Do Female Aspies Have A Dating Advantage?

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Many guys find shy,nerdy girls attractive. Sadly, most girls find the same qualities very unattractive (when they are young)
in guys - though they try desperately to convince themself that they want a "nice guy" (often mixed up with guys who are just passive and unassertive and nsecure, but not actually nice).

My HFA little girl has played with her hair since she was a baby - playing with hair is not flirting! Perhaps in the NT world but I doubt in the Aspie world (not unless it's a stim).

A beautiful AS girl who is shy and nerdy might appeal for getting laid, but not necessarily for long-term relationship material. And if they do make it that far, I expect the divorce rates are high once the male realises that his AS wife can't cope with the demands of being a wife and mother. This is yet another example of stereotyping Aspie women by another male.

How do you know what Aspie females find attractive in a man? Generalising is unhelpful.

I popped back into the thread seeing a different poster, thinking maybe common sense was at last prevailing, clearly not, so I won't visit this thread again!

That's not the problem with "nice guys."

This is: http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/ ... guys.shtml

When you study attraction, you discover that what women say and what they want are two different things.

My HFA little girl has played with her hair since she was a baby - playing with hair is not flirting! Perhaps in the NT world but I doubt in the Aspie world (not unless it's a stim).

No relationship is better than an abusive relationship but one's inability to open themselves up to a relationship due to fear of abuse or pain is worst. You say I provide no proof but glance at this article http://tierneylab.blogs.nytimes.com/200 ... questions/ ; seriously you are only choosing to acknowledge the things that you want to.

Why are you demanding evidence when you've provided none yourself? You are making fantastic claims without providing sufficient evidence.


Forgive me for not being sympathetic.

(btw, bang-up job dismissing the experiences of multiple autistic females so you can continue to play the victim)

Yeah, I used to twirl and twist and even chew on my hair as a stim. I don't do it so much anymore.

I suppose that may be why people accused me of flirting when I had no such thing on my mind.

Long article, while men are entitled to nothing, it is silly to believe that women do not adhere to some non-stated methods or pruning. There various threads where women talk about hating how much guys approach them while there are numerous others where women are asking why guys don't have the balls to approach them. Women All women are diffirent; some want to be left alone; some complain about being approached and then complain when guys stop approaching them as they miss this attention. Some girls will call a guy a creep for simply saying hello; it could often be how she is feeling that day; the guy could be handsome, kind and have great qualities and she could take her frustrations out on him. Very often rejection will have absolutely nothing to do with the guy himself but rather on the mood and friction present when the guy meets the girl. Many guys get shot down and end up feeling as though something is wrong with them. Furthermore imagine if a woman approached a man and he completely blew her off; he would be a jerk.

The article mentions that its all about how low men are willing to go but before I feel into my stem of depression I was insanely handsome (still am though I need to get back into shape); I had a killer body; got compliments from both guys and girls but still couldn't hold a conversation with a girl living in a homeless shelter. Like I said being a guy is rough; its not always how low you are willing to go; sometimes you can't even get whats at the bottom of the barrel due to the difficulties you have with social interaction or fear of rejection. It's not that men believe that we are owed anything; its just that it sucks that we must put in virtually all the work and in the end risk getting broken down by someone that wouldn't even give us the time of day and show normal human decency. Lack of interest is no justification for rude or disrespectful behavior. Men are thought to be respectful to women, clearly women must not live by the same standard.

That's not the problem with "nice guys."

This is: http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/ ... guys.shtml

guy after guy approaches them;

Ladies (and gentlemen), lets not fight; we are all on the wrong planet together. Lets just put this thread to rest and simply all admit that Aspie men have their difficulties as do Aspie women; trying to figure out who has things more difficult is like comparing apple's and oranges. We are all looking for different things, and every experience can often be a different one. I won't admit to being wrong nor will I profess that I am right; instead I see both points and respect them equally. Now please move on "Road to the Multiverse" is finally on netflix and its a "Wonderful day for Pie"! !! !