Name something that you're good at socially.

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Well, anything that I do WELL socially is learned. Although people with Aspergers have trouble with empathy, it is true that empathy doesn't come naturally to anyone. Empathy is a LEARNED emotion, and if we can learn social rules we can learn empathy. We're just not too good at noticing everything.

I'm very good at the social graces... I say please and thank you, I dress very nicely, I don't swear or mouth off, I always apologize or say excuse me if I do screw up. When I'm at work, I never argue with my coworkers or bosses...I just say "Yes, I will do it." or "Will do it now." "Thank you." etc. I'm very good with table manners and social ettiquette. I take invitations and RSVP's seriously. I always RSVP to a party and let them know when I can go or not, and if no one RSVP's to my events...I consider them uninvited or "not going".

I'm good at helping other people or doing things out of my comfort zone or going out of my way for somebody else. I'm extremely patient with others and I rarely take out my frustrations on anyone, even if they are the cause of my frustrations....in other words, keeping my cool and just being plain nice. Sometimes it turns into naitivity unfortunately

I'm good at humor, jokes, sarcasm, and I don't take things literally...and I do even contribute to conversations...but I ALWAYS feel scripted, as if I am making too much effort to do it.

What I'm really bad at is appearing age-appropriate. To some people I seem too old for my age (too mature and proper) and to others I seem really young and childish. And I don't know how to fix that, it's as if that thought is permenantly engrained in others that I'm weird.

When my fiance introduced me to his friends, his friends were surprised at me and thought I was weird and told my fiance that I was childish. And to this day I NEVER understood why. I will ask my fiance "What is so childish about my behaviors?" and he won't answer me...ever.

I would do so much better if people were more concrete and clear and concise

I'm good at smiling at people, waving and saying "hi!"

I'm good at making people laugh. I've also been told that I'm really nice, generally after people have spent some time with me and I'm able to relax and be more myself.

I'm nice to people, and by that I mean that I'm good at telling them what they want to hear.

I've often found that I'm patient with people who don't stop talking, a.k.a. my best friend. Even though he talks consistently about fields of intellectual interest, I'm still able to have easy conversations with him considering that neither of us are adapted to small-talk communication.

Sometimes I have a good sense of humour, I'm able to change the tone of my voice in some situations, and (as implied above) I'm able to have decent conversations with anybody under the condition that it is an intellectual topic and nothing that involves people and common small-talk.

I think I'm decent at leading people on things I have well-planned out.

Everything else is quite a bit of work.

Friendly and warm

I can introduce myself and maintain a few minutes of polite conversation with someone. Then I get nervous and run out of interesting things to say so I let them do all the talking.

Hey, I'd make the perfect political candidate. Until I get elected and people expect more than handshakes and a few minutes of polite conversation

I'm good at making people laugh at my jokes. People tell me I'm very nice and kind, so I guess I can add that too.

I had session training at a very young age, and studied both body language and psychology, so my social skills can almost outmatch NTs.

I can carry out a conversation; start one, make a funny joke, and end one politely. I can tell when something is on somebodys mind, and even discern how they feel better then my NT father. I also know how to be convincing and how to debate as well as be diplomatic. I can make witty observations, and can even make a clever lie.

Only thing I have trouble with these days is two things; letting go of a subject that upsets me, and intuitively understanding my turn to talk, and thus time my conversations.

That, and if someone isn't speaking clearly enough I need them to repeat. I think that even NTs have that issue to an extent.

I face the opposite problem these days; how to tune out social situations and conversation opportunities to focus on my work.

I'm very good at remembering what people tell me this can be good i.e: I inform my form tutor of what they should be doing Monday to Friday but it also means that when people are trying to lie about what they say quite often I don't realise they're lying and I correct them as to what they did say

I am very quick witted and usually come out with a few one liners a day that have people laughing. It's frank, observational humour usually, possibly becauseof my slightly different perspective. I'm generally considered quite funny and object to the idea that all autistic people have mo sense of humour.

I am a good listener for others.... (I think this is because I am never good at stopping people from talking too much lol Plus I am curious about how other's think and why they do what they do - this is my special interest)

People appreciate that I am a genuine, honest, and polite person

Some people appreciate that I am "different" to the norm - some people find this refreshing and interesting

Some people find me funny- I have a very dry sense of humour

Most people appreciate that I use manners. This always seems odd to me - why are we meant to learn all these social scripts, etc, yet NTs rarely use them themselves ?