are aspie women more social

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I am better at socializing because I force myself to be social because it is required. But, when not feeling pressure to act I revert to my normal aspie, alone self. I would say women are better at faking it and using more tools but not necessarily MORE social than aspie men.

I hear they are so that is the reason why they don't get diagnosed as often as males.

I do go to my groups, I like going out with my mother, I like to be with my family whenever we are on trips, I do go to places sometimes. But when I am with people, I am just sitting there doing my own thing while everyone else is sitting there and talking and visiting. Whenever I go out, it's with my family or with my son or me going out to get something I need. I am not going out to talk to strangers or look for a chit chat on the train or in stores.

I'm not sure.

Personally, I like being around other people, but at the same time I get a lot of social anxiety, so my instinct is to squirrel myself away. But I can be social and I am attentive to other people's needs.

Nope, not this one.

But I'm not particularly much of a woman, anyway. More androgyne.

I'm home all the time. Socializing usually consists of my boys, my husband, and gran turismo 6.

I'm an adult, diagnosed, female aspie. I do not socialize. At all. Nor do I want to, and I am old enough that nobody can really make me, either.

Edited to add: I am married. Husband is allowed to have friends, but don't drag me into it - no "couple's night" or whatever it is that NT's do.

I am thinking it depends on the individual...I would certainly like to go out and do things more than I do, but not so sure it has anything to do with being female. I just get bored of being in the same setting such as 'at home' for too long. I also do like meeting/talking to people but it sort of depends on the people I can get quite uncomfortable around new people as well.

I actually enjoy chit chat once in a while. I just don't enjoy it with people my age.

I am not sure they necessarily are more social, but I think they are over all better at faking social skills than their male counterparts - I think they have more of a natural feel to the social situation, including that they are different, than males.

This would be quite natural, too, given that the female sex is the one giving birth.

I do not think a female aspie could have gone for so long as I did without noticing their profound difference more clearly - I kept thinking I still just needed more time for growing up and getting used to the social scene, I was not aware of my completely different nature, although I feel I did have a clue. I have felt that the female aspies I have met were more aware (of the consequences of the condition), but I never really understood until later.

I don't understand how some of you ladies have no social life,and still
manage to find a husband. were you social before you meet your husband.

lesbian here, I met a womon, she decided she liked me & she and I went out for pie with a friend of hers one night, after that she kept coming and talking to me for a few weeks & that is how we became partners, the relationship lasted until she died. I have not even dated since then - 11 years now , I keep putting myself out there and trying but it does not seem to work, my unnaturalness and poor social skills always mess things up.

I'm not married but I was a bit more social when I was younger. I wouldn't approach people I didn't know but I had a childhood friend or two that I would do things with like go to the bar or walk their dogs with them. The couple of boyfriends I had did the approaching and were the ones that kept up the contact until they took off.

Hot. `-`


It's like that scene in the first Ghostbusters movie: Women are the Gatekeepers (Zuul) and men tend to come their way (Venkman) and the woman gets to choose who to let in--i.e. the Keymaster (Gozer). That's kind of the current general order of the dating world at the moment, and it's a little easier on women. It made a steady transition to there from a very different system (where women were quite marginalized) over the course of the 1900s. >_>

I met my husband in high school, freshman year. I dated him and some other guys. Same went for him, only he dated girls. We got married in 2001, the year after I graduated.
Last time I had a job was in 2005. That was only for two months though. Before and after that job, I was/am home with our kids.
So, yes, I was social before I met my husband.

He chose me. I accepted him. We met at a vocational training course, and I had a small dog that I had to let out and walk at every break in the classwork. He loves dogs and that was his excuse to talk to me. Next thing I know, he's just sort of there every time I turn around, and at the end of training course he asked me to marry him. If we'd gone our separate ways, we'd never seen each other again, so I said 'yes'. and we've been together almost 20 years.

I met my husband in Sunday School (young single adult class, 18-35yo). He spoke little to no English at the time, but the Spanish language church he attended had no single women in his age bracket, only teens and women in their late 30's, and of course married women. He had a Puerto Rican friend who attended my class and knew I spoke Spanish. (I think I was required to introduce myself and tell about myself the first time I attended, and I would have said that I had just graduated college with a double major in Spanish & Special Education: Hearing Impaired, because I have no idea what else I could have said in response to "tell us about yourself". I don't really remember much about that class, though, since it was about 23 years ago.) The friend brought him to our class, and asked me to sit with Rene (my husband) in church since the friend was in the band or choir. After church, he asked me for a date, and about a year later we were married.

I was a little more social before I got married---I went to church on Sunday morning (Sunday School & church), Sunday night, and Wednesday night. I also went to work, and to the library once a week. Over the years for various reasons that has dwindled to just Sunday morning church and weekly library. Oh, and weekly grocery store. That is pretty much the sum total of my socialization, though this year I have been taking my daughter to a monthly teen homeschool meeting, which has a socialization segment at the end. Pretty much I sit or stand at the fringes during that part and watch people talking. Sometimes someone talks with me.