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17 Jul 2012, 9:58 pm

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I think what makes college better is that it becomes easier to be anonymous. Or at least it was for me because I came from a small town. Now, granted, I didn't become anonymous because I was still hell-bent on fitting in, but if I would have wanted to find a nice quirky group of people to hang with, I could have, and I would have been able to stay away from the "popular" people much more easily than I could in high school.

Whenever you leave your current environment, you have a bit of an opportunity to reinvent yourself because no one knows who you were before. I would have been smart to just forget about being popular and just embracing the more introverted side of myself. Joined a photography club or something like that. Or just studied more.

College can be better. But you have to get yourself out of bad habits and immerse yourself in the right kind of people for you.


Thanks :D I would like nothing better than to find a group of quirky, "weird" people to hang out with. I've never really had friends I could relate to.

I plan on studying a lot. Even if I go to study in, say, the library, I should be able to meet people doing the exact same thing.


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17 Jul 2012, 10:45 pm

Is cavendish back from the dead?



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18 Jul 2012, 12:01 am

Yes, you can grow into it, too.


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18 Jul 2012, 2:05 am

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I am what I am and pretending to be NT is not worth it.


Sadly this concept doesn't work in college.


It seldom works in the workforce either.


Hell, it doesn't even work at the dog park for me.



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18 Jul 2012, 3:52 pm

What happened to the OP?



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18 Jul 2012, 4:40 pm

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What happened to the OP?

Seems to have spent a few hours on this thread yesterday but nothing today.

I don't suspect trolling...his story sounds unusual but I heard of an Aspie guy who said the armed forces had disciplined it out of him.

So I think people can genuinely believe they've broken out of AS, and good coping strategies can probably get you re-diagnosed as not having AS, given that it's part of the DX that the condition is seriously impacting on your life.......don't forget most NTs have some Aspie traits too, so you don't need to nail every trait 100%.



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18 Jul 2012, 5:30 pm

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So I think people can genuinely believe they've broken out of AS, and good coping strategies can probably get you re-diagnosed as not having AS, given that it's part of the DX that the condition is seriously impacting on your life.......don't forget most NTs have some Aspie traits too, so you don't need to nail every trait 100%.


Maybe, but I bet you there will be physiological consequences i.e. in the autonomous nervous system that get you sooner rather than later. Essential Hypertension springs imediately to mind.



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18 Jul 2012, 6:52 pm

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So I think people can genuinely believe they've broken out of AS, and good coping strategies can probably get you re-diagnosed as not having AS, given that it's part of the DX that the condition is seriously impacting on your life.......don't forget most NTs have some Aspie traits too, so you don't need to nail every trait 100%.


Just because you learn to cope and you learn to hide it doesn't actually mean it doesn't impact your life. Sorry, I just don't agree, I think it just impacts you in different ways when you learn to hide it.



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18 Jul 2012, 7:48 pm

Here is a way to look at it.

Let's say you have diabetes and you exercise, lose weight, and change your eating habits. Perhaps your blood sugars will normalize and if you took yourself to a doctor who didn't know you, he may fail to diagnose you with diabetes.

But stop doing whatever it is that you did to "get better" (exercise, lose weight, eat right) and guess what? You're blood sugars are going to rise again. Why? Because you are still diabetic. You were always diabetic.

An aspie or autie who successfully deploys compensatory strategies will only appear NT for as long as they continue to successfully deploy compensatory strategies.



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18 Jul 2012, 8:30 pm

I remember I had a literal streak a mile wide. But, I still have a tendency to take things that way up front as 'face value'. A piece of right hemisphere dysfuction is the likely culprit.

There are posters that pop here and there that say they have "outgrown it" or could no longer fit the clinical definition of it. If that's the case then something changed in them on a neurological note. This is something that was confined to their personal biology and nurturing.

Executive dysfunction is almost universal in AS, and I'd bet dollars to doughnuts that you couldn't close this gap with any substantial results.

Working memory ( verbal - visual) is central to the functioning in "this," and perhaps a type of hardcore training my embed something in there for an improvement, but in no way a cure. And I'd bet you would lose that in time without some type of continuous training regimen.

Looking at this on this performance angle; if you could break through this working memory dysfunction you'd have er' whipped. So far nobody on earth has done so to my knowledge.



