Conflicts and the qualities of our friends

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People constantly blame me for having so many conflicts with my friends and so many friendships that don't last. Of course it's due to my AS, but there's a HUGE component of those failures and conflicts that's caused by the fact that I don't much CHOOSE my friends, because the vast majority of people reject me for being "weird", "different" from them, and so on. So the people that do show some interest are rejects themselves, but not rejects for being different but for being very difficult people. Am I explaining myself clearly? I mean, lots of the problems with friends are caused by my AS, of course, but lots more are caused by my constantly being friends with people who are, by anyone's standards, very, very difficult people to relate to, who have a lot of conflicts with anyone, not just me.

You should try inlaws....... much much worse.... and you have to keep seeing them....

What I mean is that in my friendships, the conflicts and endings are so frequent not only because of my AS, but also because the other person is unusually difficult too.

I guess the old saying 'birds of a feather' comes to mind... Us Aspies are cut from a different cloth and its hard to make and keep friendships - some people can be very uneasy, even phobic around those who are different to them and even though we want to appear the same, we are not. I guess in essence yes, NT's are unusually difficult too but don't be disheartened because there are NT's out there who are understanding and willing to embrace your individuality who will make fantastic friends. You just have to find them.