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08 May 2013, 4:09 pm

Well I guess you are in the USA, so you are too far away for me to become your real friend. I can be an online friendly 'face' though.


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08 May 2013, 4:12 pm

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Well I guess you are in the USA, so you are too far away for me to become your real friend. I can be an online friendly 'face' though.


:D Do aspies make good friends or do they tend to repel each other rather than attract?



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08 May 2013, 4:16 pm

CAL_1138 wrote:
whirlingmind wrote:
Well I guess you are in the USA, so you are too far away for me to become your real friend. I can be an online friendly 'face' though.


:D Do aspies make good friends or do they tend to repel each other rather than attract?


That depends on the individuals involved. Just like in any relationship.



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08 May 2013, 4:19 pm

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whirlingmind wrote:
Well I guess you are in the USA, so you are too far away for me to become your real friend. I can be an online friendly 'face' though.


:D Do aspies make good friends or do they tend to repel each other rather than attract?


That depends on the individuals involved. Just like in any relationship.


Is that what your experience has shown? Have you had many aspie friends?



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08 May 2013, 4:22 pm

CAL_1138 wrote:
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whirlingmind wrote:
Well I guess you are in the USA, so you are too far away for me to become your real friend. I can be an online friendly 'face' though.


:D Do aspies make good friends or do they tend to repel each other rather than attract?


That depends on the individuals involved. Just like in any relationship.


Is that what your experience has shown? Have you had many aspie friends?


I'm friendly with a few, but not close friends. To be fair I haven't really met a lot of aspies. I was good friends with a guy that was a possible aspie at school, but we have since lost touch.



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08 May 2013, 4:27 pm

UDG wrote:
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CAL_1138 wrote:
whirlingmind wrote:
Well I guess you are in the USA, so you are too far away for me to become your real friend. I can be an online friendly 'face' though.


:D Do aspies make good friends or do they tend to repel each other rather than attract?


That depends on the individuals involved. Just like in any relationship.


Is that what your experience has shown? Have you had many aspie friends?


I'm friendly with a few, but not close friends. To be fair I haven't really met a lot of aspies. I was good friends with a guy that was a possible aspie at school, but we have since lost touch.


It seems to me aspies would not make great friends if they are both stereotypical aspies.. I was friends with someone I think could be an aspie and we did not have very good chemistry it seemed like we were too much alike. That;s why I thought opposites might attract more.



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08 May 2013, 4:31 pm

CAL_1138 wrote:
UDG wrote:
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whirlingmind wrote:
Well I guess you are in the USA, so you are too far away for me to become your real friend. I can be an online friendly 'face' though.


:D Do aspies make good friends or do they tend to repel each other rather than attract?


That depends on the individuals involved. Just like in any relationship.


Is that what your experience has shown? Have you had many aspie friends?


I'm friendly with a few, but not close friends. To be fair I haven't really met a lot of aspies. I was good friends with a guy that was a possible aspie at school, but we have since lost touch.


It seems to me aspies would not make great friends if they are both stereotypical aspies.. I was friends with someone I think could be an aspie and we did not have very good chemistry it seemed like we were too much alike. That;s why I thought opposites might attract more.


May be you should "ask the group", i.e. start a new thread on this topic, to get a broader range of experiences.



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08 May 2013, 4:41 pm

UDG wrote:
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I was friends with someone I think could be an aspie and we did not have very good chemistry it seemed like we were too much alike. That;s why I thought opposites might attract more.


May be you should "ask the group", i.e. start a new thread on this topic, to get a broader range of experiences.


That's a great idea.. I have been up for awhile now though and am starting to crash mentally. Maybe that's why people are getting annoyed with me too. :/ But maybe I can ask everyone about that later.



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08 May 2013, 7:09 pm

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Why can't people help but to shoot the messenger?

Here's why -

http://www2.tech.purdue.edu/cgt/courses ... _power.htm

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Think as you like but Behave like others

If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness.



Why is that though? I don't know.. probably the same reason aspies are attacked.. sad we do the same to ourselves..


People aren't going against you for unconventional ideas. They are irked that you asked for advice and then don't listen to the responses they give you.


I have never understood this myself. Just because people give advice why is the person whom receives the advice obligated to listen to it and follow it? Would Barack Obama take advice and follow advice from every member of his cabinet every single time?



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08 May 2013, 7:46 pm

See my post on the original thread.


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08 May 2013, 8:00 pm

CAL_1138 wrote:
But I need someone to show me that they are a good investment too... it works both ways.. that's the problem...

All I need is one person who is capable of helping.. then I can begin that process of "proving myself"...


I believe...........PM me.



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08 May 2013, 10:48 pm

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See my post on the original thread.


Great points. Thank you. would you be interested in working in a group with me and helping organize this? I am not certain we would do this but maybe we could mull it over and think about it?

Maybe if we put enough people together we could combine our abilities to get this done?