Do extremely social extroverted people make you sick?

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Oh my God, I was going to make a thread asking this question a couple of days ago. I've been feeling the EXACT same way you do about those really extroverted types. I don't mean people who are just the chatty type. I mean those really popular people who have got 100% self-confidence, and they look down on shy introverts like me and sound so condescending when they speak to me. I'm not saying all extreme extroverts are nasty people. Some are nice, but I feel like they're above me, and all their mind is on is social, social, social. Like, really social, where they really hate time to themselves and the only time they aren't socialising with at least one person is when they're asleep. Otherwise, most people whom I talk to (well, everybody I talk to really, as I don't hang out with any extreme extroverts) all say they like to be alone sometimes, some even say they love being on their own at least once a day. But these extreme extroverts are just too annoying. Maybe I'm just jealous of them. I probably am. I'd rather be annoying than be annoyed.

My brother is extremely extroverted and ultra confident on the outside, but in a sharing moment he told me that it is incredibly tiring and stressful to keep up but something he needs to do. I'm more introverted, like my own space and reading, hobby programming (come up as aloof in tests), but probably less stressed because of this and old enough now that I don't care

We do value the individual in the U.S. and there is good and bad in that. You really hit the nail on the head in some ways, but there were no "good old days". The periods in history when values were more collectivist were also the times when horrendous discrimination was the status quo. There was a time the only "peers" that were on juries were white males, a man beating the s**t out of his wife or kids was considered private family business, all members of any non white group could be assaulted and murdered and there were no consequences. The view that individuals mattered helped move this country to recognize civil rights. It's the mob mentality present in every group that is the problem, and I can't help but think when I am in situations when some socially adept, pushy idiot goes along unchallenged by those who disagree but keep their mouths shut as the real problem. But then again, I can be pretty simply minded in my views, and part of that is that ONE person calling "BS" can make a difference. LOL

yes. i cannot stand socialites.

Yes. Drives me to the edge of mean, and past. I can't be around people who are like that for more than a few minutes.

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No, I'm fine with them as long as there's an occasional break.

Curiously enough, on three different jobs, I've gotten along best with co-workers who were very extraverted, almost my opposite number. Typically, they would talk, and I would listen. They got along with almost every other co-worker as well, and also with customers. They picked up on my introverted personality, and did much to make me feel comfortable. It was all genuine, though. I really enjoyed working with them.

On the other hand, I have had co-workers who, like me, were very introverted and shared many personality traits with me, and who took an instant dislike to me.

So go figure!

Feel that urge, urge to hide under a desk, run away as fast as I can etc.

A certain amount of social extrovertion is okay with me, but too much to the point where they're the only one talking and making noise just aggravates me.

Another sort of person that is difficult to deal with is the hyper-energetic people who have little to no intellect. The types that are always frenetically busy and pass judgment on you or other things without attempting to understand at anything past a superficial level. People who are dismissive before they understand. Some have no clue that they even should understand something or someone.

So long as I am not forced to be in close quarters for long periods of time with these people, I believe pretty much in just letting them be who they are. If they refrain from passing judgment on me for being different, I can actually respect them quite a bit, despite the difficulty of being in their company.

I like some extroverted people but those that do fake laughs all the time and interrupt every conversation to point out that the exact same thing has happened to them (literally every time you make a point!) irritate me intensely.

There's a woman who works in my company, in another department so I don't see her often. I have been on a few social outings with her though and see her in elevators, etc. She is always very friendly to me and I have never had a problem with her, but she has some kind of energy that is like a physical force that actually invades my body. I've heard from other people in her department that she is the alpha there and will cause trouble for people if they don't treat her as such, I'm always really glad I'm not in that department! It's a weird world!

I think you just took something too far.... I think he was simply concentrating on the fact that at one time in the U.S. extroversion wasn't praised as much as it is now....

Yes. They all seem phony to me. I picture them all being secretly quite miserable when alone so when around others, they use each other as props to display their fake and exaggerated love for each other.

Another thing I am starting to understand is the dynamics of mob behavior. I could never figure groups out before, but now it's almost as if there is a "collective consciousness" when mobs (I use that term very lightly - groups of extremely extraverted people) all act the same way, even if what they are doing is against their convictions or stupid.

Being autistic, I have always been an indivdualist and so could never grasp why people did silly things when in large high pressure groups.

No, because I can be one at times. Part of it is due to having to interact with a lot of people on a daily basis.