Tired of people asking if I'm sad

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Yesterday I was asked 10 times in 8 hours when I was in a perfectly good mood.......it's very annoying the teacher even asked me if I wanted to step outside and speak with her about any thing..... I can't help my lack of facial expressions I'm not even sure how to do a neutral not laughing not upset face looks like..... A few people I know well have caught on that I don't do it on purpose but ..... Idk what to do about it .... I can't nor do I want to explain aspergers to each person ..... Any one else with the same problem? Help me out

Sorry about my typing I'm on a mobile

I tend to ask my family a lot if somethings wrong or if they are mad, and it just makes them angry. I know it does but I can't help it, because sometimes they have an expression or body language that to me looks like they are upset. You can try the answer they give me "Nothings wrong but if you keep asking me that I'm gonna get upset!"

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Also I have found that facial expressions that are the norm or cultural norm vary in different countries. For example, in Europe people walking down the street may not smile as much as in America. So it is a cultural norm perhaps that certain countries, etc. expect a certain facial expression to mean something.

I have been told repeatedly over the years that I can be very hard to read when I am not making an effort at being easily read...and I had to practice at that. It can be exhausting, so I don't do it continually.

Sometimes new people will drive me bonkers asking if I am ok until it dawns on me what the issue is. I either have to stop confusing them by giving them some clear appropriate expression to read, or if I am not up to it or not in the mood I level with them about being hard to read, and calmly tell them I am ok and if that changes I will let them know, but please stop asking how I am because it is an irritating interruption. That level of directness makes some NT's uncomfortable but if they really care it works just fine as long as you are nice about it and don't make them too defensive.

I get the mobile writing thing. good job on that Jupiter. I write on a little tablet a lot myself.

My mom comes into my room about 5 times a day and asks what's wrong and if I want to talk about it, no matter how much I say I'm fine

You know, I've always been aware of people asking if I'm OK when I'm perfectly happy and finding that rather odd and annoying when it happens too much in one day. But I never really understood why ... even after my diagnosis.. it wasn't until I saw an autism specialist recently who wrote in my report that I had limited facial expression that I suddenly understood ... I mean, I know that folk with an ASD may have limited facial expression ... I just didn't realise it applied to me!! !

I have had much the same problem. People think I am depressed when I am not and also tell me I am very difficult to read. This is especially true of people who do not really know me that well as I am somewhat avoidant with them and uncomfortable.

Yes, I get tired of this sort of thing, "Are you depressed?" or "Are you sad?" I'm fine, stop asking!

I have this problem as well. The worst is when you get people who insist they know how you're feeling. I remember in high school I got into a big argument with a random teacher about it once. He wouldn't leave me alone even after I told him I was fine. When I said that my face always looks like that he called me a liar. After some back and forth shouting I walked away. He apparently went snooping, found my name, and talked to my teachers…He came to apologize the next day after one of them told him I was autistic. Luckily, most people aren't like that and seem to back down if you tell them nothing is wrong.

This happens to me too. My grade one class photo has everyone smiling and me trying to make a smile.

Apparenty you can be arrested for not smiling.
Parkinson's disease sufferer, 54, held by police at Olympic cycling road race 'because he would not smile'
LINK HERE

I have people ask me if I'm stoned!! !

i've had people ask me that too a lot. one thing i find is helpful is thinking about positive things when your around people i.e. things your thankful for, achievments, blessings, ect... this generally makes my face and body language appear more positive then neutral. it's kind of a win win benefit because it makes you appreciate good things in life more.

Got bothered by that attention and those questions so much as a kid that I now pretty much always have some sort of facial expression...even in complete privacy I have to remind myself to relax my face because no one's watching, ha. Always got flak for being the drummer in Jazz band back in the day and never having the slightest facial or emotional reaction to anything, even during huge, 16 bar solos.

I don't communicate with people that much, to get tired of it, but yeah. Questions like "what happened" and "Are you having a bad day?" etc are pretty common.

There's an obnoxious saying in the UK said by loud busy-bodies - "Cheer up it may never happen!" Usually followed by a cheerful laugh.

I'm always tempted to reply "I already has".