Correctness, Order, and Fairness?

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Ever since I was little I've been quick to point out mistakes and keep pointing them out until someone acknowledges I'm right. Additionally, I've always been preoccupied with making sure a proper order was followed for things (aka, opening presents with my siblings, I got mad when we didn't open presents one at a time in order). Finally, I've always had issues with fairness too. Example, when I was 13-14 I organized Easter egg hunts for the little kids living near me and my siblings (all younger) and I had to make sure every egg had the same number of pieces of candy, told every kid exactly how many they could get, and if they got more, took them and gave them to whoever didn't get enough.

Does anyone else have similar issues? Looking back, I feel like I was a bully to my siblings, forcing them to follow my strict order and fairness guidelines

Yes very much so. Often to my own detriment.

Have learned that sometimes I just need to let people be wrong and not say/do anything. But it gets me angry very quickly.

100% with you.
If I dont point out injustice, mistakes or bad data in others it will ruin a perfectly good week. I just cant handle wrong info and unless I "correct" them it will stick in my mind and I will obsess over it for days.

I can relate and that is probably why I was called a 'whiner' in the early years at work. I simply saw incorrect/unjust things and continued to point them out until someone would acknowledge they were wrong: not correct them, just admit I am right. Few did so I kept it up. I wasn't whining: I was just trying to take the blindfold off certain people. Years later I realized most are comfortable with that piece of fabric in front of their eyes as long as they got paid.

I prefer factual correctness, and try to adhere to that as closely as possible. I don't correct mistakes like I used to, because doing so on one occasion led to hurting a friend badly. Unless it seems important (although I can't say for sure I always get this right) I try to let things slide.

I prefer order. I prefer that things be done in certain ways. I prefer these things not change without warning.

I also prefer fairness and justice. When something is unfair and unjust, it is difficult for me to be silent about it.

I think in all three cases, I've pursued these preferences (or perhaps needs) far enough to hurt people. I've tried to mitigate that, although I cannot guarantee that it won't happen again. Only that I will try to avoid doing so.