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12 Aug 2012, 4:09 pm

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I'm really curious to know what it is now, but I won't tempt you by asking :)


Oh, its straight forward. We will probably be rescuing a German Shepherd but we won't be committing to it until later this week. If I act as if its guaranteed now, then if it falls through then I'll be completely unable to cope, so I'm forcibly not researching anything relevant. I attach very strongly to animals, cats and dogs especially, and very easily pick up animal based special interests.

I mostly was leaving details about because they were irrelevant, because the idea of pushing off a special interest was something it seemed we should have a thread about anyways, and because none of what's going on mentally is dog specific.

I know its of topic, but did you get it?


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12 Aug 2012, 5:00 pm

We've not gotten him yet. Everything is way crazier than it was supposed to be. The plan is later this month. We had to move to be able to do so, and we didn't move until the beginning of the month, and then our move was a week later than we expected, and now we need to set up the house for him. Our bedroom was just moved into from an apartment, not ready for a German Shepherd to move in yet. Trying to get it there ASAP.



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12 Aug 2012, 5:05 pm

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Does anyone have any advice for how to prevent a special interest from developing?

I'm in the situation where a new special interest is trying really really hard to emerge, and I know that if I let it do so before the end of the week there is potential for problems. All I need to do is prevent it from really breaking through before Saturday. However I have no clue how to do this.

Any advice? I'm trying to keep myself busy, and as long as I'm doing other things, either productive or involved in other special interests, I'm okay. But as soon as I stop I go back to fixating on this. I can't make myself focus on another special interest without a trigger - things like if I need to start explaining what ASDs are like to someone, I immediately swap to that, but I can't work on writing up a post for my blog on it without an external trigger.

At this point I'm counting down the days until I can let myself actually act the way I'm trying not to.


To be honest, if it isn't this it will be something else. You might as well give into this one. An animal sounds like it would be rewarding for you, that bond and unconditional love developing might be productive, who knows till you try. At least it's not a self destructive obession or vice. Thank 'God' for small mercies, huh? :)



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12 Aug 2012, 5:27 pm

Well, at that point in time I couldn't let it emerge, because if I had let it emerge and then it hadn't came though it would have been majorly problematic. At this point I have let it emerge, and while he hasn't came here yet, everyone else is also assuming he's coming, and we're prepping for it, and I can go through and read all the dog training books and go through and prep for training him entirely properly.

What would have happened if it had emerged, and then people had said no, he's not allowed, is that it would have broken me badly. I had to protect myself from that.



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12 Aug 2012, 6:18 pm

Yeah being told something is going to happen and then it not happening is not good for us. I feel it's related to change. We need to prepare for change and then we are prepared. Though then the change doesn't happen and we think why did we prepare for the change when it wasn't going to happen in the first place.



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22 Aug 2012, 8:51 pm

Pippin is here!



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22 Aug 2012, 9:23 pm

i wish i could stop mine -,-

i became very attached to, interested in and obsessed with a girl i used to know. i fell out with her December 31st last year. im still obsessed and can't stop it. i have to message her every month or so because the urges to do so just get out of control -.-



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23 Aug 2012, 3:24 pm

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Pippin is here!

congratulations :) Picture on this tread pls :D


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23 Aug 2012, 4:26 pm

Not a great picture, and doesn't show his size well, but

Image

He needed brushed in that picture, and its only from a cellphone camera. I want to get better pictures soon.



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23 Aug 2012, 4:44 pm

lambey wrote:
i wish i could stop mine -,-

i became very attached to, interested in and obsessed with a girl i used to know. i fell out with her December 31st last year. im still obsessed and can't stop it. i have to message her every month or so because the urges to do so just get out of control -.-


cry i wrote a very long answer to you, but after 600 words i remembered that i stil contacts mine at least once every 2nd week still after 18 months :( so now it is I that want an solution :( :)


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23 Aug 2012, 4:46 pm

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Not a great picture, and doesn't show his size well, but

very nice


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23 Aug 2012, 7:09 pm

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I ignore it and not pursue it. Do not read about it, do not look it up online, do not watch anything about it.


For me (and potentially others - I don't intend on making this about me, which inevitably someone would think I am, and thus derailing the thread), that only makes it worse. I personally would have to get my "fix" on exposure to my interests, be it reading about an interest, seraching about it online or working on something interest-related.