Are we more prone to Fear of Intimacy?

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Surfman
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16 Sep 2012, 6:55 am

Because of past hurts I avoid it now
I used to like intimacy
I would like to be intimate again
Just not with NT's
Whom I've discovered
Are not worth the effort
To be intimate with
I dont trust them anymore
With my feelings
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16 Sep 2012, 7:01 am

Surfman wrote:
Because of past hurts I avoid it now
I used to like intimacy
I would like to be intimate again
Just not with NT's
Whom I've discovered
Are not worth the effort
To be intimate with
I dont trust them anymore
With my feelings
Knobheads


Same. I have had several NTs offer me dates, and I have refused every time. Can't really be bothered wasting my time.


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16 Sep 2012, 8:08 am

I crave intimacy, to some extent, but yes, I fear it too. I have a very difficult time lowering my defences around other people, IRL at least. It's a coping mechanism from spending a lot of time getting either bullied or ostracised in my teens; one I need to unlearn since it's mostly maladaptive in adult life.

I'm a straight male. I don't think I have more trouble talking to women than to men, but yeah, I have a hard time letting anyone close. Even my parents.



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16 Sep 2012, 8:20 am

I hate the feeling that I am being cared for, and it's not the stereotypical teenage behavior of don't-touch-me-I-am-not-a-baby. I have never felt the need to pursue a romantic relationship, and yes, I am afraid of intimacy generally speaking. I look like I'm all opened up but most of the non-mundane things deep down, I will never share with people.


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18 Sep 2012, 5:06 am

It's harder for us because of two things I've found:
1) We have a lot of stimuli to handle in a relationship and have social awkwardness.
2) I can't always tell how I feel or enjoy a situation enough in the moment I'm in.