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19 Jul 2012, 2:28 am

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19 Jul 2012, 3:03 am

I 'd be willing to bet you are a believer in "free will." :lol:



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19 Jul 2012, 3:12 am

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Hey guys, sorry for the absence...I totally forgot about this. Gosh this is going to be difficult....


Okay first of all.... Please make sure you actually caught the meaning of what I said before commenting(obviously too much to ask in any case(see; all philosophical problems ever... lol)). It was quite a dense post... so there's a lot to be unintentionally ignored.

So, I read literally every single one of your guys' comments and not one understood what I was saying. I shall reiterated as follows(take your time with it): Aspergers is a relative diagnosis. The 'referent' of the diagnosis, so to speak, is NOT concrete or well-defined*. Therefore it does not make sense to say you can only ever learn to cope with it because this implies that Aspergers(or, the referent of that name) is something concrete. In other words, when one says, "She has Aspergers" there is no reference being made to a prescriptive identity as much as it is simply a way of describing a general condition.


You are speaking of how AS is diagnosed, which does not have any bearing on whether AS is a concrete thing, which it happens to be. You seem to be committing a fairly classic error in your assessment, in that you appear to be using a Cartesian mind/body duality to claim that AS is not a "physical" condition, despite the fact that it is fairly solidly identified as a consequence of neurobiological development, hence being referred to as a developmental disorder. Current research indicates that autism will probably be diagnosable with brain scans within the next five years or so, which I think does not support your contentions in this post.

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To the person who denied that you can't learn anything: you are simply wrong. You CAN become any of those things given the time. It is simply a matter of time and effort and no, there is no limit on how much effort you can extend towards something if it is not a purely physical task. When we're dealing with psychological entities such as mental effort, the relations of quantity collapse.


This is factually incorrect. Read about ego depletion (link). People do have limits on cognitive effort. Everyone does, whether they're neurotypical and have no mental illnesses to speak of or whether they have numerous neurological and psychological diagnoses.

Further, not everyone's brains work the same. Not everyone can easily grasp any particular concept you care to name. Not everyone's brain works in such a manner as to enable learning some skills. This is why, for example, learning disabilities exist. Because some people find learning particular things fairly difficult, and are not easily able to wrap their minds around the necessary information or processes in order to be able to manage such topics very easily.

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To the person who said that you either never had it or you're lying to yourself: this is actually less favored in terms of how logic works. It's something that people commonly say to validate their personal condition.


You keep appealing to logic as if being able to apply logic to a flawed premise means you have to be right. The problem with logic is this: Garbage in, garbage out. The concept is, simply, if you start with a flawed premise, your conclusion will also be flawed. For a large number of conditions, neurological and otherwise, if you "grew out of it" odds are very good you never had it. This is actually mostly applicable to the autistic spectrum. Some people reach a point of being subclinical or having a "shadow" disorder, which means it never went away, it simply became less impairing over time. However, even in cases where people really did meet the criteria and don't meet it as adults, it likely has very little to do with how much effort they may have put into trying to overcome it.

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To the person who said that people don't bear the responsibility over their diagnoses. Yes, they do. You can change anything, it's just all a matter of time. There is no such thing as immutable if, as I've said multiple times, it's not clearly physical**. It's just all a matter of time and will power. You are saying the exact opposite of this but you have no proof. Mine makes more sense because naturally it calls for less parameters.


Your definition of "it's not clearly physical" is rubbish. This paragraph displays a general lack of understanding about neurological and psychological disorders. You can't change anything you want, and time and willpower will not cure all ills.

Your claim does not make sense because you are changing the definitions to suit your argument. Autism is clearly understood to be rooted in the brain, which happens to be a physical organ. Not that being physical or not is what determines whether something can be cured or healed or changed. A broken limb is physical, but it can heal. Acute stress reactions are very much like PTSD but only last for a few months. But ALS does not heal on its own. It's progressive and degenerative. Similarly, Alzheimer's Syndrome does not heal on its own either, and is also progressive and degenerative, and is by your definitions "not clearly physical" (even though it is entirely physical, unless you think the human brain is made out of ectoplasm or something).

You're not making a case, you're making assertions, many of them unfounded, and claiming that your conclusions are logical because of some facts you just made up to support your assertions. A logical argument requires far more than the claim that it is logical. It also should be based on a plausible premise, not on one that could easily be debunked with a google search.

