What gives the biggest "Zuzz" (a warm tingly feeling) is rubbing round and around with a single finger at the back of my head.
When I am overwhelmed I often unconsciously start to poke the side of my nose, or to tap & twiddle both of my ears with the fingers of both hands.
Today I was very overwhelmed by trying to put into an order the seperate things I needed to do to complete a task. The result was that I automatically stabbed the non-ink end of the pen I was using to write the list against my leg in a repetitive "click, click, click, click....and so on". The only thing I can suppose is that the rythym brought order. Thankfully I was with a support worker at the time, and she advised me to take a time-out; which I did. I felt calmer afterwards, and with her help I was able to write a list of the seperate tasks I need to do in order to complete the task.
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We, the people on the Autistic Spectrum have a choice.
We can either try to "fit in" with the rest of society, or we can be so egocentric that we can't be bothered.
I choose the actor. I observe NT's. I listen to their socializing. I practice it, so in social situations I can just emulate/mimic what is expected.
It isn't natural for me, but it enables me to "fit in".
It is VERY tiring and draining, but at least we can appear like them even though it is an act. Like being on the stage.
They can't see it is emulation, and so we are accepted.