Is Arrogance and Self-Superiority an Aspie trait?

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Not all, yet sometimes with some people it seems to be just the case.

I may feel or know often that I am smarter than someone at certain things, but regarding other aspects I feel inferior or awkward, such as social competency, and visual spatial skills, directions or reading a map.

I think I've had to develop a sense of the ways in which I am 'better' than others as a compensation for the many ways in which people/society tells me I'm not up to standard. It's a compensatory action to prop up a badly damaged ego.

The trouble is, a mentally ill person who gets very angry against society and seeks revenge can use their self-assumed superiority as justification for what they end up doing

No, I don't personally feel this way. Though I might have when I was younger but more due to other things like intelligence (I didn't think about AS much back then). And then about a year ago I felt the opposite - I felt inferior at times. Now I would say I neither feel superior nor inferior - I consider everyone equal in general.

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Maybe so, but if they only survive 98% of the time, then that's not surviving, is it? Our little 2% contribution makes for a better world. We may not be superior to them, but we're not inferior either.

I get read as arrogant sometimes. I forget that you're not supposed to say things like, "I know more than my professor about Subject X", or "My textbook is out of date; they got their facts wrong," because those things are above you in the hierarchy and you are supposed to pretend that you don't ever know more than they do, even though there are so many things to know that you are bound to know at least something they don't even if they are experts and you just studied the subject for fun. You're not supposed to say those things because people think that you believe that this makes you better than them, when in fact you are just saying something that is true, just like you might say, "I suck at tying my shoes," or, "I'm bad at doing group projects," and that would be true too. So if you talk about your strengths it's arrogant, but if you talk about your weaknesses it's normal, even if both things are facts.

I wish that weren't the case, so I wouldn't have to think about everything I say first to make sure it doesn't sound arrogant to somebody who thinks that being able to do something that somebody else can't do must make me superior to them. From my perspective, it doesn't. Human beings are too varied with too many skills that you can compare them on, so that pretty much everybody has something that they're better at than somebody else. And how would you pick which thing was important and which wasn't? You can't; it's entirely arbitrary. So I think we should be able to celebrate being good at something, without having other people think that we're being stuck up. I want to be able to say, "I'm pretty cool"--without it implying, "And you're not." I wish our culture allowed that. Because I think other people are pretty cool, too.

Also, this post is a good demonstration of the complex grammar involved in theory of mind. No wonder young autistics have trouble with it.

Yes, in a couple different ways.

1. Some of us come across as arrogant unintentionally when we say things that we think of as merely matter of fact vs. being arrogant.

2. There is an AS trait of some feeling like they are superior in a God like way and should be respected/bowed down to etc. It's often these types that end up as business leaders/CEO's etc if they can utilize other skills to get into a position like this - but it's certainly helped along by their holier-than-thou confidence & perceptions of themselves.

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