Anyone feels embarrassed revealing your age?

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Thanks.

Imagine how I feel at 39 and I still get strangers asking me, "So are you in school or what?" I just smile and say no and hope they don't ask me how old I am. Sometimes they do though. Grrr.

I guess I'm more embarrassed by the fact that I don't act my age and I have some difficulty being and feeling adult, so that will come across as freaky to most people.

lol really?

Me too, but not that often anymore Just twice in the last year, once when trying to enter a bar, and once when buying alcohol together with my boyfriend, who does look old enough to not get asked for his ID.

lol I agree, that is really silly! I like your response!

Oops, sorry, hope multiple posts here aren't considered flooding.

Try to enjoy it. Really. Make some joke out it. Like "I look this young because I never worry about anything."
The opposite is much worse. "So you're retired? What do you do now? Are you getting retirement cheques?" And I explain no, I'm a good eleven years or more from retirement. I sometimes joke that it's like Indiana Jones said, "it's not the years, it's the miles." Then they look at me like maybe I have a serious disease.

I did try making a joke of it a few times. When people ask me what's my secret of youth, I answer, "I like eating food with a lot of preservatives." (Which is actually true.. I have the most unhealthy diet.)

But most of the time, I'm not really in the frame of mind to make jokes because I am uncomfortable enough as it is having a conversation and being social.

Sometimes I think people are being dense because you know how everyone wants to look younger, especially women, but then they dress exactly their age! Then they go, "Wow, I wish I could look young like you." So I'm thinking, sheesh, just stop wearing old people clothes and change your hairstyle and you'll shave off 5 or 10 years immediately.

But it's rude to say that aloud right?

I am 50 years old & get carded for alcohol. Heck, even for cold meds! LOL
You know, I look about 24-27 right now. And I will NOT be complaining about it! However, I think I understand Joe's point as I had that problem in my twenties & teens ( I was short as well at first. Delayed growth spurt. Typical of Crohn's disease etc.). Females refused to take me seriously, if I was not automatically slapped with the "Creep" label. How they came to that one, I still do not know. It *STILL* hurts.

Sincerely,
Matthew

OCD Angel, I sincerely mean this, sounds like the year you were born in was a great year. 1973? That was when the movie American Graffiti was made. The funny thing is that it took place in 1962, as if that (in 1973) was SUCH a long time ago...

Yes, you've got the year right. I've not heard of American Graffiti. You would forgive me if I don't remember anything in the year I was born since I was just born then.

I find it offensive and patronising when people ask me my age if I do tell them they look at me as though I have two heads

I think its rude of them to even ask I just say "old enough" now and hope they leave it at that.

I'm 44 and I look 30, maybe, a couple of months ago we were at a park playing with our kids and my son, my 4 year old daughter and myself were swinging on the swings and I was showing off how I could swing super high like I did back in grade school, you know when the chain would go slack at the top. My wife got really upset at me because I teased her that she's a cougar because I look younger than she does, but she's 5 years younger than I am and also looks young for her age as well. The thing is that I thought I was really funny, but I actually made her cry and I could not understand why she was so upset, I swear they should video me as a perfect example of Asperger's once I get diagnosed..

American Graffiti= the 'Dazed And Confused' of the 70s, therefore Harrison Ford= Matthew McConnaughey

I get pegged as 10 years younger than my actual age. The people I associate with at church and meetings are usually mid-20s themselves, though the people in their 50s and older comment on my 'high maturity level' for such a young age. I don't mind so much rebealing my age but the thing that's begged me since I reached 30 is being called 'Sir'. Please stop doing that

33 and occasionally still carded. More often since dying my hair blue.

I enjoy the jaw drop and looking young, because I feel young. I still feel like a teenager,and want to act like one, or act younger. Teens don't often squee over neat water features and such.

I want it to last as long as possible. I'm really afraid of being And looking old and still acting out my childlike joys, like I won't be allowed or something.

I'm 39 too and yes. I know people think I'm much younger than I am. Maybe they don't have my age in mind, but when it's revealed, they are often taken aback. I wear alice bands, lipgloss, jeans, trainers, sweatshirts and bright waterproof jackets. My style is that of a conservatively dressed student (as it has been since I was a student). I just don't appear like the other Mums in the playground who are approaching 40. Most of them are 'womany'. I'm worried about getting older, because I will still have this air of youthfulness, but a wrinkly face and neck. I'm sure people will still think I'm younger than I am, but haven't aged well, i.e. I'll be a 50 yr old who looks 50, but they'll think I'm 35, but look 50.

I might have been an acquaintance of someone for a while, then the matter of age will come up. It might be in a round about way. E.g. A Gran was speaking about a little boy's Mum and mentioned that she thought she was a bit older than the other Mums. I said that I got the impression that she was a bit younger than me, about 36 maybe. She stared at me, kind of incredulously, like how can she be younger than you, if she's about that age? I expect she thought the Mum was about that age anyway, but didn't realise I was in fact one of the even older Mums.

At work, I don't think I was taken seriously, by my boss. I was one of the more mature staff members, but she seemed to speak to me like I was one of the teenage new starts. She knew my age, but I think it was hard for her to attach that number to me somehow.

It's one thing to look good for your age, but another to be perceived as much younger than you are.