21 Mar 2007, 4:38 pm
21 Mar 2007, 5:29 pm
PaulW wrote:
Ribbons wrote:
PaulW wrote:
It's difficult for me to explain to others because I'm rather outgoing and have a professional job. Still, it can take me three tries to leave my apartment to go to work because I am so lost in my thoughts that I forget everything I need to take to work with me. I have a very short attention span. I do not make cognitive shifts well. I get confused very easily--sometimes I have to think very diligently about getting somewhere that I've been to many times. I get lost in obsessive thoughts. Sometimes I'm amazed that I can hold a job. It's hard to explain these things to people who think that I'm competent at work. They don't know how hard it is for me. Also, since I've been diagnosed with Asperger's, I know these difficulties will always be with me.
Still, I love my life and wouldn’t trade it for anything!! !! !!
Still, I love my life and wouldn’t trade it for anything!! !! !!
lol i started to cry when i read your comment because it defines exactly what i struggle with day in day out
im in a very professional job and yet thngs like getting out of my room and obssesive thoughts ruin everything
how can i normal person understand when all they see is me being badly behaved
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I think most people without Asperger's don't realize it is a daily struggle to live with it. Autism never takes a day off. Just when I think I'm doing well I'm not. There are many times it seems like one step forward and two steps back. Before my diagnosis I often wondered why i couldn't manage to do things that others seemed to do easily. Others were confused as well and were thinking, "He is so bright--why can't he be more consistent? He forgets the easiest things." Well, now I know why. I'm still trying to get used to it. At some point I thought it would all go away. Now I know it will not.
Well, BE CAREFUL when assessing your problems! SOMETIMES things happen like they did at one class I had. I raised my hand, and asked a question. The teacher could NOT answer it, but asked if anyone else had a problem. They said NO, and LAUGHED! I looked like an IDIOT! A class of like 20, and I was the only one that didn't get it!?!?!? Well, I figured it out MYSELF! At the end, he asked if there were any questions. MANY raised their hands, but I was NOT one of them! I had to laugh!! !! !! WHY?????? Because EVERY question related to MY question! Whether they knew it or not, they did NOT understand what I didn't because, if they did, they would NOT have had the questions they did. Yet **I** figured it out! I wasn't the dumbest after all! I was the SMARTEST! So you don't learn the same way! So some things come harder! SOME come EASIER!! !! I'm in a job where I know more than nearly everyone else, yet they studied LONG AND HARD for what came naturally to me!
Steve
22 Mar 2007, 1:22 am
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22 Mar 2007, 9:06 am
alexbeetle wrote:
I started a new job recently and was having problems because it is a small place with a lot of people, a new language etc. I can normally try not be too odd but it was obvious things were going really badly so for the first time I admitted I had AS to my boss and offered to leave. He has been okay about it and wants me to stay but I think he has read a few things - like AS people being super intelligent - and now thinks I am like that so there is MORE pressure to work harder and produce results (I already do approx 14 hours, 7 days). Also I think he has told the other people here I am AS and they have read other things and most won't look at me anymore as they are embarassed (I may start playing with string...). Time to look for yet another new job?
I'd ride it out for a few weeks... if people begin to demand superhuman feats or are patronising to you, then leave..
my experience is once the novalty wears off, they will forget about it...
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24 Mar 2007, 11:05 am
SteveK wrote:
Ribbons wrote:
cobweb wrote:
Noetic wrote:
That's why I don't usually mention it, because it means people are more likely to put me in a position where I am confronted with unpredictable conversations. I can rabbit on about autism online for ages, but when I am put on the spot and have to explain things in relation to *me*, I'm lost for words.
I have the same problem. But lately I almost feel dissociated from myself and my behavior. When people ask how I'm feeling, why I did something, or what I'm thinking about, I get stuck...
me too
i hate that feeling
SAME HERE! I have made lists, etc.... But if someone asks me up front, I might have trouble. HECK, the SAME was true when trying to explain to someone recently why I wanted a package rerouted appropriately. So it isn't even specific to AS with me.
Steve
I find the exact same thing happening to me. I'm just terrible at explaining things in general, I either make it too incoherant or too complex. Or sometimes I just have massive mental blanks. At my old job I once needed to ask my boss if she wanted me to sort some nametags into certain envelopes...and the word 'envelope' completely slipped my mind
I was trying to grasp for the word and sounded like a complete idiot.
"Do you want me to put the name tags in alphabetical order in the...uh...um...you know, the letter things..."
I've had some pretty funny mental blanks, but I found that one just stupid.
24 Mar 2007, 11:22 am
MasterKron wrote:
SteveK wrote:
Ribbons wrote:
cobweb wrote:
Noetic wrote:
That's why I don't usually mention it, because it means people are more likely to put me in a position where I am confronted with unpredictable conversations. I can rabbit on about autism online for ages, but when I am put on the spot and have to explain things in relation to *me*, I'm lost for words.
I have the same problem. But lately I almost feel dissociated from myself and my behavior. When people ask how I'm feeling, why I did something, or what I'm thinking about, I get stuck...
me too
i hate that feeling
SAME HERE! I have made lists, etc.... But if someone asks me up front, I might have trouble. HECK, the SAME was true when trying to explain to someone recently why I wanted a package rerouted appropriately. So it isn't even specific to AS with me.
Steve
I find the exact same thing happening to me. I'm just terrible at explaining things in general, I either make it too incoherant or too complex. Or sometimes I just have massive mental blanks. At my old job I once needed to ask my boss if she wanted me to sort some nametags into certain envelopes...and the word 'envelope' completely slipped my mind
I was trying to grasp for the word and sounded like a complete idiot."Do you want me to put the name tags in alphabetical order in the...uh...um...you know, the letter things..."
I've had some pretty funny mental blanks, but I found that one just stupid.
I had THAT too, though thankfully not much or lately, but that isn't quite what I meant.
I had a packaged SHIPPED to MA, but billed to IN, and the email said the delivery zip was IN! I fought ALL LAST WEEK to get them to ship it to MA. SUPPOSEDLY, it is FINALLY there!! !! !! It arrived about 3 ours AFTER I left. Anyway, they tried to get me to accept it in IN, "AFTER ALL, [I AM] going there on friday". Well, Friday was YESTERDAY! I am STILL in MI!(In between MA and IN!) Anyway, I spoke of how it would waste my week, I might not make it, etc.... It totally slipped my mind that I wanted it in MA, and it would be a hardship to reallocate space and make sacrifices to do what ****THEY**** were being paid to do. It turns out I was VERY right! I'll be lucky to get there by 3, so I may have had less than 2 hours anyway.
As for AS? I might mention lack of social skills, early talking, etc.... And FORGET about interests, obsessive actions regarding that, stims, etc...
Steve
24 Mar 2007, 11:45 am
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