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There is such a thing as neuroplasticity, also. The brain itself is susceptible to reprogramming. I am not here saying that people with full blown autism will be particularly able to become 100% veritably neurotypical given the effort. There probably just isn't enough time for that sort of development within the limitations of an average lifespan. What I am saying is that it is possible to change, in general. If you don't find that what I've said is correct then feel free to dig up a replicable, credible study which conclusively demonstrates the necessary aspect of immutability that exists within Aspergers. Although, good luck finding it because it simply does not exist, nor does any study like it exist for any other comparable diagnosis. This is because nothing is immutable. Things are only very difficult and we just don't understand them at all(but we think we do, and therein lies the problem).


You're misusing neuroplasticity. It is fairly well-known that neuroplasticity enables people to adapt to traumatic brain injuries or removal of parts of the brain. To relearn skills via different routes than previously existed. For example, people who have hemispherectomies sometimes relearn the skills they lost with half their brain and continue to function in a manner approximating "normal."

However, neuroplasticity does not work like this for developmental issues. Knowing what I do about autism and ADHD, if I had to make a guess, neuroplasticity's already at work. For example, for people with ADHD, the part of the brain that would normally deal with regulating emotion for the purposes of motivation may not function well, if at all. Instead, they use a part of the brain that is more directly related to emotion to handle motivation. The thing is that neurotypicals use that same part of their brain for initial enthusiasm/motivation, but switches to the other part for long-term motivation. So people with ADHD can manage that motivation for a short time, but once that's over, they can't really force it back very easily. Whenever they try, they try to use a part of the brain that won't do that.

It's understood that neuroplasticity does not allow for easy adaptation to developmentally different brains because such brains are typically not damaged. It allows for easier adaptation to brain injuries because it used to have that function. Neuroplasticity does not mean the brain has limitless potential. No one has limitless potential. It's a wonderful thing, but it won't do what you claim it will do.

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Lastly, to the people who say "I have tried my whole life to grow out of it. It's not possible. You have a poor theory of mind if you assume that what seems to have worked for you will apply universally." You're simply not changing in the 'right ways'. It's not so much me having a poor theory of mind as it is the fact that if something is asserted in a universe, it necessarily bears relation to that universe, universally. In analogy, if a book exists within the physical universe, I should be able to 'universally apply' that book in some way or another, that is, if it exists in one spot within the universe, this entails that it could also exist in every spot within the universe. If what I'm saying is true, and if we are all of the same fundamental make(as in, we all have fundamentally human brains), then my case does, more or less, in some way, shape, or form, apply to you all.


Actually, it does not, because brains are all variable, and much more complex than any book. Also, said book could not exist anywhere within the physical universe due to the limitations that prevent reaching or exceeding the speed of light.

But you can't simply assert that if one brain can do something then all brains can do something. That is such an overly simplistic and impossible to support argument it leaves me wondering how much reading on this you've actually done. The fact that brains function differently are precisely why we have diagnoses like autism and ADHD and OCD and Tourette's Syndrome and Parkinson's and schizophrenia and the list is endless.

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* - I find it quite ironic how one person responds to me with a link of an MRI study trying to negate the claim I made that Aspergers is not the explicit result of any neurological abnormality. The fact is, we simply don't understand the brain well enough to have that kind of knowledge over anything that does not translate to something at least ostensibly physical. What portion of the brain is responsible for OCD? The question itself is flawed. You could find a link but the two do not necessarily translate to each other. You cannot ignore the psychological aspect of it. Yes, these abnormalities definitely have something to do with Aspergers, but it's just not correct to say that there is a one to one correspondence between them and Aspergers(and that's precisely what one says when they posit that it can be thoroughly explained in terms of our understanding of the underlying neurology).


It is not ironic, it is simply true: Asperger's Syndrome is a matter of "neurological abnormality" if that is the phrase you want to use. It is essentially autism.

Also, I believe if you actually did your research rather than posting half-baked unsupported theories relying entirely upon your own uninformed or misinformed thought experiments, you would be aware that there are multiple actual studies that discuss variations in brains of people diagnosed with AS, PDD-NOS, autism, and CDD. I think you would also find is that the understanding of the human brain has been increasing rapidly over the past two decades. Given your claim here, I suspect you would be amazed at what's currently known and understood.

