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Do you want to have children someday?
Yes, I'm a man and I want children someday 10%  10%  [ 5 ]
Yes, I'm a man and I want to have children as soon as possible 2%  2%  [ 1 ]
I'm a man and I already have children 4%  4%  [ 2 ]
I'm a woman who is interested in seeing the results of this poll and resulting comments 22%  22%  [ 11 ]
I'm a man, and I'm undecided/not sure if I want children 8%  8%  [ 4 ]
No, I'm a man, and I don't want children 55%  55%  [ 28 ]
Total votes : 51

SheldonGC
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27 Jul 2013, 12:05 pm

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I decided as the lone father so far, i need to say a few things to some of the responses.

yes you are rolling the genetic dice of passing on your genetic (or spouses) genetic problems. that's just not our problem, that's societies problem as a whole. I do not view this as a reason not to have kids, there is just as good chance that your child will be perfectly healthy and not have the genetic abnormalities (i hate that phrase can someone fix that for me) that some of us have.

to those who have issues with babies, your offspring doesn't stay a baby for long. my son is 4y/o he have very small set of needs compared to 3 years ago. But believe it or not, my son knows that i am not like all the other daddies and that I'm special which he states "makes my daddy the best daddy in the world". I think the love i get from my son makes all the stinky diapers and midnight feedings worth it.

For those men who do not want kids at all and are still in their teens and 20s, let me say this. Do not close off the idea completely please, I think the fact that you are hesitant and considered already about the welfare of a possible offspring automatically will make you a good father.


I'm glad you felt it was worth it. :)

My feeling is, though a baby would be stressful, I think it would be too stressful on me period, even after the child would get a little older. There's so much involved, and it would be hard on me knowing that there's a child that is depending on me, it's stressful enough just being myself, but having that much responsibility would make it even worse.



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27 Jul 2013, 12:07 pm

rdos wrote:
Aspies needs to get children so we get new Aspies in the next generation, so just get at it. :mrgreen:

And don't come with the "they will be badly treated" argument, as better treatment requires a sizable population that can argue about their human rights.



Having Asperger's doesn't necessarily mean that your children will as well. I do think that an Aspie parent could understand an Aspie child much better.

Who knows, once I'm in a stable relationship for a while, I might consider adopting an Aspie, and creating a family of wonderful weirdness. :D



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27 Jul 2013, 12:56 pm

At this point, no way! I don't want my child to have to go through what I've gone through. A lot of times I wish that I was never born though, because I can't do things that I want to do in life. I think everybody deserves to be happy, and having aspergers diminishes those possibilities IMO



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27 Jul 2013, 10:47 pm

Most certainly not, could risk child getting same or worse that i have it. Just not a nice life to live.

Also i have enough trouble taking care of my self. I wouldn even know where to start with a kid.

I mean sure i could feet it, and everything, like everything i do with a pet. but other than that ?. It wouldn work.

But it can be interesting to think about, how life would be different if one had a kid. Maybe me in another reality gets a kid. I hope he does a good job.



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28 Jul 2013, 1:53 am

I seem to be in the minority, here, but I DO want kids! I love kids, and believe what the Bible says about them being a gift from God! :D
I want to be a dad, and am currently raising two pups that I have been caring for since they were roughly a week old. They are both healthy and strong, so I believe I could be a good dad, and pray I will be, some sweet day! :wink:


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28 Jul 2013, 2:34 am

I CAN'T have children.


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28 Jul 2013, 9:10 am

I never wanted kids. I am 38 and never married or had kids, and I prefer to keep it that way. In 2008 I made an appointment to get fixed, but my mom found out and forced me to cancel. So, since I can't get fixed, I have decided on celibacy. I can't take care of myself, I can't support myself and live on SSI, there's no way I could support a family. Plus my kids would likely have mental/neurological problems and I can't bear the thought of doing that to somebody who had no say in the matter. On top of that, I believe that civilization will soon end and I can't bear the thought of condemning a kid to slow starvation.



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28 Jul 2013, 12:55 pm

pezar wrote:
I never wanted kids. I am 38 and never married or had kids, and I prefer to keep it that way. In 2008 I made an appointment to get fixed, but my mom found out and forced me to cancel.


just my two cents:

i'm sure your mom loves you very much, but you're an adult -- therefore, she can't "force" you to do anything. besides which, it's none of her business.

if you want to get fixed, get fixed...and you just might change your mind about celibacy. :)