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I DID NOT want to put this under "Dating" Since I don't consider this a DATE!

Ok! So I have these tickets to the Zelda Symphony Concert and had no one to go with. My older sister Erica said she'd ask about a coworkers cousin or nephew and if they could go with me. She replied today YES! That they could go!! ! UH! I don't know his name/age or ANYTHING outside of "He has Asperger's like you." UH! (No offense Aspies) but Have Asperger's is ZILCH to go on!! !! !! I assume he'd like Zelda and video games in general but otherwise AS/videogames (Zelda) isn't much to go on!! !! ! She also said perhaps his mom could drop him off here and Erica could take us to the concert and drop us off. SO "mom" makes me think A) Doesn't drive like me over 18 OR B) Under 18. I don't know which.

Since I overanalyze I'm a stressed wreck with anxiety through the roof and am near tears!

HELP!

first off: score, zelda symphony!

second: breathe. i doubt he'll think it's a date. you may not even have to interact with him much. as you too don't really know each other your evening might go something like this.

greetings exchanged, proceed to show, brief discussion afterwards (did u enjoy it?), wait for ride.

if you're lucky you'll find something to talk about. if not, standing in silence is not the worse thing ever, especially for two aspies! remember he'll probably be just as uncomfortable as you.

What are you worried about, exactly?

Good point. (No offense) but another Aspie might be not be expecting ALOT like an NT might. PHEW! That might be a "good" thing. Hopefully it's that. I just don't want someone who goes on and on about something and the fact I've never been anywhere with someone outside of friends back in grade school and family I have no friends (outside of WP PM and FaceTime) Plus the fact "they might" be a kid and I'm 26 is kind of weirding me out. Hopefully things go well. It's not until July 14th but I agree yes "Zelda symphony SCORE! I LOVE LOVE LOVE THE LEGEND OF ZELDA SERIES! Hint my name all these years!

Thanks!

I assume an evening of awkwardness.

Zelda, remember that he has Aspergers, too. He's probably just as nervous and I assume that he also has similar interests as you. You already know that he likes Zelda, so you'll at least have something to talk about.
Is there any way of you finding out more about him before you meet him IRL?

Cheers,

Amon.

So envious...

Last edited by Atomsk on 02 Jul 2012, 7:19 pm, edited 2 times in total.

LOL! Ya my parents were set on me saleing them I said no that I still wanted to go so I am happy this has worked out to where I DO have at least SOMEONE to go with. I agree him being an Aspie himself he is probably just as anxious. Hopefully things go well. I can't wait to hear it LIVE I have some music from Skyward Sword and Ocarina on my iPod. and who knows I hear sometimes the developers or Zelda Williams shows up. I hope things go well.

It's a mental trick. Investigate and deconstruct the worry.

Zelda is what got me into playing ocarina - OoT is my favorite game ever, for so many reasons, but one is because it had a fully functional instrument in it that I could play, since you can use the joystick to bend notes and stuff like that. As a kid I used to often just play the ocarina on the game.

I have a clay 12 hole ocarina - same shape as seen in the Zelda games, although mine is black. I can play a lot of Zelda tunes on it, and it definitely has made me a lot of money busking in the past (about $120 in a single hour once!)

UPDATE:

I asked my sister she said the mom wants to get us together so we can meet before the Zelda concert. He's about 19 or 20 from a small town so I "assume" not bad influence odd type. Although (no offense) I wonder what his "functioning" level is as an Aspie (sorry to offend.) Plus job/no job. And like Zelda/videogames is "fine" IMO as long as it isn't the "I only like shooting types" on gaming interest UHG! IMO I don't want to talk GTA/Halo/*insert violent games."

Hopefully meeting him before the concert is ok although I have no idea where we'd go or what we'd do!! !! ! I usually only go out to a dining place or movies with family and wouldn't want to go there with some guy I don't even know!! !!

My dream was to work and do research in college and THEN meet someone who was also doing research in my field. I hope this works out!! !! !

Wait, I thought you said this wasn't a date? If not, why are you worrying about these things?

i think zelda has been roped into a blind date by her mother.

The GTA series are actually really great sandbox games. Everyone plays them differently, certainly not everyone plays them violently. I wouldn't judge someone based on the games they play.
I play GTA a lot, all I really do is drive around and take pictures of the amazing environment. I don't consider it just a shooting game. You may as well say America is a horrible place to live because many people have guns and there's a lot of crime. But not everyone has guns, and not everyone kills people as a side hobby. There are few games that can match the awesomeness that is the Grand Theft Auto series.

I've played GTA and other shooting games but seeing a "guy" or getting to know anyone as a friend even I expected more. I mention Mario and me being HUGE Zelda fan he has played TP/WW/OoT all great Zelda games. Then he said he's more a 360 guy and looking at his list of games it's a lot to be desired basic shovel ware 70,000+ gamerscore and computer programing certificate. So there goes me talking much about my field Criminal Justice and I don't want to talk GTA or CoD. Those are "ok" games but they never grabbed my interest. Great games though! He just seems like the typical guy into video games not someone "different" which is what I expect in a friendship or anything!! !!

My older sister suggested exchanging cell/email since the concert IS the 14th but I'm nervous to take that next step. Looking at this do I want to continue as friends beyond the Zelda concert? I didn't see much "interests" IMO not much "clicked" IMO. I'll see how the concert goes and talking further with this guy. He said he "loved talking to me" (On the Facebook chat.) Coming from an Aspie guy I'm afraid I'll upset him if all I want is the Zelda concert buddy and he wants MORE!

I don't want to be a jerk!! !! !

You don't need to be into all the exact precise same things to get along with somebody. He plays all the same games you do even ... I wouldn't worry too much about what else he plays. It's unlikely you'll meet anyone with exactly, precisely matching lists of interests and disinterests. They'll always be some things they like that you don't, and vice-versa.



I expect the 'standard wisdom' is different than mine, but the 'standard wisdom' doesn't seem to work very well for me. In my opinion you're better off not taking on more than you can handle with other people, but if you want to have friends or relationships, you've got to be willing to give them a chance, it's a fine balance. Sometimes people will think you're a jerk when you don't give them what they want (and this goes for everything, not just the dating type of stuff), but the way I see it, you don't owe anybody anything, just like they don't owe you anything. Society may not see it that way but I find it's really the only way I can possibly function.

So I'd say go to the concert with him with an open mind, you might have quite a bit of fun, don't rush to judgement beforehand. Worry about that after.

Thanks. The fact he said "He's more of a 360 guy" was IMO like uh ok. and I was lost since while I OWN a 360 I have a few games and don't honestly play it much so the interest/conversation took a nose dive and computer programming knowledge is "cool" but I don't want to hear him ramble about computer programming no thanks! I even mention Final Fantasy but he has only played #7 and didn't go beyond that so I really couldn't get into "Mario" Zelda since he's more of "a 360 guy." So things "died" basically.