My girlfriend thinks I'm mad at her a lot when I'm not.
Sometimes I'm not necessarily feeling anything. Sometimes I'm feeling something, but not mad. I think some of this problem can be attributed to each of us, but I'm interested in any advice you might have for my part.
Sometimes we're just going along and I think everything is fine. But she gets offended because she thinks I am mad, and I have no idea what she is talking about.
But here are a couple of examples of when I was feeling stressed but not mad.
We were going on a little trip, in separate cars for logistical reasons. When we got there, I told her I was stressed but that it wasn't about her. When we got to the room, I said I wanted to lay down for a little while. She hung out in the bathroom for a while because she thought I was mad.
Another time, she's setting up a new printer. I try to help, then I try to get out of the way. I leave the room a couple of times (for a practical reason that I don't remember). I told her I'd be back in a minute, but I found out later that she didn't hear me. The printer setup wasn't going well, so I was a little tense, for lack of a better word. But I wasn't mad, and she thought I was not only mad, but acting like a jerk.
There's a little more to that story, but that gest the basics across. She and I do have problems hearing each other clearly. Now we are trying to check and make sure that the other hears us.
23 Sep 2012, 3:19 am
