Bully keeps ask to hang out late at night

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I'm still wondering what's up with the parents.None of you have wondered this? If I were a parent and there were kids coming to my door at 2 or 3 AM I would be wondering what's going on and I would be pretty pissed off.

this is the worst advice I have ever seen.



yes. thank you.

to the OP: stop answering the door. the knife is just making it obvious that you're scared of them, which is what they want. this is about gaining status with each other by demonstrating dominance over you. these kinds of boys are not going to respond rationally to physical threats, and the more they lose face to you in front of each other the more they are going to feel compelled to hurt you however they can. beating them up mildly is going to provoke them more, and beating them up severely is just going to cost you the moral and the legal high ground (which is the best defense you have). they are never going to respect you and they are almost certainly better at the kind of violence that doesn't get people sent to prison than you are, so don't play to their strengths. stop engaging them. talk to someone in your school who knows how this stuff works legally. some special ed teachers have legal training for handling these kinds of cases. tell them you are afraid of getting seriously hurt. if someone on staff with your school doesn't respond promptly and vigorously then you need to find a disability rights advocacy group or a lawyer.

your parents could sue the hell out of the school district if they don't do anything, and frankly I think they should. lawyer up. if no one helps you threaten to go to the local news with stories about how little your school administrators care about bullying. get a restraining order. register a formal complaint with the school district. go above your principal or to a meeting of the school board if you have to. school administrators have a hell of a lot to lose these days if they're seen as tolerating this kind of bullying. if you got hurt or hurt yourself the media would have a field day and the people who let it happen would lose their jobs. they know it, too.

there's absolutely no need for you to respond to them on a base physical level. official channels should take care of these idiots. getting more physical with them is just putting yourself at risk, and will - when it inevitably comes to some sort of legal conflict - reduce your credibility as a victim and make you look like an equal aggressor. I repeat: keep the knives in the kitchen and stop answering the door.

I mentioned this in my post above.

Good, at least you have some advice that is way better than mine. I think if I had been in this same situation, instead of coming here for advice, I might have ended up acting on my crazy idea and the situation might have ended up worse than it was before. I think my advice was so terrible because I was thinking that self-defense was the best way.

sorry, I didn't mean to be harsh about it, it's just really dangerous to escalate situations like this and I didn't want to be ambiguous about that. it's natural to want to react to violence with violence, it just doesn't help things, especially when it's three thugs vs one gamer geek. discretion is the better part of valour.

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re: the parents

if they aren't doing anything, people on the internet criticizing them for it isn't going to change anything. they should be helping, but that may not be the case.

OP: if you can't get help from your parents, call a social worker. I'd imagine a group like the easter seals or a local aspergers/autism society could put you in touch with one. they exist for exactly these kinds of situations, and could help you navigate the legal system and getting the support you need at school.

Well alerting the obviously oblivious parents of people prowling on their property at 2 or 3 AM would be a pretty good way to 'get the ball rolling' don't you think?

sorry, I didn't mean to be harsh about it, it's just really dangerous to escalate situations like this and I didn't want to be ambiguous about that. it's natural to want to react to violence with violence, it just doesn't help things, especially when it's three thugs vs one gamer geek. discretion is the better part of valour.

When my Aspie daughter was assaulted at a school party, I prosecuted every one of those little bastards. I had the police take pictures of her bruised face and after they were arrested, we moved to another school district. Your mother should at least do more than just give up because the police did nothing. I hope things improve for you, I really do! There is a lot of good advice here.

to the OP: stop answering the door. the knife is just making it obvious that you're scared of them, which is what they want. this is about gaining status with each other by demonstrating dominance over you. these kinds of boys are not going to respond rationally to physical threats, and the more they lose face to you in front of each other the more they are going to feel compelled to hurt you however they can. beating them up mildly is going to provoke them more, and beating them up severely is just going to cost you the moral and the legal high ground (which is the best defense you have). they are never going to respect you and they are almost certainly better at the kind of violence that doesn't get people sent to prison than you are, so don't play to their strengths. stop engaging them. talk to someone in your school who knows how this stuff works legally. some special ed teachers have legal training for handling these kinds of cases. tell them you are afraid of getting seriously hurt. if someone on staff with your school doesn't respond promptly and vigorously then you need to find a disability rights advocacy group or a lawyer.

Wow, I wish the police around here would have done that.