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** - I saw at least 2 analogies trying to refute something but they were both physical. Diabetes is physical. Growing back a leg is physical. I already mentioned in my first post that physicality in this sense IS different... but that Aspergers in particular is not relatable precisely because it is NOT physical as in the diagnosis of 'Aspergers' does NOT have a well-defined referent.

Asperger's Syndrome and autism are physical, as they are derived from how one's brain develops. You can no more teach yourself to stop being autistic than you could teach yourself to regrow an amputated leg.

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Well, I think I've just wasted a good 10 minutes because I really don't get the feeling anybody is up for reading all of that. Oh well. I'll check up on this once more and then resign. Cheers!~


I forgot to check the time when I started this, but I am sure that I have wasted more than ten minutes in responding to your claims. I do not expect you will take any further refutations to your theories any better than you took previous refutations, but I remind myself I am not actually posting this for your benefit. Obviously, discussion with you is not particularly fruitful, given your blanket rejection of facts and your insistence that your misunderstandings be accepted as factual.



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19 Jul 2012, 4:28 am

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It was quite a dense post...


And so is the author.

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So, I read literally every single one of your guys' comments and not one understood what I was saying.

I am aware of the sensory issues. I know for a fact they are psychological. I had them bad, very bad. Like I said, I outgrew all of them(and mostly by personal will). I am aware that it's not just social stuff. I assumed that you all would understand that I was just speaking to certain aspects of it at that moment but I guess I was taken too literally. :cry:


Don't cry. Surely you knew before coming here that not one of us aspie ret*ds would understand because we would take what you said literally. If only we could just read what you imply, instead of reading what you actually wrote, we too could attain your level of enlightenment. You write a post repeating that not enough is known about autism and the brain while you tell us you have the answers; if only we could focus long enough to grasp your wisdom. Dry your tears because there is an upside to this- coming to an ASD forum and being the only one who 'gets it' must enhance your mental masturbation greatly.



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19 Jul 2012, 4:45 am

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So I think people can genuinely believe they've broken out of AS, and good coping strategies can probably get you re-diagnosed as not having AS, given that it's part of the DX that the condition is seriously impacting on your life.......don't forget most NTs have some Aspie traits too, so you don't need to nail every trait 100%.


Just because you learn to cope and you learn to hide it doesn't actually mean it doesn't impact your life. Sorry, I just don't agree, I think it just impacts you in different ways when you learn to hide it.


I don't see what I've said that you disagree with. If you've been successful in developing those good coping strategies, to the point where the condition doesn't seriously impact on your life any more - found a job that doesn't scare the life out of you, found stability, mutual love and respect with a good partner, got enough friends, informed everybody important that your Aspie traits aren't signs of laziness, aloofness or whatever, taken command of your environment and re-shaped it to fit your traits, learned how to suss out feelings of self and others better, learned how to respond to those feelings better - then you're never going to get a DX for Aspergers in a thousand years, because the condition is no longer hurting you severely.

I'm not recommending hiding the condition at all, except perhaps occasionally as part of general social coping for a short time with people you'll never see again. Obviously it would be crazy to play down the extent of your problems to the diagnostician or to people you have to deal with often.

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maybe, but I bet you there will be physiological consequences i.e. in the autonomous nervous system that get you sooner rather than later. Essential Hypertension springs imediately to mind.


I agree there's some risk, if alexithymia is present, that you could overdrive yourself without knowing it. So it's wise to watch your blood pressure and take your stress levels seriously - if your friends care about you, they will help by telling you when you look like you're getting stressed out. I would think that knowing your own feelings (and those of others) in a reasonably timely manner has to be a big part of the coping strategy. I would expect it to take decades, though with the right kind of help and a strong interest in the matter, I think it could happen more quickly.

Also, I don't think it's wise to ever declare oneself NT. If that carefully-honed environment starts to change, you could get badly hurt if you weren't ready for such an event. I think AS will always impact on our lives, but I don't think it has to impact so badly that it really spoils our happiness permanently.

I think there's some validity in what the OP says (although I don't agree 100%), but it's probably being rejected because of the way it was put........people as a rule don't like being told to grow out of anything.



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19 Jul 2012, 4:56 am

I would love to know how the heck one grows out of sensory issues? I've had (with the exception of two - these are nothing to do with SPD or ASD) sensory issues almost all my life.