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IndieSoul
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Whenever you leave your current environment, you have a bit of an opportunity to reinvent yourself because no one knows who you were before. I would have been smart to just forget about being popular and just embracing the more introverted side of myself. Joined a photography club or something like that. Or just studied more.
College can be better. But you have to get yourself out of bad habits and immerse yourself in the right kind of people for you.
Thanks I would like nothing better than to find a group of quirky, "weird" people to hang out with. I've never really had friends I could relate to.
I plan on studying a lot. Even if I go to study in, say, the library, I should be able to meet people doing the exact same thing.
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Seems to have spent a few hours on this thread yesterday but nothing today.
I don't suspect trolling...his story sounds unusual but I heard of an Aspie guy who said the armed forces had disciplined it out of him.
So I think people can genuinely believe they've broken out of AS, and good coping strategies can probably get you re-diagnosed as not having AS, given that it's part of the DX that the condition is seriously impacting on your life.......don't forget most NTs have some Aspie traits too, so you don't need to nail every trait 100%.
Maybe, but I bet you there will be physiological consequences i.e. in the autonomous nervous system that get you sooner rather than later. Essential Hypertension springs imediately to mind.
Just because you learn to cope and you learn to hide it doesn't actually mean it doesn't impact your life. Sorry, I just don't agree, I think it just impacts you in different ways when you learn to hide it.
Here is a way to look at it.
Let's say you have diabetes and you exercise, lose weight, and change your eating habits. Perhaps your blood sugars will normalize and if you took yourself to a doctor who didn't know you, he may fail to diagnose you with diabetes.
But stop doing whatever it is that you did to "get better" (exercise, lose weight, eat right) and guess what? You're blood sugars are going to rise again. Why? Because you are still diabetic. You were always diabetic.
An aspie or autie who successfully deploys compensatory strategies will only appear NT for as long as they continue to successfully deploy compensatory strategies.
I remember I had a literal streak a mile wide. But, I still have a tendency to take things that way up front as 'face value'. A piece of right hemisphere dysfuction is the likely culprit.
There are posters that pop here and there that say they have "outgrown it" or could no longer fit the clinical definition of it. If that's the case then something changed in them on a neurological note. This is something that was confined to their personal biology and nurturing.
Executive dysfunction is almost universal in AS, and I'd bet dollars to doughnuts that you couldn't close this gap with any substantial results.
Working memory ( verbal - visual) is central to the functioning in "this," and perhaps a type of hardcore training my embed something in there for an improvement, but in no way a cure. And I'd bet you would lose that in time without some type of continuous training regimen.
Looking at this on this performance angle; if you could break through this working memory dysfunction you'd have er' whipped. So far nobody on earth has done so to my knowledge.
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Okay first of all.... Please make sure you actually caught the meaning of what I said before commenting(obviously too much to ask in any case(see; all philosophical problems ever... lol)). It was quite a dense post... so there's a lot to be unintentionally ignored.
So, I read literally every single one of your guys' comments and not one understood what I was saying. I shall reiterated as follows(take your time with it): Aspergers is a relative diagnosis. The 'referent' of the diagnosis, so to speak, is NOT concrete or well-defined*. Therefore it does not make sense to say you can only ever learn to cope with it because this implies that Aspergers(or, the referent of that name) is something concrete. In other words, when one says, "She has Aspergers" there is no reference being made to a prescriptive identity as much as it is simply a way of describing a general condition.
You are speaking of how AS is diagnosed, which does not have any bearing on whether AS is a concrete thing, which it happens to be. You seem to be committing a fairly classic error in your assessment, in that you appear to be using a Cartesian mind/body duality to claim that AS is not a "physical" condition, despite the fact that it is fairly solidly identified as a consequence of neurobiological development, hence being referred to as a developmental disorder. Current research indicates that autism will probably be diagnosable with brain scans within the next five years or so, which I think does not support your contentions in this post.
This is factually incorrect. Read about ego depletion (link). People do have limits on cognitive effort. Everyone does, whether they're neurotypical and have no mental illnesses to speak of or whether they have numerous neurological and psychological diagnoses.
Further, not everyone's brains work the same. Not everyone can easily grasp any particular concept you care to name. Not everyone's brain works in such a manner as to enable learning some skills. This is why, for example, learning disabilities exist. Because some people find learning particular things fairly difficult, and are not easily able to wrap their minds around the necessary information or processes in order to be able to manage such topics very easily.
You keep appealing to logic as if being able to apply logic to a flawed premise means you have to be right. The problem with logic is this: Garbage in, garbage out. The concept is, simply, if you start with a flawed premise, your conclusion will also be flawed. For a large number of conditions, neurological and otherwise, if you "grew out of it" odds are very good you never had it. This is actually mostly applicable to the autistic spectrum. Some people reach a point of being subclinical or having a "shadow" disorder, which means it never went away, it simply became less impairing over time. However, even in cases where people really did meet the criteria and don't meet it as adults, it likely has very little to do with how much effort they may have put into trying to overcome it.
Your definition of "it's not clearly physical" is rubbish. This paragraph displays a general lack of understanding about neurological and psychological disorders. You can't change anything you want, and time and willpower will not cure all ills.
Your claim does not make sense because you are changing the definitions to suit your argument. Autism is clearly understood to be rooted in the brain, which happens to be a physical organ. Not that being physical or not is what determines whether something can be cured or healed or changed. A broken limb is physical, but it can heal. Acute stress reactions are very much like PTSD but only last for a few months. But ALS does not heal on its own. It's progressive and degenerative. Similarly, Alzheimer's Syndrome does not heal on its own either, and is also progressive and degenerative, and is by your definitions "not clearly physical" (even though it is entirely physical, unless you think the human brain is made out of ectoplasm or something).
