Eye Contact

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i'm able to look at people for short bouts... but i find my eyes always bounce around... either on their face or somewhere round the environment.

it came a shock to me at age 23-24 in grad school, when i'd get my teaching evals back with comments saying that i never looked at the students eye to eye when working one on one with them. there were other strange comments too, but i never really understood them til i found out about AS

now, i keep trying to improve but my last round of evals STILL had that crap on it ...... we'll see how i did this term in a couple of weeks when i get my next round of evals back.

Mmmm well as I'm NT and my partner is AS the only time he ever really maintains eye contact is during love making.

Now I'm wondering if he's really looking into one eye at a time or looking at the bridge of my nose

I can make eye contact for a split second..or pretend to...and it does make me really uncomfortable... If I have to talk to people for extended periods of time I can only (slightly) relax if they don't expect me to mantain eye contact. Sometimes I can fake it by looking at their forhead or nose...but generally I will revert to my typical averted gaze...The only person I can really make eye contact with is my boyfriend..but he is not really big into eye contact either....which makes it alot more comfortable.

Similarly..i don't like being filmed (liek for interviews) ..I have a hard time looking at the camera..I get really really tense...footage of me being interviewed is unbearable to watch...I am not looking at the camera and my head is making these bouncing jerking movements that I am not really aware I am making.
Sometimes I will notice..if I am in one of those rare forms where I get into a conversation with someone I am not familiar with...they will be bouncing their head alot..and I thing maybe they are doing it because that is what I am doing
I am not sure though

I have a hard time to make eye contact,
but when I force myself to make it, the other person ALWAYS
looks away after a few seconds..
Maybe my gaze is frightening i dunno

does it matter? as long as you have a SEXY nose bridge O.o? lol

I don't mind making eye contact with some people. I tend not to maintain it or avoid it in some cases. Sometimes when I do make eye contact I sort of stare a bit. Tricky thing with eyes.

I do have a great deal of discomfort maintaining eye contact, my eyes flit away after a second or two, and then back, and then away.

It is easier to maintain eye contact with someone I know reallllllly well, but other then that, no way.

It does not creep me out, it just feels very uncomfortable.

Just a side note, no one can look into both eyes of another at once. All peoples eyes flit back and forth from one eye to the other... or they look predominantly into one eye. That is perfectly normal so no one should feel weird about it.

Thenk you for making me smile Sedaka

And Yes I do have a very sexy nose bridge

this is also the case with me. it's not so much that i cannot maintain eye contact, more that i am conscious of it at all times, and never know what the normal level of eye contact should be. i either avoid eye contact or end up staring, which seems to make people uneasy at times.

When I force myself to make eye contact, judging by peoples strange reactions, I know i'm not doing it right. But I don't know what i'm doing wrong. Either I don't make enough eye contact or too much. I just can't seem to get it right.

when i was very little my kindergarten's teacher was used to shout at me because always i was used to say bonjour (it was one of the few words i talked at this age of 5 , i had language delay) without looking at her and so she was used to think that i was impolite for doing this..... but this teacher was old woman and stupid

Other teachers in kindergarten and in couple first years of school later noticed that i rarely look at their face when they call me or something but they thought this was extreme shyness. ... then later when i am became older and smarter i forced myself to look at their eyes and at their face to avoid troubles .

One of the funny incidents that frequently happen to me now as adult is at my workplace , my coworker always come after me to the office and tell me "hi" i usually I say "hi" back without looking at him (if i don't force myself to) . At first he was used to tell "hey good that u said hi at least" in ironic wa y .....later he got used to that and thought that it's a part of my personality .

Hi, I just joined the site because I am having a lot of trouble in my new job. I can't look at my boss and have trouble speaking (I usually think of words then read them from my brain but I think I am just so stressed at the moment I can't do this fast enough). I have relied so much on emails in previous jobs to avoid talking to people that I have got away it but that doesn't work here as he prints them out and then comes to talk to me. I don't know whether I should tell people here I have AS or go on trying to pretend. Advice anyone?

I think eye contact is very overrated. I have trouble with it and it's silly how stupid western society views lack of eye contact.

am I reading here that most people (but not ppl here) don't have problems making self-eye-contact in mirrors?

I have absolutely no problem with eye contact.

Tim

I can look at myself in the mirror without feeling nervous. I know I sound vain and silly, but I actually admire my own eye color (Which is a bright greenish-blue). Looking at someone else in the eyes during conversation is really hard. My mom told me to look at their eyebrows but if they have a unibrow, I might burst in laughter by accident.