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28 Oct 2012, 12:53 pm

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If I were adopted, I'd kill my adoptive parents.






Ummmm.....why?

Because they're fakes, plastics, wallets.


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30 Oct 2012, 5:20 pm

Do I unsettle anyone in this thread?


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31 Oct 2012, 2:06 pm

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Again, I didn't quite know where to put this topic. I'm adopted and I was just wondering if any other aspies or possible aspies have been adopted and raised by their adoptive parents.


Yes I went through foster care until I was 6 then been with my adoptive parents since. I get asked a lot am I interested in knowing my original parents to which I always reply no, these people would just be strangers to me. I hear about NT's wanting to connect with them a lot but it's definitely not something I want.

Any reason why you ask? :)



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31 Oct 2012, 4:21 pm

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Do I unsettle anyone in this thread?


You're unsettling me, and probably everyone else who is participating.


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01 Nov 2012, 11:58 pm

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layla87 wrote:
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If I were adopted, I'd kill my adoptive parents.






Ummmm.....why?

Because they're fakes, plastics, wallets.


You would rather grow up in an orphanage then be adopted by a family that wants a baby?



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02 Mar 2013, 9:02 pm

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layla87 wrote:
Giftorcurse wrote:
If I were adopted, I'd kill my adoptive parents.






Ummmm.....why?

Because they're fakes, plastics, wallets.


You would rather grow up in an orphanage then be adopted by a family that wants a baby?

And by a family that wants a baby, you mean a family that wants a baby for money/power/control/kicks/other nasty human impulses?


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02 Mar 2013, 10:57 pm

I am adopted. I was adopted from overseas. I was abandoned as a baby around 8 mos old, put into a foster family then adopted and came to the US at 14 mos old. My adoptive family could not handle me. My mother, a racist, could not handle that I was not "obedient" and caused her a lot of difficulty. I was recently dx'ed with AS. My two sons are also on the spectrum with PDD. My "mother" and I have had a very strained relationship. She is now a pretty terrible alcoholic. I believe she regrets adopting me, and I don't think she should have ever been able to adopt me. Ironically I'm pretty sure my adoptive father has AS. He was an engineer who hated noise and retreated to his bedroom most of the time if he wasn't fixing something or doing some "project", averted most social situations, rarely talked to anyone on the phone, wore the same clothes for 30+ years, and was a huge fan of Mussolini, because "he made those trains run on time."



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03 Mar 2013, 6:49 pm

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I am adopted. I was adopted from overseas. I was abandoned as a baby around 8 mos old, put into a foster family then adopted and came to the US at 14 mos old. My adoptive family could not handle me. My mother, a racist, could not handle that I was not "obedient" and caused her a lot of difficulty. I was recently dx'ed with AS. My two sons are also on the spectrum with PDD. My "mother" and I have had a very strained relationship. She is now a pretty terrible alcoholic. I believe she regrets adopting me, and I don't think she should have ever been able to adopt me. Ironically I'm pretty sure my adoptive father has AS. He was an engineer who hated noise and retreated to his bedroom most of the time if he wasn't fixing something or doing some "project", averted most social situations, rarely talked to anyone on the phone, wore the same clothes for 30+ years, and was a huge fan of Mussolini, because "he made those trains run on time."

Perfect example of why there's no guarantee that adoption "works". Also, the case of this scumbag comes to mind.


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03 Mar 2013, 7:10 pm

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Perfect example of why there's no guarantee that adoption "works". Also, the case of this scumbag comes to mind.


What scumbag? The one you put from Clockwork Orange? Or my adoptive family?



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03 Mar 2013, 8:01 pm

Joel Steinberg. It's a link to a Wiki Article.


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Giftorcurse wrote:
Joel Steinberg. It's a link to a Wiki Article.


Oh I see. There was no underline or any differentiating characteristics of the text that were apparent to show it was a shortcut link.



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27 Mar 2014, 7:52 pm

Giftorcurse wrote:
mikassyna wrote:
I am adopted. I was adopted from overseas. I was abandoned as a baby around 8 mos old, put into a foster family then adopted and came to the US at 14 mos old. My adoptive family could not handle me. My mother, a racist, could not handle that I was not "obedient" and caused her a lot of difficulty. I was recently dx'ed with AS. My two sons are also on the spectrum with PDD. My "mother" and I have had a very strained relationship. She is now a pretty terrible alcoholic. I believe she regrets adopting me, and I don't think she should have ever been able to adopt me. Ironically I'm pretty sure my adoptive father has AS. He was an engineer who hated noise and retreated to his bedroom most of the time if he wasn't fixing something or doing some "project", averted most social situations, rarely talked to anyone on the phone, wore the same clothes for 30+ years, and was a huge fan of Mussolini, because "he made those trains run on time."

Perfect example of why there's no guarantee that adoption "works". Also, the case of this scumbag comes to mind.




I understand both of you guys completely. Not that I'm adopted. I'm sorry that you suffered through growing up with an inadequate family, and I agree that adoption is not always the best answer.

But I'm just curious to you Giftorcurse - wouldn't you want to kill your BIRTH parents instead?

I think its utterly unacceptable to bring a child into the world, when you are not emotionally, mentally or physically ready. And to abandon a baby is reprehensible.

I HATE people that have children for their own levrege, and burden the children they produce as well as the system. Screw reproductive freedom, people like that need to be sterilised!