You're not making a case, you're making assertions, many of them unfounded, and claiming that your conclusions are logical because of some facts you just made up to support your assertions. A logical argument requires far more than the claim that it is logical. It also should be based on a plausible premise, not on one that could easily be debunked with a google search.
You're misusing neuroplasticity. It is fairly well-known that neuroplasticity enables people to adapt to traumatic brain injuries or removal of parts of the brain. To relearn skills via different routes than previously existed. For example, people who have hemispherectomies sometimes relearn the skills they lost with half their brain and continue to function in a manner approximating "normal."
However, neuroplasticity does not work like this for developmental issues. Knowing what I do about autism and ADHD, if I had to make a guess, neuroplasticity's already at work. For example, for people with ADHD, the part of the brain that would normally deal with regulating emotion for the purposes of motivation may not function well, if at all. Instead, they use a part of the brain that is more directly related to emotion to handle motivation. The thing is that neurotypicals use that same part of their brain for initial enthusiasm/motivation, but switches to the other part for long-term motivation. So people with ADHD can manage that motivation for a short time, but once that's over, they can't really force it back very easily. Whenever they try, they try to use a part of the brain that won't do that.
It's understood that neuroplasticity does not allow for easy adaptation to developmentally different brains because such brains are typically not damaged. It allows for easier adaptation to brain injuries because it used to have that function. Neuroplasticity does not mean the brain has limitless potential. No one has limitless potential. It's a wonderful thing, but it won't do what you claim it will do.
Actually, it does not, because brains are all variable, and much more complex than any book. Also, said book could not exist anywhere within the physical universe due to the limitations that prevent reaching or exceeding the speed of light.
But you can't simply assert that if one brain can do something then all brains can do something. That is such an overly simplistic and impossible to support argument it leaves me wondering how much reading on this you've actually done. The fact that brains function differently are precisely why we have diagnoses like autism and ADHD and OCD and Tourette's Syndrome and Parkinson's and schizophrenia and the list is endless.
It is not ironic, it is simply true: Asperger's Syndrome is a matter of "neurological abnormality" if that is the phrase you want to use. It is essentially autism.
Also, I believe if you actually did your research rather than posting half-baked unsupported theories relying entirely upon your own uninformed or misinformed thought experiments, you would be aware that there are multiple actual studies that discuss variations in brains of people diagnosed with AS, PDD-NOS, autism, and CDD. I think you would also find is that the understanding of the human brain has been increasing rapidly over the past two decades. Given your claim here, I suspect you would be amazed at what's currently known and understood.
Asperger's Syndrome and autism are physical, as they are derived from how one's brain develops. You can no more teach yourself to stop being autistic than you could teach yourself to regrow an amputated leg.
I forgot to check the time when I started this, but I am sure that I have wasted more than ten minutes in responding to your claims. I do not expect you will take any further refutations to your theories any better than you took previous refutations, but I remind myself I am not actually posting this for your benefit. Obviously, discussion with you is not particularly fruitful, given your blanket rejection of facts and your insistence that your misunderstandings be accepted as factual.
And so is the author.
I am aware of the sensory issues. I know for a fact they are psychological. I had them bad, very bad. Like I said, I outgrew all of them(and mostly by personal will). I am aware that it's not just social stuff. I assumed that you all would understand that I was just speaking to certain aspects of it at that moment but I guess I was taken too literally.
Don't cry. Surely you knew before coming here that not one of us aspie ret*ds would understand because we would take what you said literally. If only we could just read what you imply, instead of reading what you actually wrote, we too could attain your level of enlightenment. You write a post repeating that not enough is known about autism and the brain while you tell us you have the answers; if only we could focus long enough to grasp your wisdom. Dry your tears because there is an upside to this- coming to an ASD forum and being the only one who 'gets it' must enhance your mental masturbation greatly.
Just because you learn to cope and you learn to hide it doesn't actually mean it doesn't impact your life. Sorry, I just don't agree, I think it just impacts you in different ways when you learn to hide it.
I don't see what I've said that you disagree with. If you've been successful in developing those good coping strategies, to the point where the condition doesn't seriously impact on your life any more - found a job that doesn't scare the life out of you, found stability, mutual love and respect with a good partner, got enough friends, informed everybody important that your Aspie traits aren't signs of laziness, aloofness or whatever, taken command of your environment and re-shaped it to fit your traits, learned how to suss out feelings of self and others better, learned how to respond to those feelings better - then you're never going to get a DX for Aspergers in a thousand years, because the condition is no longer hurting you severely.
I'm not recommending hiding the condition at all, except perhaps occasionally as part of general social coping for a short time with people you'll never see again. Obviously it would be crazy to play down the extent of your problems to the diagnostician or to people you have to deal with often.
I agree there's some risk, if alexithymia is present, that you could overdrive yourself without knowing it. So it's wise to watch your blood pressure and take your stress levels seriously - if your friends care about you, they will help by telling you when you look like you're getting stressed out. I would think that knowing your own feelings (and those of others) in a reasonably timely manner has to be a big part of the coping strategy. I would expect it to take decades, though with the right kind of help and a strong interest in the matter, I think it could happen more quickly.
Also, I don't think it's wise to ever declare oneself NT. If that carefully-honed environment starts to change, you could get badly hurt if you weren't ready for such an event. I think AS will always impact on our lives, but I don't think it has to impact so badly that it really spoils our happiness permanently.
I think there's some validity in what the OP says (although I don't agree 100%), but it's probably being rejected because of the way it was put........people as a rule don't like being told to grow out of anything.