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19 Feb 2013, 3:54 pm

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"Playing hard" usually refers to drinking and/or drugs in a party, music or club setting


As good as saying, "high expectations" ? Is this some sort of code ?


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19 Feb 2013, 5:54 pm

For those who can answer the question, though I assume that NTs will find this question easier to answer:

Do most people find abnormal nerdiness--playing trading card games disgusting, openly being a member of the "furry" or "My Little Pony" fandom, ect.-- physically disgusting or so mentally disgusting that it causes considerable distress? Some of my more socially in-tune peers, who are avid anime lovers and could be considered members of the "nerd" culture themselves, seemly physically repulsed by the aforementioned displays of subculture. Does this bother NTs to the extent at which flickering lights or disrupted routines can bother Aspies?



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19 Feb 2013, 8:12 pm

I don't think so. It just sets off their weirdness radar.



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19 Feb 2013, 8:44 pm

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This one may have been done before on this thread, but I appear to have some difficulty with discerning things like sarcasm, to a certain degree getting to know when people I don't know too well are joking, as well as what to do with the really negative comments of a coworker. I think that she might be jealous. But I don't know for certain.

But, I do not regret my endearing oddities one bit. Given the choice, I would not be NT, even though I am not sure how much of an Aspie one would really call me. Can someone be both NT and Aspie? Some days I am kind of NT, and others I feel more Aspie, although I have been formally diagnosed with HFA. Anyways, hope I do not sound like I am obsessing too much.


Managertina I can relate to not always understanding sarcasm and sometimes I will feel like the person is joking and being funny and other times it seems the person is upset or angry. If you feel the co-worker is not being very nice, maybe you are correct. When you know someone well and they are joking and kidding in a friendly manner this is very different than someone saying things in a negative way and trying to play it off as joking or kidding.


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19 Feb 2013, 11:12 pm

Your post made me feel better!

As a laughing point: I was at a conference with folks I now see once a year. We were talking about the summer events we were going to do, and one mentioned that she already had her entire summer planned. I fell for it, 'hook, line and sinker.' REALLY? I said. 'Oh, of course not. I couldn't be that lucky.' She said after a while. But for a while, there, she had me going, and jealous too!



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20 Feb 2013, 2:45 am

Gazelle wrote:
managertina wrote:
This one may have been done before on this thread, but I appear to have some difficulty with discerning things like sarcasm, to a certain degree getting to know when people I don't know too well are joking, as well as what to do with the really negative comments of a coworker. I think that she might be jealous. But I don't know for certain.

But, I do not regret my endearing oddities one bit. Given the choice, I would not be NT, even though I am not sure how much of an Aspie one would really call me. Can someone be both NT and Aspie? Some days I am kind of NT, and others I feel more Aspie, although I have been formally diagnosed with HFA. Anyways, hope I do not sound like I am obsessing too much.


Managertina I can relate to not always understanding sarcasm and sometimes I will feel like the person is joking and being funny and other times it seems the person is upset or angry. If you feel the co-worker is not being very nice, maybe you are correct. When you know someone well and they are joking and kidding in a friendly manner this is very different than someone saying things in a negative way and trying to play it off as joking or kidding.


I seem to find it easy (or so I think) so understand what is really going on in the persons mind sometimes but not fully understand what they are saying, or rather i read through their talk and see more into it, ie I cut through the superficial bit. Maybe it is just that I dare to think the things I do and accept that I have to work with people that probably don't like me and/or are jeleaous. But at the same time I find it hard to read between the lines (not fun when trying to deal with the opposite sex). There are a few people I find hard to fathom out as though some days they are nice some days not so and have come to assume that I'm the one that is highly repeatable and does not treat people different based how I feel on the day as that is not fair.


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20 Feb 2013, 3:36 pm

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Keni wrote:
"Playing hard" usually refers to drinking and/or drugs in a party, music or club setting


As good as saying, "high expectations" ? Is this some sort of code ?



I know of it being used in the 1950s by male labourers eg dock workers, riggers to describe a life of hard physical work interspersed with heavy social drinking and pursuit of multiple female short term partners.
It has evolved into an overused catchphrase, usually simply meaning that their leisure time involves mostly social events.

It doesn't refer to high expectations as such, or a specific culture or preferred venue for socialising. The implicated "womanising" has also faded from the original meaning.
For example, an office worker who drinks 6 beers at a party might consider themselves a "player", but not be seen as such by their peers.

In its usual modern usage, it would describe someone who enjoys weekly large amounts of alcohol, and use of marijuana and/or ecstacy. (Although drug use / non- use varies widely)



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21 Feb 2013, 7:37 am

and of course it may mean one thing in the US and another hear in the UK


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21 Feb 2013, 4:40 pm

Well I was referring to Australian customs! I guess you could adjust for specific culture according to climate (length of time social events can be held outdoors / likelihood of quenching thirst with beer due to hot weather) :)



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22 Feb 2013, 5:03 pm

Any one else read "Naughty A$$ Hotline" ??




(Well ya did now!! xD haha)



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22 Feb 2013, 5:33 pm

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Any one else read "Naughty A$$ Hotline" ??




(Well ya did now!! xD haha)


err, I'm lost


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23 Feb 2013, 9:13 am

Whatever became of the original poster:Ms Greentea?

She hasnt posted in two years.



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23 Feb 2013, 10:17 am

I left years ago and registered again a few months ago because I wasn't able to access my old account.


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26 Feb 2013, 1:16 pm

Glad to have you back.

I was under another name back in the say here for similar reasons.



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26 Feb 2013, 7:33 pm

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LoudMuch wrote:
Any one else read "Naughty A$$ Hotline" ??




(Well ya did now!! xD haha)


err, I'm lost




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AS open hotline ! !! !! !"

NT = NaughTy
AS = Ass
Hotline = Hotline

I was saying/making joke that it was an "Adult hotline"

I was on meds at the time xD facepalm*



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10 Mar 2013, 4:52 pm

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From an aspie to the NT's. What does it mean (particularly when put in a dating site profile) "I work hard and play harder". What is the sentiment/attitude that the person wants to convey - for me it just turns me right off and leads me to think the person saying this thinks too much of herself.


Its actually a very good thing when true. The context has to do with work-life balance, and means that a person devotes as much or more energy and resources to having fun in their free time as they do in their career. It doesn't necessarily mean partying or doing drugs, it's however they define "having fun" such as kayaking, hiking, reading books, traveling, etc. The reason it's important is that so many people devote their whole being to their careers and end up having a very superficial personal or social life. So, yeah, to put that in an online profile simply means to emphasize that they like having fun, and that they have a life outside of their job. Hope this helps, -DD