Does everyone with Asperger's get meltdowns?

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I am not sure if I ever have meltdowns. I do occasionally have shutdowns where it becomes difficult or even impossible to speak. I know what I want to to say but nothing comes out.

I don't have outbursts in public, and I don't have them with friends either. If I was in a shop with really loud music on, I know how to just cope with it, and if it annoys me too much then I'll go out. But I was with an NT friend once in a shop with loud music, and even she complained to me about how loud the music was.

Loud noises don't set me off though. I don't have outbursts from sensory overload. I have them from emotion overload (too many negative emotions at once). Outbursts are horrible because I get so angry that I don't know where to put myself or what to do with myself. I am just in a sheer panic, because usually my outbursts are triggered off by things that are beyond my control, like when it snows, because I hate snow. Well, there wouldn't be any point in having outbursts over something what I can control, because then I can do something about it then, won't I?

I seem to be so angry with myself all the time and I tend to beat myself up emotionally a lot, and let other people get the better of me. This is probably because I know I'm an Aspie and so I'm always thinking in the wrong and NTs have better social skills and so 8 times out of 10 are doing the right thing socially (I said 8 times out of 10 because nobody's perfect and everybody makes mistakes, but mine are more frequent and become a nuisence in my daily life). So just dealing with anger like an adult I feel isn't expressing my angry emotions enough for me, so I got to let people really know how I feel by screaming and yelling. I suppose that's how toddlers feel aswell, even though, rationally, screaming and crying just makes things worse because it upsets people around you. But you don't care about that at the time, and I don't suppose anybody can when it comes to anger, because NTs get angry too and some can get really scary when angry, but my reactions to my anger just comes out in a different way, more uncontrollable and insane.

I've had them. For me, I usually end up crying...
I did it when I first started my job but don't do it at work anymore, I know now when to step away from people who are irritating me.

For me they are definitely brought on by too many things happening that I can't control all stacking up at once

I used to have a ton of "shutdowns" or "meltdowns", but now not so frequently as before. I still get them, but specific triggers have to be in place in order for it to set off.

not all meltdowns can be stereotyped, it can be something small and you may not even notice it,and not all aspies get meltdowns some are tolerable to change or overwhelment

I have outbursts when I get extremely anxious or worried about something, but only at home. I would never dream of having them in public because I am sensitive to embarrassment and I don't fancy showing myself up in front of people.

I don't know exactly what meltdowns are. When I go into one, I am very verbal, I shout, scream and swear about everything and everyone, and I threaten to commit suicide. I've even got the sharpest knife out before and threatened to stab myself so that it'd put an end to all my miseries, but even when I'm at my angriest, I still don't have the guts to do it. My mum is relieved about that. And no, I have never threatened anyone else with a knife, only myself. My family knows that.

But that's practically what my ''meltdowns'' involve. I feel like I'm a drunk person that gets abusive and angry, when I have one of my meltdowns. I don't have ''Autistic meltdowns'', where I flap my hands or rock backwards and forwards and go all non-verbal, or repetitively throwing a favourite toy or something like that. I've never been like that, even when I was a toddler. I had typical toddler tantrums when I was a toddler, over things most toddlers would have a tantrum over.

I frequently have shutdowns. It was a relief when I was finally diagnosed and learned what that was because I had always thought something was wrong with me. I only very rarely have meltdowns, and they make me afraid of myself.

I think some of my meltdowns when I was young resulted from not talking about things with my family and expecting them to know what I was feeling or thinking without me talking about what I was feeling or thinking. And then I became very frustrated when I felt they weren't treating me well.
I see this same thing in a young family member who always seemed to expect me to read his mind and then he would become frustrated because I couldn't. Then I would feel bad because I was unable to immediately understand what the problem was. And now I am finally able to recognise that same behavior in myself.
So I was wondering if any one else could relate to this and if it has anything to do with theory of mind.

Uhh I remember getting really frustrated when I was younger...but generally I do not experience meltdowns. I think it is because I have removed most of the stress from my life now.

Shutdowns? yes to the point where it is physically difficult to speak to people.

I generally don't, unless I get really stressed, which is rare.