Watching ppls mouth when they talk.

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I read somewhere (I thin here) that watching ppls mouth when they talk is an aspie trait. I never really noticed it but over the last few days i found the sound/video on my computer was out of sync; when i watched movies or anything i found the words stopped fitting in the mouth after a min or two into a video, and seemed to get worse as the video went on. This became very very annoying and i started trying to tell if its out of sync now, how far, if the sound is before or after the picture, etc. I even started to write a program that would load the video 2x, one mute it and put the video full screen, and the other have no video and just let the audio play. I could then make the program slow down/speed up or skip ahead/back w/ like the + and - keys so i could press them as the video plays to calibrate it.
Anyways i found the solution to the problem: an old version of XviD will attempt to decode new DivX encoded videos, so you have to stop XviD from decoding DivX videos.
So yeah, if any1 has the same prob just do that

I do that too sometimes, it makes it easier to concentrate on wat ppl are saying, especially if it's not really interesting or if there is a lot of background noise going on.

I look at peoples mouths sometimes when they talk. Basically it's where the sound is coming from, so it makes perfect sense to me.

It seems to be an excellent coping strategy, rather than eye contact. You're still looking at the face.
I've noticed that most NTs don't even look in the eyes all the time whilst talking, which I find strange. Evidently, eye contact bothers them too. They look around at the scenery, also!

Looking at people's mouths has always been a source of great embarrassment to me. I try to avoid it but that's not easy.

I often watch peoples mouths when they talk. My hearing is kinda messed up, central auditory processing difficulties, it make it easier to understand what they are saying. I kinda half listen and half lip read

This might be odd but I hate mouths lol. I find something icky about them, so I tend to either look through the persons eyes rather than at them, or look to the side, or look down at the floor when I speak.

this is kinda what tipped me off that i might have AS or something.. i've always watched people's mouths as they talk. i have also noticed that i have trouble understanding people if they have a big moustache or they have a "non-expressive" upper lip (aka-they don't move their mouth much when they talk)... i figure this gives me trouble cause i can't "read" their lips.

i've always tried not to just look at their mouths and kinda bounce around their face and generally try to be DOING something when i talk to people so it isn't so obvious what i'm doing... dunno. lol

i've always watched the people's mouths when they talk. and i didn't know it was an aspie thing to do.

I guess I find looking a the mouth a lot easier than looking in the eyes (which is embarraing to do - I cannot think and then I get anxiou) It is better than looking off to the side, out the window or roll my eyes back in my hed (which I do also) I do agree it makes it easier to understand what is being said. I am a visual learner and have a more visual memory and process (I am a graphic designer) I don't process auditory information well (goes in one and out the other) I have thought that is what everybody did!
My mom was always saying "Look at me when I am talking!" (still does!) I was off in my own world many times : )

It's good to see this. I get accused of being able to look people in the eyes, when I am in fact just looking at their mouths (each person having only one - but a friend of mine laughed at me for something similar, so I just want to clarify: I've never met anyone with more than one mouth). It does help to understand (via lip-reading) and it makes it possible to look more normal. Incidentally, I love mouths. Every now and then, I do glance at someone's eyes though, just to force control over the conversation.

I sometimes look at the mouth as well. This may be to do with me being speach-deaf. If there is any background noise then I can hear people talking and who's talking but can not make any sense of what they are saying. My hearing is very good (in fact, in audiometry tests, my right ear is better than average and my left ear is much, much better than average) but what I think is happening is that I hear everything and my brain can't process what it needs to and gets overloaded. It's similar with my vision - if I wear slighly darkened lenses then I can see far more detail in my surroundings by blocking out some of the sensory information.

So, yes, I sometimes look at mouths when I do look at the people talking (I usually look elsewhere). I have tried to fake looking at eyes but I end up staring and then remember that I need to look away from time to time. Thus, I end up concentrating on looking at the eyes, then looking away and back...before I know it I am concentrating so hard on that that I don't know what the person has been talking about. I'll tell you right now that this is not a good strategy in job interviews.

I'll tell you what I look at most, though: if the person I'm talking to has some distinguishing mark, mole, wart, broken tooth, deformity, food stuck to their face...anything like that, then I'll stare right at that all the time I talk to them.
I've been told I can be "rude" in this way. I don't mean it, though.

Totally. Im a deer in headlights if I start looking at someones eyes. But if you look elsewhere people think you're not interested, so the mouth it is. And the extra bonus is that as I lose my hearing, I realize Ive learned to read lips in the process. Cool huh.

i find looking at peoples mouths helps me hear what words they are saying