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18 Nov 2012, 10:14 pm

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Bring tricked and manipulated


Hey all I am new to this but I have recently been diagnosed :lol: best thing in the world knowing what I am and how i can use my new found abilities to find a better way in life... feel like I can really function now!

But that is way off topic :P which I usually do.

I sometimes feel like most NT's like to try and manipulate you through tests and hazing.... I know it sounds paranoid of me but i seldom trust people and when I do the NT's say I am making them my best friend to fast? I dunno... It took me along time to trust my wife of all people with the fact that I wasnt picking up on social cues and that I needed her to help me with it... I just didnt want to be lied to. ... I dont know if I helped or contributed



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19 Nov 2012, 4:39 pm

All my life I fell prey to the games people play. I only learned in my late forties to recognize mind-games when they're played. If there's one thing I just can't endure in people it's mind-games.

The passive-aggressive game mentioned above is very popular because people think it's fool-proof and it suits the biggest cowards, which is most people.

Another popular one that comes to mind is the "he who blames first is the one in the right": if you're quicker than the other person to reproach an action, they tend to believe that they're in the wrong, not you. Even my therapist told me to adopt this game!


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19 Nov 2012, 5:27 pm

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NTs are often quick to tell somebody "you talk to much". Then they proceed to talk on the phone for a long time like "you talk to much" doesn't apply to the phone. They think the phone is exempt from that like it doesn't count or something. :roll:


Usually the "you talk to much" comment is in reply to:
* you've gone over their head, and they don't want to admit you are smarter then them, even if it is only on this subject
* you've pointed out an uncomfortable truth they'd rather ignore (in my experience, this is a major trigger)
* they're bored with the subject at hand, or tired of following that discussion.

It is seldom strictly about the sheer volume of noise.


Another reason NTs use that comment against others is to try and make it appear that they don't talk very much themselves. Even though they usually do.(i.e. they look for an excuse to say it)



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19 Nov 2012, 5:57 pm

They like to talk in riddles to belittle you, to make you feel naive, stupid and inferior to them. It is, in fact, their own hidden small self-confidence, that generally makes them do and say bad things to the AS in order to feel better.

I also noticed that they tend to say things like: "You are so original,"when they really mean: "You are the craziest person I have ever met." I sense dishonesty in such behavior, and loathe such people even more.


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19 Nov 2012, 6:31 pm

Fake-friending someone in order to:

a) find out their weaknesses to use against them (be wary of anyone who seems to share too much too soon especially if they expect you to do the same)

b) start excluding the victim once they think they have a friend, goodness knows what they get out of this but it's shockingly common.

c) use them for their own ends then drop them once the job is over. Especially if it is some scheme where the victim will come out of it looking like the bad guy and the fake friend can deny all knowledge of ever being involved.