Feeling like I don't have a stake in my own life.

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I donno It's been about 2.5 weeks since I came out of my denial about AS.

And I gotta say, I just plain old feel like I don't have stake in my own life.

There just seems to be so little that matters about my own life. I goto school, hope to get a job, and that's it. I don't seem to have much actual interest in my own personal life. I of course still have interest in a variety of things, but I still can't seem to latch on to anything in my life that I care about.

So you lack purpose in life and haven't found your thing that you really want to do? That is verry merry berry normal for anyone. What are you studying in school?

Don't worry too much. Any diagnosis or issue in life is hard on you at first. It takes time to accept it and to understand it. Denial and depressed mood are pretty normal.

I am sure you will find a purpose in life by developing your specific interests and your tastes.

Same here and I'm 29 soon. The old thing I enjoy is playing video games and my pet chipmunk. Video games are a good way to get to experience different places. I don't know what I would do.if I had been born before computers.

Scary thought.

Nah I love what I'm doing at school, it's simply the rest of my life I have trouble with. I have no interest, granted this started about a year ago, after I gave up on trying to adhere to other people's expectations. It's not a depression, that would be ok, I'm use to those types of feelings, it's entirely different. It's just a complete disinterest.

think about how you are different from other people without getting (too) worried about the negative aspects

think about this in as objective, non-good/bad terms as possible

for instance, one might be tempted to claim "I am smart everyone else is dumb" as objective, but this isn't the case as emotional "intelligence" is also included and smartness could mean "book smarts" or "street smarts" which refers to academic topics, versus social understanding of common situations one finds oneself in and that adaptational mindset, and skillsets one could have as a neurotypical

so rather, "I am bad at socializing/making smalltalk others care about, and good at understanding the 198542245,0253269659 ways people use commas in numbers wrong" would be an example - note that I know numbers are supposed to go like 100,000,000 and so on, it's just an example

have fun being a supernerd I suppose....

"I am on the autistic spectrum, I lack the interest in smalltalk, and have a large interest in topics of academic substance instead of social connection, this does not mean sociopathy it means I get bored with smalltalk before it even happens"

might be a way to explain yourself to others

I should mention I have verbosity and I also am reasonably used to trying to explain large theories to NT's so... forgive the verbose simple-talk