how did you come to terms with it?

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Hi. I want to hear from aspies who have finally come to terms with their ASD. It's taken me a few years, and a lot of phases since I was first diagnosed, but I think I am finally accepting and being okay with it. How was it for you?

For me, when I figured it out 6 months ago, accepting it was much more instantaneous and an absolutely massive relief to have finally figured it out - as due to extenuating circumstances, it was getting downright terrifying just prior to. It is what it is, I can't change the reality that I have it. Denying it won't do me any good whatsoever. Accepting it and learning as much as I can to deal with it is doing me a lot more good than the alternative of having life continue to go frustratingly sideways with no apparent explanation. Now that I'm doing the things I need to to better myself & my chances with all of this.. life is beginning to go a lot smoother & will get quite a bit better yet. I can't imagine wanting to prolong misery & delay the process of improving myself and my life. What an illogical choice.[/Data.]

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

I didn't accept it for the longest time, then, as I read up on it I read about how all these important people could've been Aspies and that made me feel better. I thought I was doomed to a life of being pitied and treated like a moron. Turns out people either tend to think we're savants or non-verbal. So, that's not so bad I guess.

It took me a little while to come to terms with my AS, but it's gotten better. I think a lot of people are in denial at first.

No idea how you're supposed to "come to terms" with something you're born with and haven't known any different your whole life.

I was very ashamed of it for many years. I was diagnosed when I was 13 but didn't accept it until a few years ago.I didn't want to hear or read a thing about autism. I'd be really embarrassed if someone brought it up or pointed out anything related to it, like if missed a social cue. Also, I tried very hard to get rid of or at-least not show any symptoms. Reading about it on this site and then reading some books about AS that my mum bought a long time ago helped me accept it somehow.

I was reading symptoms about it and then started to notice NTs do them too and I didn't understand the eye contact thing. I would look at other students and not see their eyes on the teacher. They were either looking down or across the room or somewhere else. Then I decided I was normal and I wasn't any different. I think me being left alone also helped because it's hard to come to terms and see yourself as normal if you are bullied in school. But I still got treated different.


I still get embarrassed when the autism topic gets brought up by anyone because I don't want to be found out. But it's taken me three years to accept it and not be upset about having it. My parents used to tell me how I could have something worse like being crippled or having Down's syndrome or having cancer. I unfortunately used it as an excuse for a while.

What's to "come to terms with"?

Everyone told me all of my life that every godamned thing in the world is wrong with me.

Then after fifty years of living- a doctor gives me a test, and then tells me that: "No- everything is NOT wrong with you. It just ONE thing wrong with you- everything else is just an illusion caused by that one thing."

That was GREAT news!

It was liberating.

The only negative was wondering "why someone didnt tell me decades ago?"

I cant even imagine why a dx would be considered bad news to anyone.

The thing to come to terms with is: why it took so long to find out.

Finding out earlier would have saved a lot of angst.

It would also have been great to have found this wonderful group of people here earlier, who are just as weird, just as nuts, and understanding of what it is like.

I don't know. I don't know any other way to be.

There was nothing to come to terms with, mostly because I was diagnosed at the age of 2, so it's all I've ever known

I literally just posted a thread explaining how I came to terms with having AS.

It got into my head that there wasn't much I could do about my ASD, and I knew it wasn't going to just go away.