Are you so possessive of you objects that......?

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I'm HFA not Aspie yet i am very close to what you describe in the above. I do have one bmx bike i ride that i actually will let others ride.
If i let them ride it, it's a huge amount of trust on my behalf and they have to be of good character (usually local kids). Also within my eyesight. The bike is awesome and is over $1200 in parts. Totally a bombproof dialed bmx.

The only other person i let touch what i collect is my wife. Other than that no one else does. It is too special to me. Others make me nervous i even get nervous sometimes if relatives are over and near something.. Race has nothing to do with it, all humans. With the only exception me and my wife =)

I am EXTREMELY territorial of my art supplies as well. I allow my GF to touch or borrow them if we are both drawing at the moment at the same table (out of kindness, though she has her own stuff and seldom asks fore more than an eraser) and the last time a kid messed with my kneaded eraser it took a lot for me not to be rude. I am picky about my insulated cup, too,but nowhere near as bad as my art stuff. It really drives me coo coo.

I'm very possessive of my tools. I give away my art work "freely", but the tools I create it with I consider almost taboo for others (especially if someone gifted them to me). I think we have a tendency to "desoulify" objects in order to give them a part of our own "soul". This applies to all my theatre costumes, my sculpting tools and all other art tools and supplies etc. Still it gives me a lot of joy when I can pass something I treasure to someone who can appreciate its value.

I don't like other people touching my things. No I don't care what gender or race people are, nor do I care if the people are even related to me.

Take your stinking paws off my stuff, you damned dirty ape!

Items I am extremely possessive over:
+ My Warhammer 40K models (I spent many days custom-building them).
+ My art supplies (it's exceedingly difficult to find the specific brand of pencils, aquarelles, paints and paper I utilize in my art projects).
+ My AK-47, M2, MAK90, Maxim 1910, FlaK cannon (I dislike people putting their grubby, germy hands on them).
+ My ammunition collection (many of the rounds I own are experimental/prototypes or otherwise rare and expensive).
+ My BMX bikes (like another poster stated, good money went into customizing them).
+ My Magic: the Gathering and Magi Nation Duel cards (some of my cards are worth anywhere from $100 to $3,000).
+ My tools (People can never seem to understand that when you use someone's tools, you are expected to return them to their original location - not just throw them somewhere).
+ My food.

But you always eat the most yummy-looking stuff.

I can't stand for my husband to touch my knitting stuff because he manages to tangle it all up with one finger. I don't like for him to do the dishes because he never puts them away in the "right" place. And I don't like him washing my clothes. Or just men washing my clothes in general.

GRRRRRRRRRRRRR................
Don't make me eat your fingers (hopefully they're clean - That's the OCD talking)

I am not diagnosed but I do believe I have Aspergers. I wanted to look up why I'm so possessive of objects and it lend me to here.

The things I'm possessive of:

My food (that I asked for)

My money (I hate spending it and have a hard time using it for others)

Anything that is mine and especially anything in my room (for example my bracelets)



My mom says I just hate sharing but I can't even control it. I just get upset or super angry if the things that are mine or I consider mine are bothered with.
For example, I asked my mom to get some Oreo cookies and overtime there became less and less in the container. The other day I knew there was still a decent amount left but when I looked in the cabinet to get some, they were all gone. I got extremely furious and cried about it in my room.

I know this is not normal, I shouldn't be so upset about something like that. It's really hard to control it however and I hope that maybe when I'm older (I'm only 22) I'll be better about it.

But if there is something I consider very precious and someone is standing next to it I may get really concerned something will happen (possibly an anxiety).
No specific gender, all genders affect me.
I'm at least glad to have shared this somewhere safe and I hope people can relate to it. If there is a way to cope with this problem, I would be so grateful to know about it.

I don't mind my possessions being touched. I just don't like the thought of losing them in a fire or something.

I’m very possessive of things. It’s actually a real hindrance.

One example. I got a new car recently and hadn’t sold my old car. Which meant my old car was in my spot in the driveway. I couldn’t move it out of the way and it was driving me nuts that I couldn’t park in my proper spot. Thankfully I sold it and now have full possession back of my old spot. I also hate people touching my phone. I don’t know why and it upsets my wife when I get antsy about her using it but it makes me really uncomfortable. I can often get quite possessive about food. Like if we buy something in and I see it as ‘just for us’ and then my wife shares it with someone else it really aggravates me. I cannot, I mean cannot have anyone touch my bottles or cans of fizzy drinks. Just no. Mine. Hands off. You’ll ruin it.

God there’s more but yeah. I didn’t realise this was an aspie thing, I just thought I was a b***h or something.

Necro thread. But a good topic:

Don't touch my stuff. And if you do feel the need to touch my things, DO NOT move them. And if you do feel the need to move them, DO NOT DO SO WITHOUT TELLING ME WHERE YOU MOVED THEM TO!

Further thread necromancy...

I tend to share things very easily because it makes sense in my worldview. There are, however, some things not to be messed with. My typewriter is one of them, because I use it to work and it is surprisingly easy to disable an antique typewriter with a little carelessness. Another is my shaving kit or the phonograph records or my books (because beautiful books don't need to be damaged by careless handling.)

But I used to be very cautious about this and hated for people to touch my things.

This was a really great topic, too; let's get some more input maybe??

I used to be very possessive of my toys and all my things Really, especially of my siblings who I thought wouldn't give me my things back or care for them the way I do

With my collection of things I have in my room, I don't particularly like people touching or moving them. I also hate it when people flip through my sketchbooks without permission.

No, there is nothing raunchy or adult in there, but it's how I express myself, and there are some very special drawings to me in there. I have stories in my head about my art but I don't always feel like explaining to everyone because it's personal to me. When people judge drawings before they are done, or interpret them in a way that is off from what I pictured in my head, it ruins it for me, and I can never look at the drawing again without cringing.

Other than that, I am not too protective of my objects. I will let people see my sketchbook willingly if they let me choose the drawings.