved have to be on the same page -- ie just being yourself. If one side or the other is unwilling to drop the act it won't work.

I don't know too many outside of my family. But there are 3 other confirmed people on the spectrum other than me. Yes they can be annoying, especially since we're all different (and they're all male). They talk about nothing other than their interests, mostly nothing, they don't talk much. They don't like to go out to do anything. They're picky about their food and texture and taste and all sorts of stuff. Like my dad insist that his teeth can't chew any meat unless it's pureed in a blender (meat paste - gross).

Though to be fair, the NTs in my family can be equally annoying with too much talking and too many questions and fussing about little things.

It depends on what their interests are: The 2 annoying ones I know always talk about Sonic the Hedgehog and how much they wish I was Sonic (it's somewhat creepy) or those anime-esque anthro characters that are foxes or wolves. That stuff really gets on my nerves. Sorry, but it just does. As for you calling yourself annoying; you're not.

i all ready had a post related to this before you posted. whats the point of having two threads? shouldn't this be deleted its just spam. Not the same title but pretty much the same topic.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt201083.html

Yes.

I apologize. I probably should have searched before posting, but really, if we all did that, no one would have much to post. You see a lot of similar threads here on WP.
I'll let a mod decide whether or not to delete this one.

Thank you for clearing that up with me. I was worried that I was starting to annoy people.

The name of ogional's thread is completely different, wouldn't have given any indication that it would be similar to this thread if you just went by the titles, so I don't see how it is your fault EstherJ.

Well, if I had searched "annoying" maybe something would have come up. But I really didn't think it would be an issue.

All people annoy me.

My nephew and I are the only diagnosed aspies I know. I love my nephew but he is a real pain in the ass.

Other Aspies annoy me too sometimes, the way that some assume that just because I'm an Aspie it means I'm unaware of my actions, and if an NT is being an a***hole towards me, I get the usual cliche from other Aspies, ''you're probably doing/saying something that's socially inappropriate/hurting the NT's feelings, et cetera....'' which is annoying because that's not always the case. NTs aren't always the goodie-two-shoes in every situation, there comes a time where an NT just decides to pick on an Aspie for no reason, even some NTs can pick on other NTs for no reason.