Familiarity breeds contempt---in the extreme!

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Does anyone else with an unquestionable Asperger's diagnosis have this?

I get tired of people, things, and places very quickly. I actually like meeting new people in many cases, but building lasting relationships, not so much... The longer I see someone, the more I dislike them. Same goes with places. The longer I live anywhere, the more I hate it. The longer I attend a university, the more I hate it. When I move somewhere or meet a new person, I see only good things. After a time, only bad things.

Can this be explained in terms of Asperger's?

The same thing happens to me. I can't stand building a relationship with a doctor so I just go to a new walk-in clinic, no matter how far. It's related to oxytocin, the cuddle hormone. You don't get the same kick out of relationships that NTs do.

Can't say I do. I stick like glue.

Nope. I crave familiarity most of the time.

I prefer predictability and sameness

I have a low need for novelty generally but I would say I seek it in books and films

Things need to be realistic but also original, without all the usual tired stereotypes

I only like repeating experiences that I've found rewarding - if an activity doesn't make me feel good I won't want
to do it again; same goes with people - if they make me feel bad about myself I won't want to keep interacting with
them

I can identify with part of what you are saying Tyri0n, although I do not have a official diagnosis.

I mentally hold on to negatives rather than positives, something which I'm trying to change.

When ever I spend time with a person or in the same place, any negatives accumulate and the positives seem to be insignificant, or don't even register, ultimately there is an imbalance with obvious results.

I no longer seek out new people to learn to dislike.

I'm a novelty seeker, hell I like experiences others might find horrible just because to me it is "interesting". And I would undoubtedly have been diagnosed as straight up autism at least as a child(didn't start talking except in made up language until age 6 etc).

This is the one symptom where I don't match at all to standard criteria.

For me, regarding people, I find I generally do better to maintain a certain distance. Otherwise it seems all to often either I tire of them or they tire of me. I prefer having a number of casual acquaintances.

I'm pretty much the exact opposite. I like sameness and predictability, and I have extremely low need for novelty. Unless I'm stuck with something that bores me; then a few minutes are a very long time and I want something else; but as it is now I'm unemployed and can preoccupy myself as I wish all day long and am pretty happy TBH.
I don't enjoy meeting new people. I prefer same old (and very few at that).
I enjoy reading the books I like, and then read similar books as well. Sane for other types of entertainment.
I never want anything new (in a series of games for instance) to be too different from the good old recipe that works.

I also prefer sameness and familiarity in general. However, I do end up quitting and running away from jobs and school programs when things start to go wrong or I start to feel really stressed out and overwhelmed.