Do you chat with the people that are cutting your hair?

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18 Jul 2013, 5:45 pm

<--- Cuts his own hair because he's a cheapskate.



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18 Jul 2013, 5:46 pm

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This drives me crazy, every hairdresser always wants to know if I'm going out that night, I'm not, I just need my hair cutting because I just do.

Tried making appointments only for Tuesdays or Wednesdays, still i get the same questions

No Idea how I'm supposed to respond to any of this I don't care for these nights out they speak of.



I usually just say that's not my kind of thing (in maybe not quite those words). If they ask me what I do (for a job/career) which is a kinda common thing they ask I just say what I used to do and say I'm not in work now or if i'm college I say that. When they see me they remember and ask how things are going rather than asking the same questions, but they did in my other barbers because they had more people working there (and they didn't always remember me).



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18 Jul 2013, 6:15 pm

Only if asked questions. Same thing with taxi drivers. I just rarely find myself interested in small talk so it maybe slightly awkward, but I prefer it to inane chatter!



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18 Jul 2013, 6:31 pm

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I can't seem to do this at all. I don't know what to talk about, and everything I can think of has probably been discussed loads of times already.

So I just stay mainly silent. I'm not rude or anything, but I probably creep them out because I'm so silent most of the time. I'm not unfriendly (a bit nervous perhaps), just really reserved.


The same woman has been cutting my hair for well over ten years. I'm quite comfortable with her, so we generally talk about things going on in our lives.

That being said, I think it depends a bit on what you want. I mean, if you don't want to talk, go ahead. I see lots of people getting their hair cut (probably a lot of NTs) and remaining silent. It might feel weird, but, from my experience, it's not uncommon. Also, I think it depends upon the situation. Are you having the same person cut your hair, does it varry between a group of people, or is a different person every time? I can understand you not wanting to converse if it's the latter - though I can in the other circumstances too.

Maybe just try to reduce the awkwardness by just trying to get a conversation going with the person. Ask how they're doing, if they've done anything interesting lately - stuff like that that relates to them. I think anything you can do to get them talking might be good. After that, they might even want to keep the conversation going, taking the pressure off you.



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18 Jul 2013, 6:36 pm

Oh this is the funnest part!
I chat up my hairdressers like crazy! Even if they're guys.
The scariest part is that I usually have them laughing so hard and often, I'm get worried about them really hacking up my hair.
Or my ears.
If you practice Anchoring in the conversation you can really get some funny witty stuff going on. It's a hoot!


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18 Jul 2013, 6:41 pm

Seeing how everyone in the profession seems to always want to strike a conversation up, it would be rude not to. Not ideal, but I'll do it and I honestly don't mind once I get into it.



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18 Jul 2013, 6:49 pm

I don't like getting my hair cut; too many sensory issues and I just plain don't like someone hovering around and over me like that, especially with scissors and the annoying buzzing of electric shears.
I go to a barber about once a month, never a hair stylist because I want it done QUICK. Quick and good are the goal but I'll take quick over good any day because I want to get out of there.
I can do small talk as long as the barber isn't nosy and doesn't ask too many personal details.

My two never fail personal observations about barbers:
-Women barbers always take way too much time which is the exact opposite of what I want. I'm there to have my hair shortened by a barber, not to have it be endlessly picked at by a monkey.
-Old barbers ask too many questions: Your from around here? Live around here? Where do you work? What do you do there? Who's your favorite football team? Do you like to fish? etc, etc. It's a hair cut, not a Gestapo interrogation. :roll:


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18 Jul 2013, 7:10 pm

I have a nice lady that perms my hair and I talk to her, she likes to talk about her pets so we have a nice conversation about our pets.



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18 Jul 2013, 7:36 pm

Yeah, I don't either, though I don't talk during a haircut, I find it difficult as there's difficulty in doing so. Often distracted by the sound cutting hair make and such. Otherwise short and to the point answers to limit the conversation somewhat.


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18 Jul 2013, 7:43 pm

I don't like to. I think hair stylists think everyone wants to talk. I would rather just shut my eyes and relax and enjoy being pampered. I might watch if it's my first time in their chair, because I've had them pull some fast ones before. Cutting off all my hair, dying it a color they chose, etc.

I don't know them and I am not there to talk.



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18 Jul 2013, 7:44 pm

Hairdressers give up on chatting with me after about 2 minutes.


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18 Jul 2013, 8:29 pm

No, I don't get the point of those conversations. It's difficult to express myself verbally as it is and I don't get what they need that information about me for. I'm growing out my hair now, anyway; I cut it off before in a bout of exam-preempted anxiety.


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18 Jul 2013, 8:44 pm

I believe many hairdressers are told to chat it up with their customers, on the NT notion that the customer will fell better with the experience and give repeat business and higher tips.



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18 Jul 2013, 8:45 pm

I have been going to the same person almost all my life. she knows how I want my haircut she also knows about my aspergers through my mom. sometimes she asks me questions but not much she mostly just talks about herself.



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18 Jul 2013, 8:58 pm

My main criteria for choosing a hairdresser is the ability to cut my hair properly. One time a young lady (Miss X) managed to do an excellent job and seemed friendly/chatty enough so I made a mental note to request her when I booked my next appointment.

A few months later I booked an appointment (well in advance) with Miss X at the same Salon. When I turned up I was told Miss X was away today and somebody else ended up cutting my hair. About 30 minutes after my hair cult I passed the same salon to buy some groceries. I was shocked to see Miss X turn up and was cutting somebody else's hair!!

A couple of months later I booked an appointment with Miss X. When I turned up at the salon she wasn't there and somebody else cut my hair. I sneaked back a couple of hours later and sure enough there was Miss X!! !

I confronted the owner of the Salon the next day and asked why when I booked Miss X over the phone there was no issue but when I turned up for my appointment she would conveniently vanish? It turned out that Miss X was concerned that I was showing too much interest in her when I talked! what the fck! I said I was married and only booked Miss X because I was happy with her service!!

Needless to say I no longer talk to my hairdressers...



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18 Jul 2013, 9:02 pm

IF they start a conversation, I try my best to participate (i.e. I answer their questions). I remain silent otherwise.


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