How lonely do you feel?

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I don't experience the intense loneliness that autistics often seem to have. I get lonely every so often, but not enough that it makes me suffer. I have friends, but I don't talk to them all the time. I have my family, but I don't phone them everyday. I have my peers, but our relationships are strictly professional. I have my roommates, but they have their own lives. I'm content with being alone most nights. I'm not aloof. I like people and when I'm up to it, I like to socialize, but I don't think I understand that feeling of intense loneliness.

I don't know how typical I am of others on the spectrum. Well, I'm high functioning and live on student accommodation, so I must have sufficient social skills to prevent myself from being really lonely all the time. Then again, there are loads of autistics I know who are very independent and they experience an intense feeling of loneliness on a regular basis.

So, I guess I just wanted to elicit discussion, so discuss.

Edit: Actually, I find that I'm really stressed out when I'm socializing with people all the time. I just need a small dose of socializing to keep myself sane (smaller than most people I know, anyway).

Im always feeling loneliness, i mean im always feeling like im from another planet,dimension, or tribe, nobody that i know is like me, so i just feel like im going to be alone for ever, i know there are a lot of aspies in the world, but i havent met anyone in my life, and people seem to help to make me feel more different, and make me aislated more from the rest of the "tribe", so yeah i feel loneliness almost all of the time.

And about this.

Actually, I find that I'm really stressed out when I'm socializing with people all the time. I just need a small dose of socializing to keep myself sane (smaller than most people I know, anyway).


Social anxiety almost all aspie have it, i dont generalize because we are all diferent, and there mus be at least a little percent that doesnt have this trait, for example, im very good at lying and i can get away with that, i just dont like to lie, but almost all aspie cant lie, because they just let other know that they are lying.

I used to feel lonely on occasion, but these days I don't feel lonely at all.

When I was in my 20s and early to mid 30s, I didn't feel very lonely. In my late 30s and 40s, I was feeling like I was being left behind and started to feel a bit lonely.

At the age of 40 when I went back to work on my doctorate (finished coursework but never did the dissertation), that's when I felt the loneliest I ever felt. I think it was partially because of the vast numbers of single women around.

Now that I'm in my late 50s and living in a more remote area where there are very few single women around who are of a reasonable age and neither living with someone nor are major drug users, I really don't feel lonely at all.

What's the opposite of lonely?

That.

Occasionally, I suppose. Like anyone does.

Even though socializing stresses me out, small amounts of it help me. I enjoy it.
But I've always felt a strange distance from people. I just feel like there is something that prevents me from actually truly enjoying others. I can like someone, but at the same time and for no clear reason, feel something is just not there.
So yes, I am very lonely. I still think one day I'll find someone that I can really get along with, but until then, I'll just wait patiently.

I'm lonely all the time. Most people are happy to go to a bar to not feel lonely, but not me. There's too much opportunity for chaos in a bar and usually the people there are not the sort I could relate to. I am a Christian and should probably go to church, but I am scared to.

Every day. Nobody knows me. I don't even know me. I'm alone.

Being lonely comes natural for me....

:-/ its not easy to socialize.....

I voted not at all because I often need my own space---and I enjoy that. But I know I will have family around me soon. But if family were to stay away too long I would miss them. As for needing friends around me---no...I don't need that. I enjoy having my time.

I enjoy solitude. I am only lonely when I'm with a bunch of people at a social gathering because when people talk to me I don't respond right, then I just zone out. I once fell asleep at a party with a bunch of people talking in the same room . I'm completely fine with staying in my room all the time, I don't get lonely at all then.

I often get lonely but it's not the kind of loneliness that can be cured by socializing. If anything socializing makes me feel worse.

Sometimes I'm painfully lonely and sometimes I need to be alone.

I'm not lonely at all. I have my pets, my books, my computer and my special interests. Why should I be lonely?

Sometimes I have this underlying longing to find somebody who can understand who I am and relate to me on a deep level. That's the kind of lonely that hurts.

There are other kinds of lonely that don't really bother me.

I also really like to be alone sometimes.

i'm not sure if the question is if i'm alone or if i'm lonely. because i'm very alone and always have been. never been in a relationship, never had kids, or friends.
but i dont feel lonely. i dont even care. it's easier this way.