when did school become difficult for you socially?

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Wow, what a huge issue this has been for me through my entire life!! I voted "first-grade", because I can't remember anything particularly unpleasant before then. "Weird" was the word basically tatooed to me by my classmates since first grade. I just went with it, and decided to take it as a compliment, even though I hadn't been deliberately weird in any way when branded with that name. Thankfully, I was also called "funny" consistently as well. (In a good way, referring to my sense of humor.) Back then, being called "Pee Wee Herman" was a compliment.

Pretty much the same as me.

I never interacted with the other kids, not even before kindergarden.
When i started in school(age 6) i sat by myself and drew or building towers of lego.
Now i`m the "looner" in my class, i don`t like social stuff, not even just "hanging" with my friends i dislike.
Some kids hang with me, but i don`t hang with them really and i have too put on a big act too seem "normal" and tell alot of whitelies too protect my secrets of beeing depressed, going too a pshycologhist and put excuse for not too hang with them.

PE - ewwwwww

i can exel in just about anything academicly but absolutely cannot do PE type activities. and i was also almost always picked last..

I don't mind being picked last. I knew I wasn't too good and wasn't ashamed of it. Besides, at least I always knew who my teammates could be.

School was always pretty difficult for me, regardless of how old I was. The only changes were the ages of the people bullying me...

In kindergarten, I had issues because I didn't speak English.

In junior high, I was bullied by some very big, very mean, people.

I did well in high school.

I kept to myself in college and graduate school. I believed I was there to work and keep my grades up, rather than party, which branded me as weird.

I believe my way was the right way. Even though I am nothing close to being at the level of a Roger Bannister, I have done all right for myself. A lot of the people who bullied me in the earlier grades are likely dead today.

I was aware of my differences when I was about 5 years old but I wouldnt say it was socially difficult. I dont think there was any pressure to socialize at that age so didnt even notice I was a loner back then and didnt know till talking to my mum a few weeks ago.

Being a loner did become socially difficult at about 12 years old when I went to secondary school because all of a sudden the rules changed and on top of that I was forced to go to a different school than all my friends. Fitting in suddenly mattered and you had to have the right clothing, look normal, behave normal and be able to fight for yourself. So like Cernunnos I also never recovered.

My life was great before secondary school.

Ironically, even though Roger Bannister enjoyed the academic aspects of school and was at an accelerated level, he reported suffering social difficulties. Other students made fun of him because he liked to study and he would get nervous headaches accompanied by "attacks of violent sickness." He found a way to fit in by running and winning his school's cross-country event.

One of my favorite sayings is, "It is a universal adolescent feeling, trying to find one's place. The adolescent who is perfectly adjusted to his/her environment, I have yet to meet." Roger Bannister spoke from personal experience.

His story is comforting to me. Although I know, at 42, I could never achieve "world class" status in something as Roger Bannister did, his story and example motivate me to go on.

For me it was fourth grade, because that's when all the other kids decided to have "mature" interests (like Britney Spears and MTV) when I still watched Nickelodeon. Plus that's when a lot of the true harrassment started that has yet to stop. Trust me, it's been the exact same crap for eight years straight... At least in my district people have no idea about it (since they think I'm straight from Texas- long story), but if I venture off into my old districts, they do it as soon as they see the chance.

I started having trouble in preschool.
Most noticably from the teacher who subjected me to weird punishments and whatnot...
I was pretty social in kindergarten, but only got along with the boys.....things got progressively worse from there.....1st thru 7th grade were pretty traumatic....came a bit out of the fog around 8th grade...but overcompensating for my lack of normal socialization got me in trouble in various ways....basicly the whole school experience totally sucked....I went to community college for a while..but it seemed rather pointless confusing and expensive.....so I didn't last long.

There appears to be a definite peak in 5th grade.

5th grade sounds about right.... it's around then that I actually got with it enough to notice I was different. School was downhill from there.

Whenever people ask me about my school experiences, I would always emphatically state that IT SUCKED! I remember school being rough from the start

I preferred playing alone and reading, and I remember one of my first teachers expressed some concern that I wasn't mixing socially with the other kids. Unfortunately I switched schools later - a much larger one - and it passed unnoticed. It was no-one's fault; it was just merely unfavourable circumstances [lots of kids, not enough teachers].

I think from around the middle of primary school and onwards, I found myself struggling with social interactions. I was quite confused by people. From my perspective, one moment I would have friends, next moment my friends have moved on and have abandoned me. As a child, I think the underlying issue was I couldn't grasp the concept that people would change and have different interests. Plus, I had a tendency to explode which wasn't conducive for making friends

I hated group work and break times, because I would find myself completely alone.

I also had a particularly rough time during the beginning of high school as I still couldn't control myself and I was quite socially backward. I remember being harassed and excluded; the latter hurt more.

I had that sensation as well, through most of my school years. At one point I saw myself as an alien observer because I couldn't understand the people around me.

Start of secondary, high; all this new fangled socialising stuff dropped me on the spot. I fell down the hill from here (if I was ever on a hill to begin with that is).

For someone who doesn't speak, is socially ret*d is externally "normal", you can see how this would have been difficult for me....

I never socialized normally, but during my early school years I was perfectly happy with that. Seventh grade is when the social anxiety started.