Does this sound like the experience of someone w/Asperger's?

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People keep telling me that I look tired/unwell and am quiet. My brother was diagnosed with Asperger's as a teen, so the possibility that I might have it has been high on my radar.

Being quiet and looking tired may not seem like a big deal, but lately almost every new person I meet without fail will comment on it, and it makes me think maybe something really is wrong with me. In the past four months, I've had:

1) a new mentor insist multiple times that I'm too quiet to pursue the career I was working towards because it involves small talk (This was actually kind of devastating, and I have since shifted focus)
2) a potential roommate (a few decades older than me) rejected me after meeting for the first time by asking if I was just tired or sick when we met, or if I'm always that quiet, because if I was, she would feel uncomfortable living with me
3) a professor I work for, who is the nicest guy ever has ask me four or five times over the past month if I'm feeling ok because (his words) I'm being really quiet, or if I have a problem with something
4) my doctor told me I looked tired during a routine check up. 3/4 times I go to the doctor for anything they say this

Subjectively, the past four months been great. I'm in love, I got engaged, my course work has been interesting, satisfying and not too stressful, and I got a cat that brings me a lot of joy. The only downside right now are the people who routinely comment on how something is wrong with me. Sometimes it's infuriating how people I've only know a few minutes not only come to these negative conclusions about me, but feel the need to comment on it out loud. I'm just really curious now, though, what it is about me that always causes this reaction. I should say that these people are all authority figures; I've had many interactions with peers and none comment on this, although these peers are people I choose to be around, the authority figures are not. Does this sound like something that might happen to me because I have Asperger's? Or maybe because I'm just randomly different in another way?

Has this only been in the past four months? I would go talk to a doctor and find out what is going on with your health. I don't know if there is anything else going on that would make you think this is AS related. I don't see it. But, I am no doctor and by what you are describing there could be many things going on such as iron deficiency. I'd be curious about why people think I am looking unwell and tired. I'd start with blood work.

I just got blood work done at that doctor's appointment recently, so we'll see. I suspected maybe it has something to do with Asperger's because there is usually a connection when people bring this up between being quiet and thinking I'm tired.

No, I don't think this is Aspergers. If you have no other symptoms than looking sick and tired, this is something else.