aspie and living alone

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I live alone.

I can't live with other people.

I'm highly territorial and other people mess with my preferred routines too much.

I have lived alone in the past and found it wasn't the best thing for me. I tend towards being reclusive at times and could easily go from Friday night until Monday morning without seeing or speaking to another person.

I live in a houseshare with 8 other people now. 3 singles and 3 couples over 6 bedrooms. I have a large room that I have arranged exactly how I want it. We are all pretty quiet laid-back people and have the same ideas on acceptable levels of noise and messiness. And we get on well. It's the kind of house where you go into the kitchen to make a coffee, someone else wanders in and asks you how your day went, and half an hour later you are still there chatting.

We also have the thing where if you want to be on your own you can go to your room and no-one bothers you, and if you want company you go to the living room and someone else will be there soon.

I have more peace-and-quiet in this big houseshare than I ever had in smaller ones.

I've been living alone for 6 years now. I LOVE it! I should have done it sooner. I have control over my own environment, which has turned into my sanctuary. I can relax here and get away from everyone. Also, I don't come home to surprises because someone else is there or they have the TV too loud, etc. On the other hand I have to do all my housework myself, pay all my own bills, and if a problem comes up with the apartment, it's my responsibility to see it gets taken care of. It does get lonely sometimes and I find myself actively seeking out company.

Ive lived alone since I was 16. 11 if you count parents being out all my waking hours.

Living alone has been ok but I hope it to change soon. Im sure it will be hard to change but I just require some man space (the shed and garage) and I will be fine.

I've been living on my own since I was 21. I tried the roommates thing, but my roommate complained that I was always holed up in my room, and almost never left (I guess he wanted me to hang out with him), plus he always had people over, so I ended up getting my own place.

It was very difficult at first, mostly due to finances and not being very responsible with my money. I also didn't have the greatest job when I moved out, so it wasn't easy making ends meet, but I did it. It probably also didn't help that San Diego is one of the most expensive areas of the country. Anyway, I was hired to a better-paying job a year ago, so now I live comfortably.

What I like about it, I can have my own furniture (I like midcentury modern, which most people see as just "old junk"), I don't have to be woken up by my roommate and his girlfriend raging all night, or having sex. I'm very territorial. I have routines that would irritate most people, so it's probably best that I live alone.

I live in an apartment complex in a very densely populated part of town, so I do occasionally socialize with my neighbors. Not much more than a fleeting "Hey, how's it going? Nice weather we're having." or "How about them Chargers/Padres?", but it's still something, and I have a 9-6 job, so I don't get lonely that often.

I live about 1000 feet from the Ocean, I really don't think I have much to complain about

I've lived alone in an apartment for about 9 months. It's just me and my cat. I'm engaged though, so it will change. Right now, I enjoy living alone.

I'm rattling around in a five bedroom house. It used to be full of people and noise. I had a wife, two kids, and my father around all of the time. Some times I needed a little privacy, but most of the time I would just tune out and read or surf the computer while everyone else was visiting or watching TV. I liked listening to the kids play in the background while I did my own thing. I didn't realize that other people didn't see just being in the same room as interacting.

So my wife moved on, my kids grew up and left, and my father died. Now I get up every day and run through my routines. I still read, surf the net, and play computer games. But the sound of happy kids is gone, and the comfort of my father's presence, and the companionship of marriage. I'm 57 years old. I might have another 30 years of this. I'm not looking forward to it.

XLCR -start dating is my advice.

aside from my cat ive been living alone since 1999, the loneliness and stagnation at times can be maddening and for many years i was in a very bad place due to it but over the past 5 or so ive become more comfortable with it tho have taken a massive hit in my social skills department. the ones i had learned and used have seemed to fade over the time ive spent more or less isolated

Have lived alone for just over eleven years now. I prefer it to living with people. In fact, I do not believe I could tolerate living with people again. I don't know that I ever tolerated living with people well to begin with.

So yes, I like it. Require it.

I have lived alone in the past -- once for about 5 years. Other times a year or two - but have been married then divorced and am now married with a son thus not living alone now with family -- Once I spent about 7 years living in a group setting - where people came and went as they liked interacted with others as much or as little as they liked. I have "shacked-up" with a lover. I found all these living arrangements interesting and doable from my perspective and fulfilling for their time.

Living on your own does not mean living alone necessarily. Do not be surprised if your needs and desires change over time.