Annoying things people do to you because you have aspergers.

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The two biggest issues I have against people who know I have an ASD are: (1) They assume that my successes must be the results of pure luck; and (2) They tell me that I should either (a) shut up about my successes, or (b) somehow share the benefits of my successes with other people who have ASDs.

I don't particuarlly like being touched, but I can tolerate it.

What I can't tolerate is someone purposefully grabbing my arm because they know it bothers me.

I often find that people take me for a ride.For example people will tell me things that aren't true and laugh at my readiness to believe it.People often talk down to me like I don't even know whats going on around me.These thing mostly happen at work though thankfully not often.

Yeah. Some of my friends have done so a few times until the most receptive of them said, "enough".

I have this one courier driver who seems to detect something is "off" about me. She seems to have this inclination to talk down to me like I am slow. Nobody at work knows about me being on the spectrum and they treat me the same as everyone else. They know they can rely on me to get their parts shipped on time and that when the parts are put on the shipping shelf, they WILL go out. I guess they don't notice my differences because we are all too busy to notice. The talking to me like I'm slow by this courier every time she drops off our parts is quite irritating. I am one of the senior shipper receivers in the whole company and I am not slow at all when it comes to the job. I have also been training new parts guys with warehousing related stuff due to my seniority.

Also, people thinking I can't think for myself. Each time I think of a decision of my own at work, people say, ''you don't need to listen to other people telling you what to do'', and I'm like, ''um, no, I thought of this myself and it's what I want to do.''
A few weeks ago I accidentally got another co-worker into trouble, because I had a bad cold and wanted to go home (I shouldn't have come in the first place but I didn't think I was as unwell as I really felt). I asked one of the assistant managers if I could go home and he told me no because he was being unreasonable, and then went and told off a co-worker who I'm closest to, because he thought she was the one behind me wanting to go home, as though I was doing what someone else was telling me, by making out I'm ill. She had to explain that it wasn't her that told me to go home at all, and that I had a bad cold and was my decision to go home.

God, I do wish some idiot hadn't blabbed out to the whole company that I have Asperger's! Now I get taken for someone daft without a mind of my own. I do have more social skills than people think, you know. I'm just too shy to express some of them sometimes.

It's more autism traits, but basically the same thing.

Doing weird things. I won't specify.

Tics. "I'm sorry but can you stop?"

Wandering around.

There are several things that people say to me about my Aspergers that really annoy me.
One - everyone thinks I should be great at maths, I HATE MATHS it has nothing but bad memories for me (I do like statistics though). Science and English were my top subjects.
Two - They seem to think I have to be a reclusive genius at physics or have a love of trains, sorry but physics is very dull to me and so are trains, I prefer ornithology and astronomy.
Three - they all believe that I should talk like a computer and have no emotions. Well I have a hell of a lot of emotions and can change mood very quickly and get upset or excited over things quickly and I have a normal tone of voice and I do swear a lot and use some slang (the woman at the aspergers group often comments that I communicate with others very well).

What is it about Aspergers and maths, I know quite a few aspies and most don't care about maths apart from making change at the supermarket or when catching a bus, its only some that a math wizards but I feel the media focuses on these young prodigies and is distorting the fact that aspies come in all shapes and sizes.

Being told 'you're so cute' when I don't know something obvious or for my eccentric behaviour or for reasons still unclear to me.
Made to feel guilty for not being social by the same person.

People assuming I can't speak, when I really just don't want to talk to them.

My mother-in-law knows I'm intelligent, but she still has a nasty habit of talking real slow, repeating herself often, and assuming that I'm going to explode if I don't agree with her.

My husband uses ASD to dismiss everything I say that he doesn't agree with. If he likes it, it's me talking. If he doesn't, it's the Asperger's.

My BFF is cool as anything when she sober, but when she gets drunk she uses it to humiliate me.

Frankly, the only people who don't treat me any differently are my dad's relatives-- they always knew both of us were a little bit ret*d, and we always fell into that role, so nothing's changed.