ROFL, my NT friend said that she is 'lonely' and needs a bf

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ROFL, my NT friend said that she is 'lonely' and needs a boyfriend.
How am I meant to respond to this? Is she interested in me?
Also, is it normal to get lonely? I can't remember a time in my life I've been lonely and wanted a partner.

Same here. I have been single since I was 22, and since then I've been very happy. I seriously never feel the "need" for companionship or sex or anything like that. If anything I'm highly repulsed by sex or anything sexual and the idea of having a significant other is irritating.

Who knows maybe your friend is interested in you. Or maybe she is just venting about being lonely.
Something I know nothing about.

People are allowed to be lonely. And just because someone says it, it doesn't necessarily mean that person is interested in you.

Bite and see what happens. She can always say "not you, idiot" or similar.

Sounds like she was just venting to a friend. I wouldn't take it any further unless she shows definite signs of interest. Doing otherwise risks making a friendship awkward.

Well, ask her. If you don't want to date her, tell her straight out that you prefer to be friends; if you want to date her, ask her how she feels about it. If she doesn't want to date you, tell her that's okay and you like being friends.

If she sees you as a friend rather than a potential date, it's still important to be there for her. Loneliness is no fun; she'll need a friend.

I've had friends get lonely and want to have dates. I'm asexual and none of my friends were, so I always understood I had to let them focus on their romantic interests when they wanted to. I'll admit it was sometimes frustrating that they'd spend so much time with their dates, when for me a friendship is just as close as a romance, but I could never truly be angry at them. Seeing them happy with their dates (and in one case being a bridesmaid in their wedding) was rewarding in and of itself. When you are friends with someone, you care more about seeing them happy than keeping them for yourself.