Christmas party disaster

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Hi just need to get this out my head , I have been feeling a lot more part of things in my work recently and decided to up the Christmas party but I got really drunk and up dancing with a young boy in my team and rubbing against him and stuff and now I have been torturing myself for days about it. In my head now I think my while work hates me and that I might get sacked but realistically I was only dancing but why have I turned this into a complete nightmare in my head the party was a week ago and inhabit slept since with worry, not sure if this is aspergers related but just needed somewhere to talk about it, I think everyone thinks I'm weird and maybe trying to chase this young guy now. I have two kids and a husband I feel like everyone hates me now. Sorry just had to get this out of my head

It's never a good idea to get involved with anyone with whom you work.

It's also a good idea to avoid getting drunk at any kind of a company function. Even if nothing happens, just being drunk can raise doubts about you in the minds of your higher ups and could be a career limiting move. That is, you might not lose your job but your opportunities for advancement would be very limited or non-existing.

Not sure what you mean by young boy, or how old you are relative to him, but if they haven't said anything in a week it seems like they won't.

Those parties are so hard, I got sooo drunk at one of mine this year too, it was too hard to just be myself. At the Christmas party I made myself limit it, but I didn't have much fun!! I feel for ya.

Anyway, was this boy happy about how the dance proceeded? That's probably your best clue to the impression you made on the people watching.

Chances are nothing will come of it. You might get teased some but that will likely be the end of it. You're not the first to drink too much at a Christmas party and you won't be the last.

I've some good news for you: These feelings are all you. You can stop the discomfort of these thoughts any time you choose.

I've seen quite a few Christmas Parties in my time. What you describe is perfectly normal behavior.

Also note that if you were hammered, most of the other people there were, too. Those who weren't are likely in the category of "different thinkers." They tend to not be as judgmental. Don't get me wrong, you can get the occasional NT who is in a 12-step program, or just people who don't drink. But the perfectly sober people had a lot of drunk people entertaining them, not just you. You were one data point among many.

And as for the young man, I don't even need to hear his side of the story, he had a great time. I promise.

You've nothing to feel bad or awkward about. You can file that one away as a fun--not embarrassing!--experience.

Like you said: You was only dancing.

I can't see anyone having any kind of issue with you, you was drunk. You are not the first and you surely will not be the last.

Please stop torturing yourself. You are entitled to have a good time, and for that you should not feel guilty.

best wishes

bb

I have a method where if something is bothering me, I will study a tax book and next to it keep a blank piece of paper. This is when I was studying taxes, but I imagine any dry, rather technical subject will do. The book and the studying helps to calm and center me.

And then I will write 0, 1, 2, or 3 things of what I wish I had done differently or might do differently next time. And I write only one or two sentences for each one. That is I deliberately underdo this. And if I need another brief session later, so be it.

Thanks for all your replies it's just so helpful to write stuff on here to get it out if my head and I've told my partner exactly what happened but don't want to keep going on about it but I've created a while story in my head where I'm the laughing stock of my whole work. Also at the end of the night a guy that has worked in the same company as me for years but I've never spoke to much (no surprises with my social anxiety) said to me is that you out creeping again? What does he mean by this? I've never had an affair in my life so do I give people the creeps?? It's turned me into an emotional wreck when I should be enjoying my little ones Christmas!

For the record the boy is 26 I'm 38

Also reading that back I have 3 kids that's how wasted nub head is

I got drunk at a Christmas party once and helped one of the cute (also drunk) girls from the sales department make copies of her boobs on the Xerox machine.

I only found out later that she was also the owner's girlfriend.

Oh god I'm still having anxiety over this! I go back to work tomorrow and I just can't bare the thought I've hardly slept for a fortnight with stress, I've had a few dreams about the night out now and I can't tell if I'm remembering something I dreamt or if it really happened now, think I might be going insane I feel sick and my chest is sore . Don't know who to talk to