Inappropriate behavior

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Last edited by Tiffers on 13 Aug 2012, 8:32 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Wow, I certainly wouldn't have figured that out if I were him. If it bothers you, certainly tell him, but bear in mind he probably means no harm by it (don't accuse).

maybe he wants to talk to his old dance partners but does not know how.

I agree, it's not something I would have figured out in his shoes. If you respectfully tell him that it hurts your feelings, then I'm sure he'll understand.

Thanks guys~ I sure appreciate your input. Sometimes it's hard to distinguish what his motives are when he says something like this. I think I would do better assuming that he is probably never trying to hurt my feelings on purpose. I guess I need to be less sensitive, just don't know how. Sometimes I think it's hard enough just being the opposite sex and communicating.This other communication gap just sets us apart further. It can be so frustrating to both of us. I love him so much it sometimes hurts though.

Good Lord! No wonder none of my relationships / friendships last, if this example is something very hurtful and that can't be simply said to one's face. I probably make this kind of mistake by the dozen an hour.

If you talk to him about it, make sure he understands to the bottom of it. If it were me, I'd need about a 2-hour conversation to understand how on Earth someone can know that this is hurtful.

Gee, 5 decades wondering what I do wrong, if I'd known friendships depended on such tiny things, I would've never even tried!