Eye Contact- How does it make you feel?

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I hate eye contact, I don't know why but it's uncomfortable. I try to avoid it, or I try to focus in other part of people's face.

I actually TRIED to look into peoples eyes yesterday. It WAS odd, I don't think I could for more than 3/4 of a second. I can't say it was painful, but it WAS uncomfortable and ackward.

Steve

i tried to look into peoples eyes yesterday.... problem was at college it is mostly girls... i felt really uncormfortable, but i was determined to do it for experiments sake... now i think some of them think i like them... ack... talk about awkward

I first realised I didn't make eye contact when I found out that I didn't know the eye colour of...well, anyone.
My first instinct is to snap away whenever someone's eyes lock into mine (but then I'll realise how cowardly I look and I will look back into their eyes, even if only for a few seconds before I have to turn away again).

I have strange feelings about eye contact. I used to avoid it completely- like someone said here, there's that awful disorienting zooming effect, and it makes me feel like I'm going to fall over and the person I'm looking at is going to suck out my soul through my eyeballs.

In recent years though, I have been making a conscious effort to make eye contact with people so that they feel I am paying attention to them (even though I am more likely to be focussing on holding eye contact than on the meaning of the words they are saying!). It's a lot easier to do if I examine the eye like it's a meaningless object rather than an eye; I look at the folds of its iris and the blood vessels and all that.

Lately I've started to wonder if maybe I am making people uncomfortable when I deliberately force myself to hold eye contact. I don't look away, and I think some people must think that's weird. I can't tell. What do you guys think?

I dislike eye contact. It makes me feel nervous(fear/scared), I go for alternatives.

To me, making eye contact can be like completing an electrical circuit or something. I don't know if that makes sense to anyone else? Like your eyes kind of 'lock' with the other person's and energy flows.

*screams after seeing scrulies Avatar*

Scrulie, do you mean bad energy or good energy?

It makes me feel real uncomfortable looking at people. I see it pointless anyway. I have ears. I can hear. Want me to look at you, then talk ina real soft voice when there is background noise so it makes it harder to hear and then I will look at you (your mouth) and try to read your lips. But then I don't enjoy talking to you then because it's so annoying to try and strain my ears to hear you.

It's generally uncomfortable to me, but the main two reasons I struggle with eye contact is because A. I can't keep focused on the one thing and B. I worry whether I'm making the right ammount of eye contact with a person. I'm not sure if other aspies would know the feeling, but I feel I concentrate on eye contact so much that the fixation is almost unnatural...and usually an NT can tell it's forced.

Thinking about this made me think of something my first gf told me; 'the eyes are the gateway to your soul.' I think that's another reason...when someone stares into my eyes I feel like they're piercing my soul. And my soul doesn't like being punctured

I feel a pressure, as if some wave emitted by their eyes is entering me. Makes me feel like my head will asplode. I know that it will not, and I can push the needle into the red. Takes a lot of energy to do though.

And related, out of context I am terrible at face recognition too.

Remember that movie, Stargate? When the eyes of the alien in the human's body would do this electrical thing? That's how it feels when someone looks my way. And its also what some others have said, about the energy exchange. Mostly I don't want it. Making eye contact always gives me this little jolt in my gut, almost like dread.

One thing that I have found helpful, is if you must look at someone, try focusing on the left eye only. I once read this book about auras and such, where the author says that there actually is an exchange of energy occurring with eye contact. And that if you only look into the left eye of the person, you are neither taking nor receiving energy.