Do you have any activity which you can enjoy with other?

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I have tried hard to have some activity I can enjoy with someone I want to close to (my mother, my NT friend) in long-term, but I still can't find any.
At first, I tried some simple activities most people do, such as watching TV together, taking a walk together in somewhere like nearby shopping mall. I have tried all of those with only one person at a time because I don't need to flow other's conversation all the time and I think it would be better to learn how to be myself and can still live with others. However, I can't keep it go on in a long-term. I had to tolerate very much at each time. It's like when I am together with someone for too long time, I will be very annoyed by the present of him/her and want to be alone, he/her also feel uncomfortable to stay with someone who have no empathy and can't small talk with him/her.

Do you have an activity you can do with one individual in long-term? Can you stay with one individual you want to close to for a long period?

Sorry for my bad English.

Last edited by chamthabo on 04 Feb 2013, 9:41 am, edited 1 time in total.

I'm sorry, I think it's pretty hard in your situation to find some activity you can enjoy with a long term person in your life.

You've already indicated a lot of activities (watching TV together, going for walk together) which would be helpful.

I think the thing is to keep doing these activities regularly. This has helped for me, cause I'm not much of a talker, but I usually go out if Im invited to movies, dinner, etc..

Movies... that is exactly what I was going to say. There is no talking during a movie, yet you are "spending time" with them. It is my favorite choice of activity to do with those I am close to.

Other than that... I play Words with Friends every day with my mom... even if we are both in the living room.. so much concentrating.. not much room left for talking other than teasing and a few jokes. Love it. Or when I am not in the mood to be in the same room.. I can go home and play with her from there. Yet we are spending time together.

I could say martial arts.
I do martial arts, and that is probably the only activity I enjoy doing with others.

Yes, I regularly play pool. Its good because you can talk about the game, talk about a specific interest - or not talk much at all. And you don't need to maintain a high level of eye contact.

I am touch hyposensitive, so cuddling, hugging, and holding hands is sometimes an option. You can make eye contact, talk, or you can do neither, and you're still interacting.

Interactions don't need to be verbal for it to be an interaction.

I like hike with others in the great outdoors.

When I do hikes with someone else I don't really consider it an "activity done with someone else", because I usually pay too much attention to the landscape and things that are around me to care about other people, as much that I often forget about their presence.

Gaming - board games, card games, video games, all work with two people depending on the game.

Board games, card games work with multiple people too

(And there are drastically different types of games depending on your preferences. There are American games, there are German Style games, there are party games...)

I like these minimal social interaction activities with other people. It's relaxing to walk around in quiet places with few people and say few words to each other while enjoying nature. More fun and socially satisfying than lots of back and forth interaction, I think.

I agree.