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I've been depressed since 2007, for one reason or another. Right now, I find myself isolated. I've been told that I have to learn to love myself. That sounds like a correct analysis of one of my issues. I cannot get up in the morning because my thought is that I have to drag myself through the day. Some of the websites I've looked at about learning to love yourself tell you to find something positive about yourself and keep doing it. I know some of my positive traits, but I don't see anyone else knowing or caring about them. As far as I am concerned, I could be the most beautiful woman in the word or a genius like Einstein, but nobody else cares. I am a bit (OK, a lot) at a loss here.

I would try to find a interest that takes you outside. Like one girl here loves geology. I love sports. Sometimes when I can't find motivation within myself I get outside and my whole perspective changes. Also not being so self focused can help too.

Are you still depressed when you're not as isolated?

Isolation makes lots of people depressed. Interaction with other people seems to be crucial for happiness for most people.

I think I get what you're saying, it makes perfect sense to me. If no one notices who I am or what I am, then I feel pointless. (this isn't quite the same as worthless...worthless implies to me that I have nothing no one wants, whereas pointless means I'm not offering anyone anything, although I might have the ability to)
I mean, in an extreme case, like, if humanity were to all die tomorrow except for me, the only point I would see in living and trying to stay alive would be to honor everyone else who is dead, to remember what people were and are, maybe try and save information about humanity so that some other species, alien or evolved on earth, would know people existed.
See, I couldn't even keep on living without including other people in that, without thinking about others. What's the point of loving myself if there's only me around?

People aren't the only social animals. Porpoises are supposed to be more 'group' oriented than people are.


Are you truly isolated? You've posted here, haven't you :-)

I am isolated myself and a little depressed because it seems I am unable to to connect with people in the way that I wanted too. I didn't want to connect with everyone but I had hoped to find just one person, perhaps a life partner, I could form a deep connection with.

It is looking as though I may never be able to do that (form that conection I am looking for).

At the same time I figure if that is the case then I might as well have fun whilst I am here and enjoy learning all the things I want to learn. I enjoy fiddling around with my little projects (I have several on the go...a weight loss program, learning to play piano and organising my needle crafts collection as well as pondering decorating the bungalow I rent) so they can take my mind off things. I will get upset if, for whatever, reason I can't fiddle around with them though.

Oh and I am also learning to knit and collecting Evgeny Kissin videos and Norman Wisdom films.

Youtube has lots to download.

How do people reply by using the "quote" link? I've been trying to by clicking on it and logging in, and then I get a message that no post was specified.

Can you have a pet? They give people the unconditional love and companionship that is so hard to find from people. Rescue animals especially.

And a dog gives you a reason to get up and go outside everyday, they have to be walked. Plus when you walk your dog it opens a door for social interaction, people love dogs and it gives them something to talk about.

I apologize if this offends you but are you deep-down trying to avoid taking responsibility for yourself?