Adult Aspie Meltdowns

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Great explanation, sums it up better than I could.

All of that ^^

Meltdowns or overload don't always present the same, they are highly dependent on the trigger and the environment. Sometime I become unable to talk or register what is being said, or hear myself talk even. There are times when I also become physically unable to move. In the latter there is this unbearable feeling of choice, it comes down to letting whatever is going on go on and telling myself, okay make the choice, get up go to X location and remove yourself from this situation, rise above the overload, stay true to your deeper intentions and take action. The later is made more difficult when other people in the situation are requiring or often demanding a response or condemning or criticizing on a misinterpretation... often it is because they themselves are in a state of overload so it can become a catch 22. It takes everyone working together to recognize their own triggers and others and work together to come up with solutions when meltdowns/overload arise. Near always easier said than done though.

We can only control ourselves, and when someone else is trying to control or coerce you into doing something when you need processing time before consent/action can be given it is difficult. But recognizing that one is in control of oneself and surrounding yourself with people who recognize they are only in control of themselves often helps because these people I find are better in meltdown mediation. They know their own limits and can assist others based on lessons learned from their own self-awareness. As we have to learn to do our best as well.

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False acuseings, that I do it on purpose
or that EVERYTHING you do is on purpose,
that makes me screama and throw things.

When some stupid poopyhole is mean to me
I scream 'SHUTTUP!!' at them or call them
a dirty old poopyhole.

Then the stupids just say "Oh you can control iit if you want to"

duhhhh

Ok, dumbutt, I will just get my magic switch and
just click it right off!

Then another meltdown happens later,
GEE, MY MAGIC SWITCH DIDN'T WORK!!

Why??

For me it's most often seen by others as an anger management issue.

Yes, me too. I've been told to "not take things so hard" so many times, and that I have to learn to control myself better. Ha. No one understands that 99% of the time I exercise more control over myself than most NT's would ever have to, and that's just to get through the day looking like a well-adjusted adult.

My favorite comment after I had (what I now know was a) meltdown was from my Mother who said "if you can't handle little things and you react this badly, how will you ever be able to handle the big things in life?"

Pretty well, actually. Pretty well.