I don't know right from wrong

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I always struggle with what to say whenever and always being a comedian can get you in trouble. My mom says I am blessed with a quick wit. I hate it. When I am ith my dad he laughs at all my jokes even the dirty ones. But some dirty jokes I can only say when he is in the right mood and not trying to be a parent and trying to be a joker. But I cannt read people for cr*p. then when my dads brother is out I almost can tell my dad any joke and say anything. But when his wife is around she only likes some jokes. Now, the thing with a joke is when some one says something to make it the best is you have to react as fast as you can. But I have so much trouble reading people at the start. Then the factor of if a joke is taken way to wrong. I said a few very vulgar jokes the week when I was at my dads but I didn't see anything wrong with them. Sure they were crude but they're not that bad. But my dad flew of the handle. My dad said I know what the hmmm is hmming right from wrong to paraphrase. Then I though to myself maybe I don't know what is right from wrong. I have always struggled on the why I am in trouble. If it is hitting my brother when HE deserved it our saying a sexual joke. I can't tell why it is bad. I know that going out and shotting people is wrong but I struggle to see what else is. Anyone else think that. Also I won't stop telling jokes. I love them and will always love to tell them.

I sometimes say the most inappropriate things, it scares me because I know that at any moment I could ruin a whole friendship, just by me being me. Terrifying, no?

Basically saying I totally relate to your comments.

You know they're crude so I'd say you're more aware of right and wrong than you give yourself credit for.

You seem to be very focused on your humor abilities, I imagine you enjoy executing a successful joke, who doesn't? What is acceptable to you may not be acceptable to others. If you're not sure whether something is appropriate or not, it probably isn't. Is delivering a punchline worth the social friction if you misread your audience? I hate when people entertain themselves with humor at the expense of others. If I wanted the entertainment of a comedian I'd go to a comedy club.

I don't know if it is a matter of knowing right from wrong as much as taking social context into cue. For example, you say you realize your jokes are crude. There are certain contexts in which crude jokes are acceptable, and certain contexts when they are not. They are most likely not in public places where random passers-by might overhear, in "mixed company" though "mixed company" may or may not include peers of the opposite sex...that is a harder one to make concrete rules for, and in groups that contain people who would be considered your "elders." Sexual jokes would probably follow the same sort of rules.

If someone believes that no one "deserves" to be hit and that hitting is wrong, you can understand why your belief that your brother "deserves" to be hit is not going to go over very well. My kids are not allowed to hit each other. Period. I don't care who did what first. The one who hits will always be in trouble, whereas the other one may or may not, depending upon what he or she did to provoke the other.

One thing I notice with my son, and my daughter now that I think of it, is that they apply their own, internal rules to social situations, when the reality is that you have to apply social rules to social situations. Others may or may not be aware of your own internal rules, but the expectation is that everyone will be aware of social rules. They help keep everyone on the same page, so to speak. May leave those of us who have a hard time figuring out the social rules at a disadvantage, but that is generally how I've found things to work.